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Coping with the Loss of a Mother or Father

Losing a parent as a supportive fixture

Losing someone that’s close to you is incredibly difficult, no matter who it is. Losing a parent, however, is a uniquely difficult experience due to the foundation that most parents provide for their children. Coping with the loss of your mother or father can oftentimes be magnified by the fact that many people turn to their parents for help and advice when faced with a difficult situation. If someone has lost both of their parents or parental figures, this can be incredibly destabilizing and can trigger immense feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Finding support after a loss

Looking to your other family members after the loss of a parent is a good way to find support and connect with people experiencing a similar struggle. You can also find comfort in support by joining a support group either online or in person. Search the web for local support groups near you, or find strength in community over at our Grief Center. You can share your experience with others, support people going through a difficult time, and let others know what’s helping you cope with the loss of a mother or the loss of a father.

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Finding comfort in words

It’s difficult to articulate how impactful a parent’s guidance or love can be on one’s life. It may also feel difficult to find comforting words for the death of a father or the death of a mother when you’re searching for ways to express your grief. Many have found journaling to be a therapeutic experience that helps them get their thoughts in order and express their feelings. If reading is more your style compared to writing, consider picking up a book or two about grief, loss, and the loss of a parent. You may find strength in the experience of others and be able to find comfort in knowing you're not alone. If you’re struggling to put your feelings into words, consider reading through some of these quotes.

Quotes about losing a mother

"My mom is a never ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune." — Graycie Harmon

“A mother's love is always with her children. Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know. But her goodness, her caring, and her wisdom live on-like a legacy of love that will always be with you. May that love surround you now and bring you peace.” - Unknown

“Mother's hold their children's hands for a while, but their hearts forever.” - Unknown

“I truly never learned what the words ‘I miss you’ were until I reached for my mom’s hand and it wasn’t there.” - Unknown

“Mothers never really die, they just keep the house up in the sky, They polish the sun by day and light the stars that shine at night, keep the moonbeams silvery bright and in the heavenly home above they wait to welcome those they love.” - Unknown

“Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” - Robert Browning

“Love as powerful as your mother’s for you leaves its own mark. To have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever.” - J. K. Rowling

"Mom, I am missing you today but I know that you will always be with me in my heart ... I am who I am because of your loving hands. I have my sweet and compassionate soul from watching you and your generosity and kindness to others. I see the world full of wonder because of your imagination. I've learned to never give up seeing your drive and perseverance ... I love you always and forever ..." — Karen Kostyla

"Grief and love are conjoined, you don't get one without the other. All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy." - Jandy Nelson

"If I had a flower for every time I thought of you ... I could walk in my own garden forever." - Alfred Tennyson

Quotes about losing a father

“Everything I do in my life I do to make my mum and dad proud. I want to carry on in my dad’s footsteps and make sure that his legacy lives on forever.” - Bindi Irwin

“It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.” - Anne Sexton

“There is no expiration date on the love between a father and his child.” - Jennifer Williamson

“A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.” - Unknown

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could ever give another person. He believed in me.” – Jim Valvano

“My appreciation for my father’s greatness cannot be measured.” – Jennifer Williamson

“This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments – and you get the tears at the end, too.” – Harlan Coben

“When I was a child, all problems had ended with a single word from my father. A smile from him was sunshine, his scowl a bolt of thunder. He was smart, and generous, and honorable without fail. He could exile a trespasser, check my math homework, and fix the leaky bathroom sink, all before dinner. For the longest time, I thought he was invincible. Above the petty problems that plagued normal people. And now he was gone.” – Rachel Vincent

"A father’s love is forever imprinted on his child’s heart." - Jennifer Williamson

"My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it." - Clarence Budington Kelland

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Last updated April 27, 2021
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