I’ve been struggling to find the words that can possibly describe what a loss this has been. Brendan, you were truly a one of a kind person. Anyone who had the pleasure of meeting you knew how much of a kind, curious, thoughtful and genuine person you were. When we met 5 years ago I was at an incredibly low point in my life, trying to figure out how to heal from the painful experiences I had been through and damaging habits I had. Our first conversation we talked a lot about mental health, relationships, our love for metal, Gabor Maté and Jordan Peterson. You inspired me with your pursuit of healing and growing in order to be the best person you could possibly be, and had the best advice and suggestions for podcasts or books in order to help me find my way. You wrote me a beautiful letter after that first time we met which I have treasured dearly ever since. That was the start of a beautiful friendship that I thought I would have with you for the rest of my life. I’m grappling with the fact that I’ll never go to another concert with you, talk on the phone, or have another one of your big bear hugs. I was so excited to continue to watch you grow, find love, have kids, hear about a new job you had started, or a new hobby you picked up or experience you had because you never stopped exploring all the possibilities of life. You lived a “brutiful and calmpassionate” life and were a truly rare person who had an amazing ability to connect with people and I feel so blessed to have been able to call you a friend. The last time I got to see you in person was 2 weeks and 1 day ago, the shock of learning of your death has shook me to my core and I haven’t cried that hard in a very long time. I will carry your memory with me everywhere I go and will forever be grateful for the impact you’ve had on my life.

Lots of love💖

My condolences and I’m sorry for your loss. I coached Brendan at MRU, and he was one of the most memorable players I coached. He was a tenacious rugby player and gifted with size, speed and talent. He had a great attitude and was appreciative of the coaching staff. I also appreciated his willingness to ask questions and challenge things. Off the field, he was an amazing human as well. He was a great teammate and friend, and always willing to do anything for the team and club. 

I reconnected with Brendan in 2023 and it was great to hear about all the things he had done and what he was involved with currently. He  lived life to the fullest and kept busy.  I enjoyed our phone and text conversations, sharing stories, books to read and stoic quotes. He did an amazing job during an interview on The Process podcast, and I will follow some of the advice he gave in that interview. 

I feel fortunate to have known him back at MRU and to reconnect recently. He was a great person and I will miss him. 

Carla, Christie and Bruce,

I am deeply saddened to hear about Brendan's sun setting at such a young age. I can simply not imagine your pain because we should not outlive our children. It is just not how it is supposed to be. When I read the obituary, I was sincerely amazed at all of the things he has accomplished and experienced in his short life. It seems like he lived a fuller life than some people much older than him. Reading the memories from people who have crossed his lives made me realize what an incredible young man he became. He has inspired many people and that will stay with them for the rest of their days ahead.

I saw Brendan at a Stampede concert a few years ago (Elle King) and he came up to me straight away to ask me if I was Mrs. Armstrong! I could not place his face right away but when he told me, I instantly knew who he was and we had such a nice chat!  I actually had my daughter take a picture of the 2 of us. He towered over me and seemed like such a happy guy.  I clearly remember both of your children in music class. They both loved music and I was so happy to read about what an intense music lover he became. I know how incredibly supportive and proud you were of your children and my heart breaks for you. I know you will find comfort in hearing all the stories shared with you with the people whose lives he touched. 

I have looked through my photos from Ranchlands and have pictures of him in every grade with his classmates (Christie too!). I fondly remember you inviting Leslie Sherlock, Mrs. Menzies and myself for year end lunches. I still have the amazing 'Oreo cookie' recipe. I remember seeing both kids at Leslie's Celebration of Life. Another amazing human gone too soon. 

You were and still  are an amazing Mom to your kids. Sending love to you and your family through the dark days ahead. Thank-you to you and Christie for writing the most amazing obituary that I think I have ever read. He will be missed by so many people. 

Such a beautiful, gentle soul you were and are Brendan. So sorry that you left us and so sorry for the broken hearts left behind. Our deepest condolences to ALL. 

We will always love you and your endless spiritual quest for better. Watch over us my friend - see you on the other side!

The first time I met Brendan we went to a piano recital that was presented on the front yard of someone’s home. It was a sunny and slightly windy day, with wind-chimes clinking in the background, fuzzy flower bits floating in the sky, and butterflies dancing around. This magical moment is how I ultimately saw and will forever see Brendan. The way he moved through life, swam through his pain, and shared his art  always came from such a beautiful place with so much natural intention that truly shined from within. I’ve been blessed to have had the opportunity to share a lot of great conversations and get togethers with Brendan in these last couple of years. Within our connection he has taught me so much through words and by his actions through witnessing how he experienced life. These teachings are something I will hold close and continue to embody moving forward.

Brendan had recently lent me a book called, Indigenous Teachings, which sits before me. A note that he wrote on one of the pages.. “I wonder how I might cultivate a spirit of beauty…”

Brendan, your spirit has always been one of beauty, in the physical and now in the eternal. I want to say… thank you for always creating a space for me to be me. Allowing silliness, deep conversations, and real open communication when needed. Thank you for always checking in, being real and vulnerable, and showing me the beauty behind voice messages, as now I forever get to cherish the ones that were saved.

I trust your spirit of beauty will continue to shine through all the people you have inspired. You will be deeply missed. Forever in my heart B , much love ❤️

Carla, we are so sorry to hear of the great loss of your son, Brendan. Our hearts go out to you and your family.

Brian Hutcheon and Frances Poelen

Brendan (or Didds as some of us knew him) was an integral part of my life throughout university.

Years of rugby, shared musical interests and a love for bodybuilding quickly bonded us. He was a fierce competitor and loyal teammate on and off the pitch, an unstoppable force who fully dedicated himself to his craft. He immersed himself in all kinds of music and dance, whether it was attending EDM and metal concerts or choreographing strip routines to Backstreet Boys. He was also an incredible mentor, who took pride in teaching and caring for those around him. His unique ability to remain positive and keep things lighthearted was one of the best things about him. His greatest quality however was his individuality. He was unapologetically himself 24/7 - an advocate for the eccentric and free-spirited, carving his own path and conforming to no one.

Although we lost touch some time ago, his impact and presence were always connected to my fondest memories from that time. He was truly one of a kind, and I will miss him.

Carla and Bruce, you raised a good man. I am so sorry for your loss..

Carla and family, we are so sorry to hear about the passing of  Brendan.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.  

Gary and Deb Koroluk (Hatfield)