How to Write a Eulogy for a Grandfather
Writing a eulogy for the life of a grandfather is a wonderful opportunity to remember his life, their personality, and the impact his life had on those around him. If you’ve never written a eulogy before, these steps will help guide you and will help you feel more prepared to honor the life of your grandfather.
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is a speech or short piece of writing that’s done in honor of someone, most often, who has recently passed away. Eulogies are read by members of the family or friends who were close to the deceased and are typically read at the funeral service or another memorial event.
What kind of information is typically included in a eulogy?
Even though a eulogy is a unique piece of writing tailored to the life of the person who passed away, there’s still content that you’ll commonly find in most eulogies. Typically, a eulogy will include the following information:
- Stories, memories, or special anecdotes from the individual’s life
- Reflections on the time the eulogy reader spent with the deceased or important moments
- Words of comfort and support for those in the family or who are grieving
- Other accomplishments in the deceased’s life
A eulogy for a grandfather would most likely focus on the totality of his life – what made him special? What lessons did he pass on to his children and grandchildren? What kind of grandfather was he? What qualities did he have that made him unique?
When writing a grandfather’s eulogy, focusing on answers to these questions can help you craft a unique and heartwarming eulogy. If you’re unsure of the answers to these questions, consider asking your family members for their responses as a way to start brainstorming qualities you want to include.
Eulogies can also include favorite passages, prayers, readings, and poems. These are excellent to include in a eulogy, especially if you feel a poem best expresses something you’re unable to find the words for. Poems are also excellent in expressing special relationships (for example, if you’re a grand daughter and are looking for grandpa death poems, you’ll likely find a poem that perfectly encapsulates your relationship.)
How long does a eulogy reading last?
Since eulogies are unique to the lives of the individuals they’re written for, there’s no correct length for a eulogy. Generally, a eulogy takes around 3 - 10 minutes to read out loud. Of course, a eulogy can be much shorter or much longer, depending on the writer, their speaking style, and their preferences. A eulogy written for a grandfather may run a bit longer, especially if the grandfather had a lot of experiences in life that you want to touch on.
Who should write the eulogy?
The eulogy should be written by someone who was close to the deceased, such as a family member or friend. If the family would like a funeral tribute to a grandfather from his grandchildren, consider asking if any of the grandchildren are interested in writing a eulogy. Alternatively, it’s appropriate for anyone close to the deceased to write the eulogy, so consider asking his partner, his spouse, his children, his close friends, his siblings, or anyone else if they’d feel comfortable and would like to give a eulogy.
Where do I start if I’ve never written a eulogy?
Writing a eulogy is not necessarily considered common knowledge, so don’t panic if you’ve never written one before and are given the opportunity to do so. The primary thing to remember is to remain authentic when writing a eulogy and the rest will come naturally. Here’s a brief guide on steps to take when writing a eulogy, especially if it’s your first time:
- Read through this guide on How to Write a Eulogy for in-depth guidance on the general steps you’ll need to take when writing a eulogy.
- If you’ve never seen a eulogy or heard one read out loud, it can help to look at example eulogies before beginning the process. Looking through examples helps you understand the general structure of a eulogy and can inspire you to include content you wouldn’t have considered previously.
- Once you have an understanding of the typical content contained in a eulogy, it’s time to start brainstorming. Identify key traits and the type of personality the individual exhibited during their life. Identify other key events and accomplishments you’ll want to reference in the eulogy. Once you’ve got a list of traits, stories, memories, anecdotes, and other information down, start reducing the list to the core elements you’d like to address and include in the eulogy. After identifying your content, it’s time to start outlining. It can help to identify the type of “flow” you’d like the eulogy to have (for example, maybe you want to share memories interspersed throughout the eulogy or maybe you want a single section that lists out your favorite memories – try to outline this in advance).
- After you have your initial draft finished, ask a trusted friend or family member to read the eulogy or listen to you read it and request feedback.
If you’re not comfortable with writing a eulogy after looking at the guides and examples, you’re not alone! Hiring a professional eulogy writer is something some people do when they’re not comfortable writing a eulogy for a loved one on their own and it can come in handy if you find yourself in this position.
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