How to Write a Eulogy for a Husband
With the loss of a loved one comes the opportunity to remember their life, the impact they had on those around them, and to share their life story with others. Writing a eulogy is one of these opportunities and can help you let others know just how special the person who passed away was.
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is a piece of writing or a speech that’s done in honor of someone, typically in honor of someone who has recently passed away. Eulogies are commonly delivered by close friends or family members of the deceased at a funeral service or other memorial type event and typically focus on memories and personal anecdotes that help listeners gain and understanding of someone’s life and character.
What kind of information is in a eulogy?
Since eulogies are most often written based on the life of the deceased, there is no one “right way” to write a eulogy. That being said, many eulogies often include the following content:
- Personal stories, memories, or anecdotes from the speaker’s experiences with the deceased
- Thoughts on the person’s character, personality, accomplishments, or history
- Words of comfort and support for the grieving and the family of the deceased
- Comments on the type of individual the deceased was and what made them special
A eulogy written for a husband would typically focus on the special qualities of that individual’s personality and what made them special, loved, and cherished by their loved ones. A tribute to a husband who died may include:
Thoughts on his career, his passions, his personal and professional pursuits, and his hobbies - Thoughts on his role as a husband, father, provider, or other important role in his life - Reflections on how he inspired others, comforted others, or lessons he taught others - Stories about his sense of humor or what kind of person he was in a group (was he the life of the party? Was he somber? Was he quiet and reserved?) - Accounts of his compassion, kindness, strength, empathy, and devotion to others - Anything that you think is special about the person who passed
How long is a eulogy?
Eulogies can vary widely in length since they’re typically written specifically for the person who passed away, making it impossible for there to be a single right answer to this question. That being said, eulogies are generally around 3 - 10 minutes in total length when read out loud. Eulogies that are shorter than this or longer than this are not “doing it wrong”, since every eulogy is unique.
What if I've never written a eulogy?
If you’ve never written a eulogy – don’t panic! Knowing how to write a eulogy is not common knowledge, many eulogy writers are attempting to write a eulogy for the first time. In general, if you try to remain authentic, true to the person who passed, and genuine, you’ll likely find yourself writing a beautiful eulogy. Here are some steps to take when writing a eulogy:
- Read through this guide on How to Write a Eulogy for a more in-depth overview of the general steps to take when writing a eulogy.
- Consider looking through examples of eulogies that others have written. This is especially useful if you’ve never read a eulogy or heard one at a funeral or memorial service. Looking through examples can also help you gain a better understanding of common phrases or pieces of information contained in eulogies.
- After you have a better understanding of what content a eulogy typically has and the type of eulogy you’d like to write for a husband, it’s time to get started. Start by writing down all of the qualities and personality traits that made the individual special. Consider favorite memories, stories, and lessons that this individual shared with those around them.
- Organize these thoughts into an outline. Start reading some of the thoughts out loud or in front of a trusted family member or friend to get an idea of what it’ll feel like to share these thoughts in front of an audience.
- After you have the first draft of your eulogy finished, ask a friend or family member to read over the eulogy or listen to you read it out loud. If you’re comfortable, ask them for feedback or any edits they’d make to the eulogy to make sure there’s not something you overlooked.
You may find yourself thinking, “I want to write a tribute to my deceased husband, but I can’t do it myself.” Don’t worry, you’re not alone. If you don’t want to write the eulogy, don’t feel comfortable writing it, or simply want to make sure an experienced writer handles it, you can consider hiring a professional eulogy writer to get the job done for you.
If you’ve delivered a eulogy for someone who passed away, you can easily add the speech to their memorial website on Ever Loved. Ever Loved memorial websites let you include speeches, share photos and memories, raise donations, share event details, and much more.