How to Write a Eulogy for a Wife
The passing of a wife is almost always a painful and difficult experience for her loved ones. While it can be difficult to know what to say or how to proceed in this difficult time, writing a eulogy for your wife can be one way to express your love and appreciation for her life and legacy.
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is a speech or writing in praise of a person, typically one who has died recently. Eulogies are most commonly given by family members or close friends of the deceased at a funeral or other memorial event and often focus on personal anecdotes and memories to give listeners a sense of the person’s life and character.
What type of information is typically included in a eulogy?
While there is no set formula for what must be included in a eulogy, they often include some combination of the following:
- A brief overview of the person’s life and accomplishments
- Personal anecdotes and memories
- Thoughts on the person’s character
- Words of comfort and support for those who are grieving
A eulogy for a wife should focus on the unique qualities that made her special and cherished by her loved ones. Some examples may include:
- Reflections on her career, her hobbies, her passions and/or her pursuits
- Reflections on her role as a wife (and potentially mother)
- Accounts of her kindness and compassion
- Stories about her sense of humor
- Remarks on how she inspired others
How long is a eulogy?
There is no one right answer to this question, as eulogies can vary widely in length. However, it is generally recommended that eulogies be kept short – typically 3 - 10 minutes in length. This allows others who are attending the service to share their own thoughts and allows you to keep the attention of those attending.
What if I've never written a eulogy?
If you’ve never written a eulogy before, you're not alone! Many eulogy writers find that it can be a challenging but fulfilling experience -- and it's often their first time writing one. One key to writing an effective eulogy is by remaining authentic, genuine, and true to the individual who has passed away. Here's the process you'll want to take when writing a eulogy for a wife:
- Start by reading this guide on How to Write a Eulogy. This step-by-step guide gives an overview of how to write a eulogy, a useful place to start when writing a tribute to a wife who passed away. Next, it can help to look through examples of eulogies, especially if you've never heard or seen a eulogy before. Looking at examples will help you gain a better understanding of the overall structure, content, and feel of a eulogy.
- Once you have an understanding of the type of eulogy you'd like to write, it's time to get some ideas down. Start writing down all of the qualities that made your wife special, along with some of your favorite memories of her, lessons she taught, things she loved, and the kind of impact she had on those around her.
- From there, begin to organize your thoughts into a rough structure or outline. It can help to start reading some of these thoughts aloud so that you can get an idea as to how it'll sound being read to those attending the services.
- Once you have your ideas down in a form you feel comfortable with, practice reading the eulogy out loud and ask a friend or family member to read over the eulogy for any errors or suggestions for improvement (if you're okay with it).
If this all sounds like too much, you can also consider hiring a professional eulogy writer instead of writing a eulogy on your own.
If you’ve delivered a eulogy for someone who passed away, you can easily add the speech to their memorial website on Ever Loved. Ever Loved memorial websites let you include speeches, share photos and memories, raise donations, share event details, and much more.