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Phalander "Phil-Philly-Capt-P" Patterson

Poughkeepsie, NY
August 15, 1960 - December 31, 2025
Aug 15, 1960 - Dec 31, 2025
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What I learned the most from Phalander, is to shut people down and protect your peace!!!
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all right, all right all right
2026, Poughkeepsie, NY, USA
all right, all right all right
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we are family ❤️
2026, Poughkeepsie, NY, USA
we are family ❤️
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2026, Poughkeepsie, NY, USA
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We love you Phalander ❤️
2026, Poughkeepsie, NY, USA
We love you Phalander ❤️
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Phalander Celebration of life…
2026, Poughkeepsie, NY, USA
Phalander Celebration of life ❤️
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ALRIGHT ALRIGHT ALRIGHT.....   BBQ'S WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!! YOU ARE TRULY MISSED.

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Dear Friends, Thank you all so much for attending Phalander Patterson's memorial service. Having you there meant the world to me and his family and was a beautiful reminder of how much Phalander was valued. Your support gave me strength when I needed it most. Warmly,

Toni Callistro 

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Cheese!!!
2023, New York, NY, USA
Cheese!!! — with Mo-sheena Burton
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Good times at a Retirement Pa…
2025, New York, NY, USA
Good times at a Retirement Party! — with Tom Tendy and Annette Colon-Gomez AKA Annie
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good afternoon

I hope everyone is doing well and thanks for coming together to share memories on my big brother’s memorial page. 

Quick reminder, I received a few messages from you all that would like a memorial T-shirt. I want to place one final order so please reach out to me no later than noon tomorrow, so I can place the order. 347-219-3254

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I want to convey my deepest sympathy to the family at this time for their loss.
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My condolences to the families and friends. Phalander will be truly missed. Stay strong for him and yourself, and the memories between you and him use it smile, laugh, love and move forward.
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Captain Phalander, A Patterson memorial service
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The IT Asset room, forever en…
2026, Graybar Building, Lexington Avenue, New York, NY, USA
The IT Asset room, forever enshrined in Phalander's name - Knights of the 5th Floor
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