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Maxwell "Max" Potter

Amherst, MA, USA

2001 - July 24, 2021

2001 - Jul 24, 2021

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Devon Atwood

Three years later taking some time to think about my friend. It makes me angry that by now the time since his death eclipses the time that I knew him. Angry at the world, at the passage of time. At the end of the day though i’m really just glad i got to know him while he was still here. I’m better for it. Thanks, buddy.

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Sue Howell

Susan, Bert, Jackson ~

Susan, I was going through all the contacts on my phone and I came upon your name. Memories of Sunshine Daycare came to mind ❤️. I googled your name because I wondered if I could find out where you guys lived. I believe you moved from away from Manlius around 2007 or thereabouts? I was so, so sad to learn of Max’s passing. And I’m so sad he was in such pain from depression. I’ve read all these posts and he was truly a remarkable young man, loved by many from all spaces in his life. Please know that our thoughts are with you all. The memories of him and the impact he had on so many people are treasures to hold. I saw a plaque on a memorial bench on a beach recently that struck me, and I thought this might be comforting…. “Don’t cry because it’s over…Smile because it happened.”

With much love and caring to all of you ~

Sue Howell

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Maxine Bouvier

I was thinking about Max today as I have often since learning of his passing last year. We lived on the same floor in Van Meter our freshman year at UMass and had mutual friends. I cannot emphasize enough how welcomed I felt by him in every moment. He was such a wonderfully, genuinely kind person and this was the first time I had come across this site to read his final message, which I know will stick with me forever. During our first semester, whenever we encountered one another, we would pass back and forth these little pieces of cardboard that he had made, one that read “max” and the other “cooler max,” if I remember correctly. I am so sorry to his family and loved ones. As others have said, I cannot begin to understand how you must feel, but I just wanted to say that I miss him and will always remember him and that he’s always gonna be the cooler Max. Much love.

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Maxine Bouvier

2019, Van Meter Hall, Amherst, MA, USA

Max and Tim and their Pumpkin Son

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Jarvis Li

It's been years since I've spoken with Max and only caught wind of his death the day before Christmas. My gut told me that there was no way Max, the friend I knew as energetic and enthusiastic, had just decided that suicide would be the only way for him to make an impact on the world. It felt like last year, I was sitting across from him playing Magic: the Gathering or Smash.

I couldn't tell you precisely how I feel about Max passing. On one end, I can't but help feel angry seeing that Max pushed for people considering actions and inactions having consequences, only to never put himself into that context. But for the same reason, I know that deep down, Max had told himself everything he had written in his final note ad nauseum.

If Max's parents are reading this, thank you. Max's time with me are some of the most treasured experiences I've had since I've moved to Pennsylvania. I don't think I will ever come close to understanding how you feel given the relative degree of separation, but I wanted to say that I, along with hopefully others, will grieve and remember Max Potter.

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Susan Havranek

Jarvis thank you for your honest and loving contribution. Max treasured the time he spent with his friends... Read more Jarvis thank you for your honest and loving contribution. Max treasured the time he spent with his friends during his middle ... Read more Jarvis thank you for your honest and loving contribution.... Read more

Timothy Yesepkin

Its been 118 days since Max passed. I've thought about him every single one of those days. I've tried to write so many things about you, I've tried to capture you in words so many times and everything wasn't enough. You were smart, you were caring, you were funny and wise, and everything everyone wanted you to be but everyone already knows that. What I never told you was that you are one of the only people I've ever truly trusted. Someone who I just knew that I would be safe with. That would always do the right thing. You were light to me. I miss you Max. I miss you so much.

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Susan Havranek

I'm so sorry that you lost someone who meant so much to you. As Max's mother, I can say I know Max treasured... Read more I'm so sorry that you lost someone who meant so much to you. As Max's mother, I can say I know Max treasured your friendship.... Read more I'm so sorry that you lost someone who meant so much... Read more

Bert Potter

I'm still thinking of Max. It still hurts when I remember that I'll never see him again.

I miss you, buddy.

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Susan Havranek

2020, Amherst, MA, USA

Moving is hard work

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2019, Utica, NY, USA

Christmas dinner

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Susan Havranek

2019, Utica, NY, USA

The boys at Christmas, Max in the middle

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2018, Utica, NY, USA

Everyone is eating my dessert

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Susan Havranek

2018, Hummelstown, PA, USA

Out for Brunch

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Susan Havranek

2018, Utica, NY, USA

Max opening his annual gift of New Mexican Beef Jerky

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2017, Flåm, Norway

Train up the fiord

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2017, Norway

Max and Momma

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2017, Utica, NY, USA

Boy and his dog at Christmas

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Susan Havranek

2017, Hummelstown, PA, USA

Boy and his dog

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2016, Austin, TX, USA

Happy Go Lucky

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Susan Havranek

2016, Austin, TX, USA

Couldn't bear to look

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2016, Austin, TX, USA

Catching some air with the rents

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2016, Austin, TX, USA

Super Mabel with the girls

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Susan Havranek

2016, Austin, TX, USA

Family Reunion - Sitting with DaDa

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2016, Utica, NY, USA

We never should have taught him to like sushi

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Bert Potter

Susan Havranek

2016, Woods Hole, Falmouth, MA, USA

Thanksgiving with Grampa Dave

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Bert Potter

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