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Personal note from Carly

Thank you for visiting the memorial site for Erik Audare, a soul friend who meant a great deal to me, as he did to so many.

I fervently believe that, in the end, we are made up of stories and stardust. Even after our spark has gone, these persist in the world we leave behind. As such, please feel free to share your photos and memories of Erik here- the stories he has left us with- so we can share in celebrating his life and the boundless source of fun and friendship, selflessness and support, he was for us all.

"I don't know where you went
after you left your body.
But I know that light
went somewhere.
Yesterday I imagined
that you were the shimmer
dancing on every wave
touched by the sun.
Tonight I will believe
that your soul burst
into a million stars
now resting in the sky
and all pain and suffering
fizzled out into the black.
I don't know where you will be tomorrow
but it will be magical."

-Sara Rian

Obituary

Though we remain truly devastated by his loss, we celebrate the life of Erik Josef Audare, whose tenacity, endearing wit, and loving nature touched everyone he knew, and positively changed the lives of so many.

Erik was born February 7, 1987, to his beloved, late mother, Sharon Pagano, in Tonawanda, NY. Their bond, as a single mother and child, would be a cornerstone in his life that would undeniably shape the person he was. In …

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Memories & condolences

A year is passed since you left us all heartbroken.  I listen for you in my gifted windchimes daily. Rain or shine warm…
A year is passed since you left us all heartbroken.  I listen for you in my gifted windchimes daily…
A year is passed since you left us all heartbroken.  I listen fo…
Although we haven’t talked since college, you were once an incredibly close friend and confidante. I miss our friendshi…
Although we haven’t talked since college, you were once an incredibly close friend and confidante. …
Although we haven’t talked since college, you were once an incre…

Hearing of Erik’s passing was incredibly tough. I am still trying to wrap my head around it. I have been lucky enough t…

Hearing of Erik’s passing was incredibly tough. I am still trying to wrap my head around it. I have…

Hearing of Erik’s passing was incredibly tough. I am still tryin…

If I am the phantom, it is because man's hatred has made me so. If I am to be saved it is because your love redeems me.…

If I am the phantom, it is because man's hatred has made me so. If I am to be saved it is because y…

If I am the phantom, it is because man's hatred has made me so. …

Favorites

What were Erik's favorite performances to watch?
Phantom of the Opera, musical theatre in general.
Phantom of the Opera, musical theatre in general.
Phantom of the Opera, musical theatre in general.
What were Erik's favorite games to play?
Baldur's Gate 3, Metal Gear series, Mass Effect, 7 Days to Die, The Sims 4, Overwatc…
Baldur's Gate 3, Metal Gear series, Mass Effect, 7 Days to Die, The Sims 4, Overwatch, and so …
Baldur's Gate 3, Metal Gear series, Mass Effect, 7 Days to Die, The Sims 4, Overwatch, and so very many more.
What were Erik's favorite tv shows?
Markiplier, The Basement Yard, Young Sheldon (with his momma).
Markiplier, The Basement Yard, Young Sheldon (with his momma).
Markiplier, The Basement Yard, Young Sheldon (with his momma).
What were Erik's favorite songs or musical artists?
Phantom of the Opera, Garbage, Adam Lambert, Jack's Mannequin, John Rzeznik, Sierra …
Phantom of the Opera, Garbage, Adam Lambert, Jack's Mannequin, John Rzeznik, Sierra Boggess, R…
Phantom of the Opera, Garbage, Adam Lambert, Jack's Mannequin, John Rzeznik, Sierra Boggess, Ramin Karimloo, countless …

Timeline

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Born

February 7th, 1987
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Graduated from high school

2005
Kenmore West Senior High School, Highland Parkway, Buffalo, NY
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Studied Theatre at Niagara County Community College

2010

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