I sent this message out last week, but I know some people didn't get it or aren't on the list of attendees, so I'm posting it here too:

Hi friends, just a few more details for what we are planning: The rental house is at 545 Hillside Drive, Rockaway Beach. A light buffet-style lunch will be provided for everyone on Wednesday, and non-alcoholic drinks. There should be options for everyone with at least semi-common food preferences or allergies. Dress is casual, and feel free to bring wine or a favorite drink. It's not a teetotalling event.

The idea is to have people gather at the house in the late morning and early afternoon to eat and chat and mingle, and then I was planning on giving a eulogy in the later afternoon, either on the porch if it's nice out or in the living room if not (and of course anyone else who'd like to speak is welcome). And then in the later afternoon or early evening we can head up to Hug Point State Park and anyone who'd like to can help disburse the ashes.

As far as disbursing ashes, what I was thinking was that before leaving the beach house, we would divide up the ashes into small packets, and anyone who wanted to would take a packet and once at the beach we would distribute them separately and independently. That's for a few reasons. Disbursing cremated remains on the beach is technically illegal, even though everyone does it and it is not harmful. So if many friends and family take small packets to disburse, it avoids a big "scene" and ashes will be distributed more widely and also I thought it would be nice for everyone to be able to say goodbye in their own way and in their own spot. And if anyone feels they want to take a packet of ashes to distribute somewhere else that they think Dayla would like, I am happy with that too.

Afterwards, we can meet back together to just relax at the beach for those that want to stay longer--but nothing additional is organized.

Hope that sounds good to everyone! Please message me with any questions.

Love,
Dain