How to Write a Eulogy for a Mother
Writing a eulogy for a beloved mother is a rare opportunity to share with your friends, family, and loved ones the importance of your mother’s life in your own (and in the lives of others). For those who have never written a funeral speech for a mother, this may feel like a lot of pressure. How can you sum up the importance of one’s life in a short speech? The good news is, writing a eulogy for a mom isn’t hard and can easily be done if you know where to start.
How to write a eulogy for a mother
Unsure where to start? Here’s some easy steps to guide you when writing a eulogy for a mother.
Step 1: Look at examples
Writing a eulogy for a mother from a daughter may look different and have a different feel than writing a eulogy for a mother from a son. There may be different qualities that were passed down, different ideas and lessons that you connected over, or a different type of bond that was established. Looking through eulogy examples for a mother can help you identify what kind of eulogy resonates with you and the kind of style or tone you’d like to emulate. Looking at examples of great eulogies for a mother will also help you figure out the length that you’re comfortable with and the content you want to share during the eulogy.
(Note: If you’ve never written a eulogy or heard one before, they typically last anywhere from 3 - 10 minutes in length.)
Step 2: Read a guide
While looking at examples can help you gain a better understanding of what to write (and maybe even what you don’t want to include), an example of a eulogy is only a basis for understanding what a eulogy looks like and what others decide to include. Going off of examples alone instead of looking at a guide can also leave you feeling unprepared, especially if you find yourself wanting to write a specific eulogy that you’re unable to find an example for. (For example, you may want to craft a eulogy for a mother with cancer but can’t find any examples of such a eulogy online.) This is where a guide can be of great use. Reading a guide on how to write a eulogy will give you a clearer understanding the layout, structure, and foundation of a great funeral speech for your mother.
Step 3: Create the outline
Outlining the eulogy is a good way to organize your thoughts, consider key elements you want to include in the eulogy, and get a feel for the length the eulogy will be. When writing the eulogy outline, consider the content you want to include, the tone you’re going for, and the structure. If you’re unclear on a standard structure, you can start by filling out a eulogy template for a mother for the foundation of the eulogy.
Step 4: Practice reading the eulogy out loud
A eulogy is a type of speech and is typically read out loud in front of the attendees, so you’ll want to prepare for this to be part of the experience. Reading the speech out loud in front of a trusted friend can give you an idea of what the eulogy sounds like and whether you’d like to change any wording so that it sounds better when spoken out loud. Ask your friend for feedback and suggestions if you’re comfortable with it.
Step 5: Make any edits necessary
The final step is making any edits necessary so that you can feel confident when delivering the eulogy in front of attendees. This is also a good place to time yourself for an idea of the length.
Can a eulogy be uplifting or funny?
The style, content, and tone of a eulogy depends entirely on your and your own personal writing style. Generally, try your best to keep the eulogy true to the person who has passed away. If your mother was reserved and quiet, it may not feel authentic to write an upbeat and out there eulogy for her. That being said, if your mother was eccentric or loved to laugh and be the life of the party, it can feel right to include this in your style and tone of voice when delivering the eulogy. Eulogies are unique pieces of writing tailored to the life of the person who passed away.
I don’t want to write a eulogy. What should I do?
If you feel like you’re not comfortable with writing the eulogy on your own, you have a few options available to you.
- Ask someone else to consider reading the eulogy in your place, if you’re comfortable writing the eulogy but don’t want to read it out loud in front of others.
- Ask someone to write (and potentially even give) the eulogy alongside you. Sometimes teaming up can make the process more meaningful and can help you feel less alone or pressured.
- Consider hiring a professional eulogy writer to write the eulogy for you.
- Say a few words at the funeral or celebration of life instead of reading an entire eulogy.
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