My name is Amanda Ward. I am currently living aboard our sailboat, Starship1, with my husband, Jason and our 12 year old son, Dylan. We are doing a 3 year sailing trip of a lifetime we call the Big Trip. We find we do not have to look very far to be reminded of the biggest reason why we are doing the Big Trip…life is short. It’s not comfortable to think about, but none of us really know what tomorrow brings. None of us know how many more times in our lives the sun will rise.
Jason’s family has known Bill for many, many years. They sailed with him and his wife, Judy at Gimli Yacht Club. Soon after, Bill became Jason and Matthew’s (Jason’s younger brother) dentist. Before I met Jason, Bill had gone through heartache that would bring anyone to their knees. Jason told me of the sudden loss of their adopted, eight-year-old son, Peter, and then ten years later, the loss of his wife Judy.
Jason and I reconnected with him and his now fiancé, Brigitte as we were preparing for the Big Trip. I will always remember the day they had us over for lunch about a year before we left on our trip. That day at their place, I couldn’t help but be fascinated by Bill. He found true love and contentment again. Through his life, he has overcome unbearable tragedy yet found the strength to let himself find such happiness with Brigitte and her family! Bill was proof of how strong the human spirit is and I will never forget that.
The day we were at their place, Bill was preparing to take an exam. Brigitte’s son was taking a very challenging, advanced level math class and Bill wanted to do everything he could to be supportive to him so he enrolled in the same class! Who does that!? We spent our afternoon with them enjoying Brigitte’s fresh baked pretzels and talking about how excited we all were for our upcoming sailing adventures. They gushed proudly showing us pictures of their gorgeous sailboat called Summertime.
We eventually set off on our Big Trip and our hope was that at some point we’d cross paths with Bill and Brigitte somewhere in the Exumas on white sandy beaches and crystal blue waters. We just never thought it would be under these heartbreaking circumstances.
On February 8th, Brigitte messaged Jason saying that Bill was suddenly very sick. They need to end their winter sailing trip and get the boat back Florida as quick as they could. They dropped anchor beside us in West Nassau Channel to wait on favourable winds and invited Dale, Jennifer, Jason and I over. That happened to be the same day that Jennifer and Dale arrived for their stay on Starship.
It was clear to see that Brigitte was so very worried, yet she was such a gracious host that night. They had brought their daughter Tanja onboard to help sail the boat back when Bill got sick. Tanja hit it off very well with Dale and Jennifer that night as they all spoke German. I had no idea what they the three of them were talking about but I could easily see they really enjoyed each other’s company. I’d like to think that having friends around them helped with the anxieties of the very difficult situation they were in. It was clear to us when we saw Bill that something was wrong. We hoped so much, as they did too, that it was something that could’ve begun to be remedied as soon as he got home to his doctor. When we left their boat that night, Brigitte loaded us up with bags of all the food they bought for their sailing trip that they now knew they could not use. The next morning, February 15th, we watched them pulled anchor and eight days later Brigitte messaged us with the heartbreaking news of his diagnosis. Her message to us on February 29th took our breath away. Bill had passed away.
We are saddened that we will not be able to attend his Happy Hour at Gimli Yacht Club this summer but are so thankful we had that precious evening with them in Nassau. The same day that he will be honoured in Gimli, we will raise a toast and ring our ship’s bell for him eight times – a tradition done to signify that a sailor’s final watch has ended. We will think of him as we watch the sunset over the turquoise, Bahamian waters that we know he and Brigitte together loved so much.