Ray was one of our best friends. We often went out to dinner with them. One time my wife Pat made dinner and we drove to their house for a lovely dinner. It was over an hour away. Ray took charge of heating it up. He really was quite comfortable in the kitchen. How I miss those times.
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I was so sorry to hear about Raymond's passing. He was such a warm and insightful person. Over the years as a CPE supervisor and Unitarian Universalist minister I had worked with CPE Supervisors of various religious and psychological backgrounds, but of all of them I think I worked the best with Ray. We were able to share a variety of psychological and theological insights which were a great help to CPE students. But most of all Ray and I shared a love of cars! We both had M.B. convertibles at the time we retired.
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I was one of Ray's CPE students at Jackson Memorial Hospital. He helped to guide me through a very difficult time in my life as I was learning to take on the role of a chaplain. Ray was one of those lights on the path without whom life would have been very different. At present I have completed nearly three decades of service as a hospice chaplain. I don't think I ever thanked him adequately. I was only this moment thinking of him when I found his obituary. He was a wonderful human being whose work, I am very sure, spoke for him at the gate.
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Ray will definitely be missed. What he taught me was invaluable; listen and observe- then speak. I had him for CPE in Sacramento many years ago and his encouraging correction, humor and insight modeled for me as a therapist, friend, and partner. Thank you, Ray!
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Ray was a wonderful and warm presence in the ACPE world. He will be missed!
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Ray was a one of a kind teacher and chaplain. I am so grateful to have been supervised and taught by him at Jackson Memorial. He accepted me into the CPE program even though I did not speak much English. He often spoke about Judith and feminist theology, he was an advocate for cultural humility and inclusivity, and a fun and wise teacher. He taught me how to use turtle wachs on my old car alongside so many things about American Culture and spiritual care. He sent me on the path to become a CPE educator. This was 28 years ago and I have deep gratitude in my heart for him.
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I always enjoyed Ray - during the time I was working toward certification as an educator he was a constant in my process of learning. He had a nice way of reminding me of what is important in life and did so with humor and sensitivity. Later, as I became an educator, we became colleagues. I valued him.
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I enjoyed Ray as a witty, light-hearted colleague and friend, who also made significant contributions to the field of Pastoral Care and to several centers of Clinical Pastoral Education, including Florida Hospital CPE Faculty for a time. He was dedicated to care of patients, staff, his students, his family, and his colleagues. He remained steadfastly loyal to the values of Pastoral Care and CPE.
Rebecca and I enjoyed time with him in our home and other settings, and looked forward to seeing Judith when she came to ACPE meetings. A time with Ray, and the quality of relationships and laughter he brought, always lifted our spirits. We will miss him.
Wes Monfalcone
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Ray was a wonderful colleague and a treasure for the pastoral education community. Go with God my friend...
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Dear Judith, you and your family are held in the Light. The world needs more good men like Ray.
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I am so sorry to learn of Ray’s death. I enjoyed knowing him as a valued CPE colleague in the Southeastern Region of ACPE. I am holding his family and friends in my thoughts and prayers.❤️
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Ray served as our consultant when Suncoast Hospice and Morton Plant Hospital were considering a CPE partnership here is Pinellas County Florida. Ray's expertise, patience and wit served as a solid foundation for a unique partnership between two leading community organizations providing critical care and end of life care. Students and interns were able to move between both providers, enriching their learning experiences. On a personal note, Ray and Judith provided wonderful warmth, hospitality and friendship as the partnership unfolded. I treasure our memories together. - Tim Arsenault, retired Director of Spiritual Care, Suncoast Hospice
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We have truly lost a giant. I am a brother CPE supervisor from Tampa, Florida. I have known Ray for many years. My wife Pat and I got to know Ray and Judith very well after their move to the Tampa Bay region. We had dinner with them at at least every other month for years.
Ray was a buddy for me, something rare for men these days. We traveled together to Orlando meetings.We laughed at my difficulty getting into his little Mercedes and we solved all of CPE and the world's problems. How I still miss those days.
Ray was a bright, energetic, and compassionate teacher of pastoral practice. He had a natural intuitive ability to connect with students and peers. He had strong opinions about the organization that we had devoted our professional lives to. And he did not mind telling whoever would listen.
What a delightful man!!! What a creative teacher! What a great friend!!
He was a man well-loved by family and friends. May he rest in peace.
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My condolences to Raymond's family. For many years he has been a colleague and friend. His thinking, processing, and insight was full of wit and intrigue. I have always had high regard and feeling blessed to know him and hear his stories. The world has indeed been a better place with him in it.
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I benefited from Ray's sage advice when I was a new CPE Educator. His insight, delivered from a caring and respectful spirit, shaped my supervisory style. I am forever grateful.
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