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Paul Charles DeSessa

Fayetteville, NC

January 10, 1952 - March 7, 2022

Jan 10, 1952 - Mar 7, 2022

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Marian Kramer

Kate Fassnacht

Miss you, my husbands dear friend

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Marian Kramer

I made this to honor you the day you left us. It’s raku fired and very meaningful to me. It’s an abstract cactus and is beautiful and prickly, water in the desert, sometimes a home for birds and other wildlife. It can shade in the brutal sun.

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Marian Kramer

2026, Denver, CO, USA

Gloria Donatelli Lister

1972, South Orange NJ

Even though so many years had passed since we talked my memories of the DeSessa family are ingrained in my memory. I once went to visit Paul at his apartment and his friend Douglass was there as well and he dragged us to the bathroom to show us that his toilet was from a company name Douglass and Gloria. Then he said stand on it, look to the left ,"I have a view of the NYC skyline".

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

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Jackie Bush

We are so sorry to hear of Paul's death. He was the smartest person I ever knew. We remember with joy the many times we had dinner together. we still use some of the funny things he said. There was not a dull moment--he brought joy to our family. Our son, Jonathan, remembers sitting in the tree in our front yard, listening for the sound of his old Jeep while waiting for an outing with the GI Joes on Wheels.

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

Leslie DeSessa

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Ellen Brooks

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Ellen Brooks

Leslie: LS and I only learned of this today. Such a quiet journey for you I am guessing. I want to reach... Read more Leslie: LS and I only learned of this today. Such a quiet journey for you I am guessing. I want to reach to you, write to you,... Read more Leslie: LS and I only learned of this today. Such a... Read more

Rick Smith

Leslie.....I am so sorry for your lost. Paul, (Dude) as we called him was a good friend when we lived in Fayetteville. We moved and lost touch but I've often thought of the good times I had playing poker and just shooting the bull with Dude, Gar, John and myself. I'll never forget the time we rented a town car and drove to Atlantic City to hit the Casinos; that was a very short, up and back trip over a weekend. Dude suggested that we put money in a plastic bag for gas money for the return trip. Anyways, the first night we stayed at the Trump Hotel thinking we were "it". The next night we had to stay at this sleeze-bag hotel on top of some building. Dude, slept by the door and said he would protect us while we were sleeping. We always had a great time just playing poker and talking for hours on end.......Great memories, I cherished our friendship. He will be surely missed by his beloved family.

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

Thanks so much for sharing your memories, Rick. It's been SO wonderful to hear from his friends! Thanks so much for sharing your memories, Rick. It's been SO wonderful to hear from his friends! Thanks so much for sharing your memories, Rick. It's... Read more

Mary Ellen DeSessa

2019, Great Smoky Mountains, United States

Elk Bait — with with Paul and Les

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2021, Great Smoky Mountains, United States

Up in the mountains

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Kate Fassnacht

Mary Ellen, these are so wonderful!! When I get back home I’m going to find some Paul memories too. It was... Read more Mary Ellen, these are so wonderful!! When I get back home I’m going to find some Paul memories too. It was so nice to talk with... Read more Mary Ellen, these are so wonderful!! When I get back... Read more

Mary Ellen DeSessa

It was so nice to talk with you, too, Kate. Please do share any stories and photos here. It's great to see... Read more It was so nice to talk with you, too, Kate. Please do share any stories and photos here. It's great to see everyone's stories ... Read more It was so nice to talk with you, too, Kate. Please ... Read more

Mary Ellen DeSessa

Mary Ellen DeSessa

2018, Fayetteville, NC, USA

Down for a visit

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2019, Qualla Boundary, Cherokee NC

At Mingo Falls

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2020

Paul helped finish Emily's quilt

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2021, Cherokee, NC, USA

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2021, Cherokee, NC, USA

Always on the Lookout for Elk!

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

2020, Fayetteville, NC, USA

Laughing till our faces hurt!

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Elizabeth Wanzer

Mary Ellen DeSessa

2019, Qualla Boundary, NC, USA

Hiking up Mingo Falls

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Elizabeth Wanzer

Mary Ellen DeSessa

2020

Paul's Lemon-Blueberry Scones Recipe

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Elizabeth Wanzer

Beth Israel

MEMORIES OF PAUL DESESSA

1991 - Paul and Leslie were our first friends in Fayetteville.
I met Leslie pushing my baby stroller with Jessica (now 32) in her neighborhood and she was pushing here baby stroller with Mark. We quickly found out we had a lot in common, we had come from New Orleans and they from Baton Rouge. I invited them to dinner for Gumbo and the rest is history.

Paul was smart, upbeat, loved life, best story teller and was able to always make people laugh. He was welcoming, hospitable, kind and attentive to everything that was going on. Leslie is really the chef, but it was always a standing joke that he took the credit for all the incredible meals she cooked and artfully presented. He just smiled at her with such appreciation with that twinkle in his eyes.

Our family experienced many happy times from themed birthday parties, pony rides to obstacle courses, easter egg hunts, Independence Day picnics and fireworks, parades and Civil War Re-enactments, special dinners. My children affectionately call him "Uncle Paul".

What I admired most about Paul was how much he loved Leslie.
He was thoughtful, generous and kind. Attentive to all the important things and allowed her the freedom to fully express herself through her Art, decorating, cooking, community service, self employment and those 3 quirky and slightly crazy cats!

The most precious event I witnessed along with other close friends and their 2 sons was a renewal of love ceremony that Paul planned as a surprise for Leslie at home in their living room. It was casual, unexpected and beautiful. He articulated his admiration, respect and love to Leslie, honoring her and surprising her with an elegant diamond ring. They were truly best friends.

Beth Israel family

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

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Lesley DeSessa

Wow thank you so much for sharing these words Beth! Wow thank you so much for sharing these words Beth! Wow thank you so much for sharing these words Beth!... Read more

Mary Ellen DeSessa

I enjoyed your memory so much. Thanks for sharing! I enjoyed your memory so much. Thanks for sharing! I enjoyed your memory so much. Thanks for sharing!

Brian Fassnacht

Who and I are truly good friends. Refreshment at Saint Barbara’s Medical Center in New Jersey back in 1972. Hey  remembers everything That we shared But I don’t always remember them. First time he had was when we went to Las Vegas or Reno. Playing blackjack he had such an incredible memory he could memorize the count and one most of the time. I really couldn’t afford these trips so he help me out almost every time. We wore suits at night because he said you got a dress for success. And they what is the slowest time in the easiest way to count cards. We would laugh and laugh and laugh. We went on long rides everywhere throughout the port of southern Nevada and part of California. I miss those times I miss Paul. He was a great guy and very generous she helped many people out when they were in need . Including everyone in my family. Both Paul and Leslie treated my daughters like they were own. Awesome my son. The other memorable thing is that every Wednesday we would go out for sushi and a movie. He had a few really terrible movie. Because he went to the good movies with Leslie. God bless you guys and I’ll be praying for you. Love Brian

Who and I are truly good friends. Refreshment at Saint Barbara’s Medical Center in New Jersey back in 1972.... Read more Who and I are truly good friends. Refreshment at Saint Barbara’s Medical Center in New Jersey back in 1972. Hey remembers everything... Read more Who and I are truly good friends. Refreshment at Saint... Read more

Brian Fassnacht

Sorry about the misspellings etc. Trying to use voice recognition. We met at Saint Barnabas Medical Center... Read more Sorry about the misspellings etc. Trying to use voice recognition. We met at Saint Barnabas Medical Center in New Jersey in 1972.... Read more Sorry about the misspellings etc. Trying to use voice... Read more

Mary Ellen DeSessa

Faz, thanks so much for sharing these great memories! It is so nice for everyone to get to read about your... Read more Faz, thanks so much for sharing these great memories! It is so nice for everyone to get to read about your adventures with my ... Read more Faz, thanks so much for sharing these great memories!... Read more

Lesley DeSessa

2019, Harpswell, ME, USA

I love that Paul always would take time to walk through any faith questions Mark was wrestling with. He had a way of simplifying the complexities of faith and biblical doctrine. I’m eternally grateful for the solid foundation that both Paul and Leslie paved for Mark.

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Mary Ellen DeSessa

Elizabeth Wanzer

Karen Strauss

So sorry for the loss of your beloved Paul. Find comfort in his memory and know that his love is forever. Karen Fassnacht Strauss.

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Beth Israel

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Lesley DeSessa

2018, Charlotte, NC, USA

Paul visited Mark and I in Charlotte to assist us with a few things moving into our first apartment together. We took him out to dinner at BEEF ‘N BOTTLE afterwards. One of his favorites. I’ll never forget my Father In Laws hugs. The best hugger. He would whisper in my ear, “thank you for making my son so happy!

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Beth Israel

Mary Ellen DeSessa

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Randi Horne

Such a precious memory! ❤️ Such a precious memory! ❤️ Such a precious memory! ❤️

Kate Fassnacht

Great photo !! Great photo !! Great photo !!

Libby Cates

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