It is with profound sorrow that we announce the passing of Patrick Edward Hay, or Pat, (aka Pey), a beloved husband, father, grandfather, uncle, and friend. Born on November 21, 1965, Pat left us too soon, on March 12, 2025, leaving behind a legacy of love, kindness, and dedication to the most important thing in life- family. 

Pat had recently been hospitalized in Panama and suffered a couple surprising health issues at home. He had seen a pulmonologist in 2020 who had not been clear about the health concern. This past year, symptoms worsened, and he went to the pulmonologist once more. They were investigating how they could best help him and through which medications for lung inflammation, but after a new bronchoscopy, his health did not improve. Pat had underlying conditions, and, what he later found out to be, lung scarring, or as they call it, pulmonary fibrosis. They believe this was caused by hypersensitivity pneumonitis, an allergic reaction to something. He was therefore delicate in terms of contracting illness. We believe he caught Covid-19 at an emergency room after being seen for symptoms of infection, which immediately followed his recent bronchoscopy on Feb. 19, 2025. His last hospitalization showed very minor improvement from Covid, and from a bacterial Staff lung infection. He passed away at Providence Memorial Hospital from a heart attack, caused by respiratory failure, after having been discharged from the ICU into the patient-care nursing floor- a shock and a devastation for us all. 

Pat was best known for his approachable and friendly demeanor, which was delightfully balanced with a quirky sense of humor and a reserved nature. He was also fluent in Spanish, thanks to his wife Damaris. Many didn’t know this about him, and we were always proud he had that talent. He may have not always been the biggest people person, having leaned more towards introversion most of the time, but he surely almost always meant well. He held far away friends near, even though he didn’t communicate it often. His unique personality endeared him to all who were fortunate enough to know him, and his calm presence is deeply missed.

Patrick was a steadfast pillar of strength and wisdom for his family. He is survived by his lifelong companion and spouse Damaris, his loving daughter, Stephanie Webber, his only son Anthony, and his six cherished grandchildren: Jesiah, Ezra, Elijah, and Xyla- from Anthony and Jessica Hay; Stella and Sidney from Stephanie and Sean Webber,  all whom he adored. He’s also left many relatives in Washington State, California, Alabama, and Indiana- and Panama. Patrick's lessons of kindness, being detail oriented, and having the utmost patience, have shaped their lives and will continue to inspire those who knew him. 

A proud Army veteran, Patrick served his country with unwavering commitment and dedication, as a Corporal E-4. His strong work ethic, instilled in him from his military days, was a testament to his character. His accomplishments reached beyond his service, touching every aspect of his life and leaving a lasting impact on those around him.

Patrick's greatest legacy lives on in the hearts of his two children, Stephanie (35) and Anthony (32) and their families, as well as the entire Hay family and Panamanian relatives in Panama. His family embodies his spirit in everything they are and do, and his memory will continue to guide them. Patrick's abrupt departure has left a void that can never be filled, and he is dearly missed.

As we mourn the loss of a remarkable man who was smart and caring, we also celebrate a life lived with purpose and compassion. May Patrick's soul rest in peace, and may his life's lessons continue to resonate within all of us.

Beloved Dad: the love we feel will never cease, for just having been who he was, for rarely ever saying no (call it good or bad) and for being so flexible and easy with all of those around him, for being a loving dad who listens so well to our worries, because these are the examples from his personality that we take with us forever in our hearts and will strive to be like. He was so smart and we will enjoy looking back at his achievements through his career, from when he joined the Army, and persevered later in jobs at the IT Help desk. Dad loved life and had a love for living, from the little things like the latest news on Musk, to buying small-time gadgets like solar phone chargers, walkie-talkies and door cameras- things we will continue to use in his memory. We thank him for sacrificing his comfort many times in order to be close to us. 

We hope that our family and friends please take time in the busy day-to-day of life to listen to your body, to take care of yourself, to enjoy your loved ones, to be with your loved ones everyday when they’re sick, to thank God everyday for the ones you love, and embrace them whenever you can. Dad was a kindhearted man, the best friend you’d make tea and coffee with, the best listener. One childhood friend of ours who grew up without a dad had said:  Pat was really kind and caring, as she would imagine a father would be. Furthermore, he was a great swimmer (we were jealous) and he was a dog lover, so we are left to promise that we will give his dog, Sabina (Saby, or “ Magdalene” as he would jokingly call her) all the Milk Bones (or better bones) she wants, even when she’s had too many! His special Hay lasagna, crab cake, and strawberry shortcake recipes, will all live on.

 Beloved Grandpa: We are grateful we will be able to show the kids videos of him being silly over these last two to eight years with him, and of him wearing the biggest most captivating smile you’ve seen all day while he was with them. His eyes would glimmer, and his face stretch from ear to ear when he was with the grandkids. He wouldn’t smile that big with us! When we were young, He loved us so much that he would take on us on vacation everywhere in Europe, even when he clearly preferred to stay home on his computer, playing around with some new program or update- stuff in computer language we wouldn’t comprehend. Now, he truly loved us so much that he moved twice in El Paso, just to be nearer Steph, Stella and Sidney. We recently missed him for Easter, but were able to give the girls gifts he had gone shopping for with Damaris, right before his bronchoscopy.

God chose to take him from us earlier than we ever could have imagined. In the recent days, we had prayed with him so that he would gain enough strength in his body mind and soul to get out of the Icu. God must have listened to our prayers. 

We had then prayed (that he wouldn’t let him suffer so much…that he was the kindest man, and he didn’t deserve to…like so many in this world. God does have a bigger purpose, maybe a positive change, to help others.  If he were still here, he might’ve said to us: listen to your body…take care of yourself… and enjoy your loved ones to the max!

Beloved Husband: the most loving, patient, dedicated husband, who always said yes even when he had not made up his mind yet! He was a yes man-an excellent companion, and adventurous friend, whom she will miss so dearly, whenever she listens to their favorite Latin rock songs over beer or dinner—there he will be in every place and time that his wife takes part in, and he will never cease to be in her heart. 

Thank you all who donated for his funeral arrangements! It was exactly the amount needed to cover the US expenses, and we are grateful from the bottom of our hearts. 

His final resting place will be in Panama City, Panama, tentative on May 10, 2025, in a reserved lot that Damaris and he had payed off years ago. We will share new church Mass details and reception information for our family to watch from the distance ( or to get to!) We will wait for you there.

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