In 1997, my dad (Bruce) and I went to LA to look at USC for graduate school for me. We rented a car - a bright, almost neon, blue car- and I went to the school for the interview. I remember Pop saying it was easy to get back to their house because you took “the little freeway.” I had never driven in LA before and it also happened to be the day of the verdict of the civil trial of OJ Simpson.
I missed the “little freeway” and ended up in Santa Monica - after a drive through Beverly Hills - right as the verdict was announced and it was being filmed. I got back to the house much later and they asked what had taken so long and if I had gotten lost or gone sightseeing. I was embarrassed.
Later, when Pop and Steve were out of the room Pamela smiled at me and said “I saw the car on TV. You really got lost didn’t you? Don’t worry I won’t tell.”
She was a lovely and loving woman and I’m grateful I knew her. I wish I had known her better.
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I’m so sorry. She was always so good to me. I’m heartbroken.
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All - I remember traveling to LA in high school and we all went to California Adventure together. I think I was supposed to be babysitting the twins but I'm not sure how effective I was. I also remember all of our trips to the Tetons including most recently this past year. Finally Wayne and I were so glad we got to go to dinner together in Beverly Hills with Mom and Dad and Landers last summer. Plus we got dropped off at the PoW for a nightcap and to check out the newly installed sunset window overlooking the marsh (Pamela's idea). Much love and hugs to the LA Mayers.
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2019, Coast of Southern Maine
A walk along Marginal Way in Ogunquit, Maine
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Pamela began talking to me the moment she sat down on our flight from DC to LAX, and we never quit talking the entire flight. She was engaging, animated and funny. She told me about her career, her family and her travels. With genuine interest, she asked a lot of questions about my life too. We found we had a lot in common. As we were nearing the end of flight I thought — this a person a want to know. We exchanged numbers and as they say the rest is history. We would get together at her family home in Playa del Rey or she would come to my home down near San Diego. We’d share a meal (almost always a tunafish salad sandwich for her) or just visit. We kept in touch regularly after I moved back east, and Pamela came to visit me in Maine. While our friendship on this earth was cut short, she holds a special place in my heart as a treasured friend. Her thoughtfulness, humor and zest for life will be carried with me for the rest of my life. Thank you Pamela for sharing your friendship and a part of your life with me. And thank you to the rest of the Mayer family too for allowing my friendship with your wife/mother to flourish.
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I remember when Mrs. Mayer took Landers and I to American Idol in the middle of the school day in 7th grade— it is such a special memory (esp in the parking lot when we were leaving AMS lol!!). She is such a kind, wonderful, beautiful woman and is such a loving mother to Landers and Stephen. I am sending all my love to you and your family.
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To Mr. Mayer, Landers, and Stephen: I am so sorry for your loss and I am sending all of my love. I am so grateful that I was able to spend some time with Mrs. Mayer during our chaotic and messy but always entertaining moves in and out of apartments all over DC. I will always cherish those memories of building a home together. Knowing how strong, special, and amazing Landers is it is easy to see where she got it from. Thinking of your family.
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Mayer family. Our deepest condolences are with all of you, as well as our admiration for the amazing care you gave my sister during her illness. So glad we visited with her and the family. It was a privilege to be her brother. We have so many fond memories over the years.
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Dear Landers, we never met your mom, but knowing what a good friend you are to Leah, we know she was very special because she did such a great job raising you! Our heartfelt condolences go out to you, your dad and brother. We are so very sorry that you had to lose her so soon. May her precious memories comfort you at this time and know that she is always with you in spirit. Sending you lots of love, Mr. and Mrs. Anderson
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If you were lucky enough to know Pam, you were lucky enough.
Pam and Steve hired me to be a nanny for their newly born twins when I was a college freshman. I stayed with them for 5 years and have had several visits after that. As a nanny, it was clear that I wasn’t there to babysit so mom & dad could have a break- I was there as a second set of hands, because Pam wanted to enjoy every moment with those babies. The sun rose and set on Landers and Stephen. Pam and I took the twins on so many adventures and she showed me what deep maternal love really looks like. They never missed a meal with them, and would only go to the POW for a nightcap after we put the kids down together. She soaked up every minute with them and never took a moment for granted.
Because of this, there is no surprise that her two grown children are such remarkable humans- love does incredible things. It’s so devastatingly fitting that on her final sunset, she was being cared for by her babies. She loved, and she was so very loved.
Landers, Steve and Stephen- talk about her often, surround your lives with simple memories of her and keep her with you. I love you all- Nina
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I met Pam in 1971 at Chico. I've known her for 52 years. She's always been there for me through car accidents, surgeries, moving from CA to NY to NJ to FL and back to CA. She went through my marriage separation with me and was the only one who understood why we got back together.
She trusted me with combinations to safes and how to get into her house. She sent me her dogs when she couldn't care for them. She understood me and I understood her. We literally grew up together. I can't believe I'll never talk to her again but I know I'll see her when I get to heaven. This is hard to write because the tears keep getting in the way.
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Mr. Mayer, Landers & Stephen - I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. Sending so much love to you all during this difficult time. In the short time I knew Mrs. Mayer, I have so many wonderful memories - from meeting her for the first time in Del Mar to FaceTime chats. She gave the best advice and truly felt like a second mom to me. I'm so grateful to have known her. She was such a bright light and never lost her wonderful sense of humor. Landers, I can't thank you enough for sharing your mom with me - I'll treasure our memories together forever.
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You have my deepest sympathy and unwavering support. Wishing u peace, comfort, courage, and lots of love at this time of sorrow. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. Wishing you the best and know you have my full support in every moment.
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I have a lot to thank mom for, but most of all for being a true friend. I promise to remember her kindness and pay it forward when given the opportunity. She will remain in my life until I see her again.
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My deepest condolences to Steve, Landers & Stephen. I have been amazed by the family bond & unconditional love you have for each other for the 25 years I have know you. Family was everything to her. She was so proud of her children & raised you both to be kind, loving & the independent adults you are today. As a mom, she always put her family first as you did for her theses last 7 months. You gave her love, love than more love. It was beautiful to watch. I thank you for allowing me to spend so much time with my dear friend. She asked me to take care of her family & I will be available 24/7 as she would have done for me. Sending you my love & look forward to continuing to be a part our your journey. I pray she had a great first day in Heaven. Love you all dearly. ❤️😇
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