Fun in Syracuse NY — with Eunice Kaitlyn & Pam

I was so saddened to hear about Aunt Pam's passing. I'm holding onto so many great memories we shared. She was one of a kind—always so kind and caring, and her big personality never failed to make me laugh. She brought so much joy to everyone around her and will be truly missed. Thinking of you all during this difficult time.  With love, Mark, Leslie, Ryan, and Ethan Sia.

It is often in times of loss that we look at the part we played, or could have played, in our loved one's life.

This an apology to Pam, ( but is something I feel about the part I played; my coming into the Bailey Family as a sibling and daughter in law).

I'm sorry, Pam, that when married your brother in 1980, I came into your family as a dysfunctional human being,( but a professing, new Born Again Christian).

I came from a family where I was the black sheep. There wasn't affection between my parents, myself, or my siblings. But it's openly admitted that I was the black sheep.

I'm sorry, Pam, that the love and affection that you showed was overwhelming to me; I didn't understand it. And so I shunned it.

You also were so energetic and bursting with vocational ideas, that I felt inferior to you.  You were a 'pick yourself up by the bootstraps type of person', and I wasn't. Infact I felt I couldn't be, as I battled with depression and feelings of inferiority. The ideals that you set for me never left me.

Your large family holiday gatherings were so festive and ornamental. Much of my love of decor stems from you and your family.

Thank you for hiring me to clean your house

Thank you for the exciting adventures of the 90's.

Thank you for always being so kind and inclusive of me, even after the divorce.

I wish I had done more to try to get together for the lunches we spoke about.

I will always remember you and the lessons you taught me about acceptance and having a zeal for living.

Rest in Peace.  May you Celebrate Now, Pam💜, what you weren't fully able to celebrate in Life on this earth.

Love Charlotte Bailey

Pam and I met in grade school, her family had just moved to our area.  We both had the same first name and turned out we were next door neighbors.  I spent many hours with Pam and her family.  They treated me like a part of the family.  Although we went separate ways I always have many special memories of Pam.

Pam and I would run into  each other out dancing.  We never got to get together for that lunch which came up each time we met.

Life kept happening and we went out merry ways.

But above all else, I did see her as a person of possibilities and great enthusiasm.   And now I know that she has found her merriest way; in peace and no more pain.  Love Char

Pam was our neighbor growing up in Sherrill. Our families were friends and we enjoyed so many activities together. Pam was like a second mom to me. Her door was always open. Bologna sandwich’s at her table, trips to green lakes, the petting zoo. She was our Halloween costume repair shop, make up and hair were a specialty of hers. She’d cut Wayne’s bowl hair cut right there in the kitchen. She taught us the facts of life. She told Wayne I was “fickle”…had never even heard the word until he used it on me. Pam’s house was a safe home for me, she was always full of love. When we moved away I was asked to write a paper about someone I admired - I wrote about Pam. Tender hearted, beautiful soul, full of love and laughter, a hard worker, and an over comer. She was inclusive and made me feel so loved and special as a child. Thank you, Pam, for all you did for me. You will always be loved and remembered. 

My earliest memories of my sister Pam are from social situations when our mom would introduce herself to others. Pam would always speak up and say "I'm Pam and this is my sister Deb and I'm five and she's four and we... blah blah blah blah blah. On and on she'd go while I hid behind my mother's skirts.  She was the social director  - organizing annual birthday gatherings with her siblings, planning trips, and organizing gatherings and parties of all sorts for her acquaintances and friends.  For the past few years she was trying to get all of us together for a family reunion and it was hard to get everyone to commit to a time and a place that was good for all. So now she has made the family reunion happen . And, while we celebrate her life, I am sure she's partying up in heaven with Mom and Vince and whoever else she can gather up. Probably making eggs benedict for everyone, God bless her.

We have all been blessed by her infectious energy. Love ya Pam!

So very sorry to hear of this news. We worked together at Turning Stone! RIP Pam

I was very blessed to have met Pam. I met Pam through the late Vincent Scanlon one of her dear friends and mine. Pam was such a wonderful, full of life, so thoughtful person. She will be greatly missed. To Pam's family and friends im so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. 

When Pam was 3 yrs old-and i was 8 yrs. and she just started to really walk and talk, i knew our Mom had a little girl-with an independent mind of her own! If Mom said "No, Pam" Pam would fold her arms and ask "Why, Mom?" And she never stopped asking that question-especially when she heard a "no!". She -even 5 yrs. younger, taught her big sister Shane, how to be confident in yourself and what you could do!

I am so sorry to hear about Pam’s passing. My prayers go out to her and all of her family.

We were classmates and friends. Always happy, always smiling.

God bless everyone.