Matt's obituary said that Matt coached both Ryan and Diane. What it didn’t say is that he also
coached many other people’s kids for many years. My daughter was fortunate to be one of
them beginning in 2001. Matt wasn’t sure he wanted someone from the team that made
their coach quit, so he checked with Teri, who was my daughter’s elementary science teacher.
And Matt became her coach. The first season, every shot she had on goal went flying over the
top of the net at Westwood Field, high into the trees. Matt said, “we can fix that”. And he
did.
The next season, they won the Comstock Shootout, getting better and better each game,
winning in overtime on the last possible penalty kick. Matt was wearing his “Life is Good” T-
shirt, which you will notice appearing in many of the tournament photos after that. His lucky
soccer shirt!
Julia Andrews was coaching with Matt. She’d asked him what his favorite ten songs were.
Well, Matt couldn’t just name ten, so he came up with a list of 100, and made her a tape of all
of them. I still wish I had asked for a copy. I do know that “Wish you Were Here” by Pink
Floyd was his favorite album at that time.
The soccer seasons continued. There were team runs, where Matt would accompany the girls
on his bicycle, ending somewhere for a pasta feed. He would come up with drills and games
to improve their skills. One particularly stays in my mind – “The Circle Game”. I don’t
remember all the details, but the team is in a circle, everyone has a number 1 – 5, a ball and
lots of running are involved. The girls loved it. At the end, I noticed that they’d jogged/run
for thirty minutes, and Matt said, “yup”.
My daughter played comp her senior year, and it was a bit of a shock after playing with Matt
for so long. Her soccer heart is all AYSO, and it was very difficult entering the competitive
world that didn’t abide by the AYSO’s and Matt’s principals. She did coach a U14 team with
Matt that year and loved it.
Even playing in college, she never forgot what she learned from Matt. In one game, a player
from the other team went down with a serious knee injury. My daughter stopped playing
(despite her coach screaming at her) and with the other nursing student players helped her
until the ambulance arrived. Earlier that same game she walked off the field because the
coach wanted to run up the score. She is AYSO deep to her core, thanks to Matt.
For the twenty plus years after we no longer spent time on the soccer field, I would run into
Matt at the Farmers’ Market and other places. We would catch up on what our families were
doing. His love for his family was so intense, especially after his granddaughter, Amara
arrived. It brought him such joy to be a grandpa.
The last time I ran into Matt, he was actually running after me in Costco as I was racing to the
checkout line. I heard someone yelling “slow down” multiple times, but didn’t think it was
intended for me. When I finally looked, there was Matt running behind me. He’d abandoned
his cart six aisles back. We again caught up on our families. He was so excited that Amara
was going to be playing soccer. I heard she scored her first goal right after we lost him. Matt
was definitely smiling.
In addition to the five AYSO principles of:
Everyone plays, positive coaching, good sportsmanship, open registration and balanced teams,
Matt had his own set of principles:
*Know what your teammates can do. If Nichole is doing a throw in, it’ll go halfway across
the field. If it’s another player, it might go just ten feet. Be there.
*Playing the position opposite yours makes you play your position better – At the start of
the game and end of halftime, Matt would call out positions. He’d always save the
switched positions to the very end, so the players couldn’t complain too much, with the
ref ready to start the game. They HATED going from goalie and defense to offense, and
the reverse.
*Walk it in. (Don’t take any crazy shots.)
*Respect the refs. They’re the best we have today. He always did!
*Play down when the other team is short. Always!
*Don’t run up the score. Why make the other team feel bad?
*Give a Tootsie Roll Pop to the other team’s players after the game when telling them
“Good game” Always!
And so, please take a Tootise Roll Pop from the dessert table today.
Great Game, Matt! Thanks for everything!