I was with Lesha in his final moments. Those last moments before he left us were so special, full of joy and laughter. The week before had been long and hard for us. That day, Lesha decided to go out on the water. It was a beautiful day, and we had such an amazing time. I even giggled, which rarely ever happens. The water gave him peace.

Lesha was a kind, gentle, and generous soul with an invigorating spirit. His absence has left an empty space in our hearts. He will be missed until the day we meet again.

Losha was the life of the party. Everyone wanted to be with him . He was the cool guy . The awesome uncle . My oldest son had the privilege to know him and love him. He still tells me all the time that he wants to go to heaven so Losha can make him laugh again because there’s no one as funny as him earthside. He’s totally right .   

When i found out Babushka Zina passed away shortly after, James said “mama don’t cry, Losha is making her laugh so much in heaven with God.” Losha was always asking me how I was doing with the kids. He knew how hard motherhood was and never downplayed it like most would. He was always so caring and would make time for us even when he could’ve chosen to not hang out with a cranky baby or toddler. Anytime he saw the kids he would just gravitate to them and they would just love on him too. Last time I talked to him he talked about wanting to be a dad and have kids one day . He said how he’d also love to adopt one day too if biological kids weren’t in the plan. He would’ve been an amazing dad. 

I was always hyping him up telling him how great his style was and how handsome he was and if only I had some single girlfriends to introduce him to . He was so humble and never flaunted that he was all that and better than somebody. He truly didn’t realize how loved he was and what an impact he made on everyone’s life . 

He loved his sisters so much . He always stuck up for them and talked about how proud he was of them. Even when their chickens died he made sure I didn’t tell them and protected their hearts. When they would get in a fight and I didn’t know who’s room to choose to sleep in I would just come hang out with him. He loved his parents too and anytime they would call him he always answered and knew it might be time to come home🤣

 He was like an older brother to me. He accepted me as his “third” annoying sissy and was never embarrassed to take me along and hang out with me. I’ll never forget our cruise,skiing, movies, cookout, river tubing,beach and other trips. It was always an adventure with him. He lived life to the fullest and always made time for his loved ones. 

We always talked about God and how close he’s gotten to him over the last few years. You could tell his soul and heart was changing and it was so beautiful to see. I always teased him about what there was to do in Jacksonville and why he moved there because it didn’t seem like much but he truly loved it and I could see it. I remember when he didn’t answer his phone during a hurricane and I was worried about him and then he finally answered sending videos of him in the storm. He was a wild one. So fearless. 

Losha had a passion for cooking and I always thought he would open up a restaurant with my brother and cousin. He was always cheffing it up when I’d come over. He was easy to talk to and never judged anyone. He was so smart and talented in everything he did . I’m so lucky he got to play guitar at my wedding and didn’t realize that moment would be even more special to me as it is now. I’ll miss dancing to Cascada in the car with him while going to hang out. 

I’m so thankful for the memories I had with him and hold them dear to my heart . 

 We love and miss him so much 💙

My Name is TJ (Tim TJ Haines) and I had the great honor of being Losha's Men's Disciple Group Leader. He was referred to my group by a young woman in my Wife's disciple group. The moment he walked in to my home the first time, he lit up the room with his warm smile, presence, and a big hug. We hit it off immediately. My group was still new and small at the time so we had time to bond and talk about not just the fun surface stuff, but about the deeper meanings of life and faith. He was at a turning point in his life where he wanted to learn what it meant to Stand Firm and become a Godly Man. He wanted to learn how to be more bold in his faith at work, and how to not shy away from being there for his patients and their family, but to be able to lean in and pray for them and talk openly about his growing faith and role as a Man of God. He wanted specifically to learn how to be a light in a place where he often felt he experienced darkness and death in his line of work. It was something we talked about pretty much every time we met every Tuesday night. He asked how to deepen his faith and grow stronger so he could share more - so I spent time with him showing him my daily devotional routine that had made such an amazing change in my life. He loved it and started implementing what I showed him. I shared with him podcasts that I was listening to. As a long time surfer, kiteboarder - we talked about starting to go surfing together so I could pass on my wisdom there as well. Within the short 3 months or so we spent together we had really formed a bond and were true Brothers in Christ. Then there was that one Tuesday night before he left our earthly realm. He was the only one that showed up. I had made dinner as I do every week for the guys. So we ate and caught up and within 15 minutes dove into one of the deepest and most impactful and meaningful conversations we had ever shared before. It was just him and I for nearly 3 hours. We talked about life. Death. He was so intent on learning how to make sure God knows him. That Jesus knows him and that he wanted to make sure that he went to heaven and that even though in his mind he was new at this new deeper level of faith - was he doing enough. He shared again how he saw a lot of death in his line of work and how it had been effecting him. I had recently listened to a 3 hour long podcast about near death experiencers and the man on the podcast was now a pastor and shared his journey. I had recently dove more into that topic and learned a great deal from all of the thousands of cases of verified people of all previous backgrounds, faiths, countries.... their journey when they died, what they experienced and saw and felt and what exactly happened. Some died and came back to life in a little as 5 minutes and many over 10 min, 15 min, 20 min even some over 30 minutes and came back to life. The ones that had passed the longest had the richest most detailed experiences to share. So many amazing stories with great accuracy and detail and experiences that can not be made up or fabricated. Like the boy who was blind since birth and was in surgery and died on the operating table. He left his body and went up and could see and watch everything going on in real time. All the pain he was in left and he felt amazing - and most amazing was he could SEE! He watched as they struggled to revive him and all the things and details of what they were doing. He then left and went upwards and came to an amazing field in heaven where the grass had light radiating out of it and it had a frequency that radiated love. He described what it was like, Jesus met him there and did a life review with him and he shared about that. Then Jesus said it is not your time - touched him in the forehead and he came to in the hospital bed and startled the nurse. He had been dead for quite some time and to have him wake up scared the poop out of the nurse! They rushed in and were asking him questions. He was blind again now that he was back in his body. He told them everything that had happened, and they didn't want to believe him. He said I can prove it to you. He started telling them exactly what each one was wearing what they were doing when he died what they said and many details. They were still skeptical and trying to figure out how he knew this - but were still not wanting to believe him. They were trying to debunk his experience - then he said - wait! I am telling the truth and I can prove it. Look on the ceiling fan there is a radio station sticker on it. They looked up they said - we don't see anything. He said NO - get a ladder and look on the top of one of the fan blades is a local radio station sticker and gave them the exact 100.7 Kfog radio station. They got a ladder and looked. Sure enough - there it was! He said - I am blind here on earth - but on the other side - I am NOT blind. I saw everything when I was floating above the room!

We dove into great detail about everything I had learned.

Since he asked we also talked about experiences that atheists' and former Buddhists, and former Muslims had had. How they went downward - but how in desperation when the dark shadows and fallen ones started clutching at them - even as a non-believer while on earth - when they called out to God or Jesus in desperation - a bright light came down and pulled them out. Jesus was shining standing before them. and they knew it was him - even the Muslims. They all did a life review and now finally knew the truth. and told their various experiences from there. All them them when they came back to life - became disciple of Jesus even at great risk to their lives when in the middle east at the time or other parts of the world where freedom of religion is not acceptable or normal.

We dove into all of these things and so much more.

Growing in his faith and stepping up to a new level and depth of faith and becoming a Godly Man and making a positive impact was heavy on his heart at this juncture in his life. He wanted to find a soul mate and wife. He wanted to learn how to grow from an adult boy to a man in a new way like he had been learning about at Church of Eleven 22.

Learning how to not just love selfishly - but being called to Agape love, a service sacrificing love was something he was learning about.

We had such an amazing and profoundly meaningful night together. Just him and I. Well, Him, God the Father, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and I - all shared it together.

Little did I know that God somehow put him with me that night and put on our hearts to talk about all of this. and use me as a messenger of truth and light and hope.

The next week when I had my Tuesday night meeting I texted him a couple of times. Hey if you get here late - we are in the lanai, come in and help yourself to dinner, and meet us by the fireplace on the lanai....

When my Wife got home that evening she shared with me what had happened.

We prayed together. We cried together. I felt Alex smile and give me a hug and tell me it's ok brother, I'm still here just in a different place. I'm in heaven and God has a bigger plan for me. I'll see you again in a while brother. Love you.

Then I had the honor and privilege of meeting his family when they came down from North Caroline. I was in a little bit of a rush because I was serving communion at church and had to go check in. But we bonded immediately. We talked and prayed and cried together for maybe 20 min then I had to go check in. I could see his beautiful soul in each of their eyes and in their hugs and words. It was a powerful meeting and experience I will never forget.

We have continued to text and talk and their friendship with me means so much to me.

Alex, Losha, is still having a positive impact in my life - now through my relationship and friendship with His Mom.

Love you guys.

Love you Brother Losha,

Tim TJ Haines

My Name is TJ (Tim TJ Haines) and I had the great honor of being Losha's Men's Disciple Group Leader.  He was referred to my group by a young woman in my Wife's disciple group.  The moment he walked in to my home the first time, he lit up the room with his warm smile, presence, and a big hug.  We hit it off immediately.  My group was still new and small at the time so we had time to bond and talk about not just the fun surface stuff, but about the deeper meanings of life and faith.  He was at a turning point in his life where he wanted to learn what it meant to Stand Firm and become a Godly Man.  He wanted to learn how to be more bold in his faith at work, and how to not shy away from being there for his patients and their family, but to be able to lean in and pray for them and talk openly about his growing faith and role as a Man of God.  He wanted specifically to learn how to be a light in a place where he often felt he experienced darkness and death in his line of work.  It was something we talked about pretty much every time we met every Tuesday night.  He asked how to deepen his faith and grow stronger so he could share more - so I spent time with him showing him my daily devotional routine that had made such an amazing change in my life.  He loved it and started implementing what I showed him.  I shared with him podcasts that I was listening to.  As a long time surfer, kiteboarder - we talked about starting to go surfing together so I could pass on my wisdom there as well.  Within the short 3 months or so we spent together we had really formed a bond and were true Brothers in Christ.              Then there was that one Tuesday night before he left our earthly realm.  He was the only one that showed up.   I had made dinner as I do every week for the guys.  So we ate and caught up and within 15 minutes dove into one of the deepest and most impactful and meaningful conversations we had ever shared before.  It was just him and I for nearly 3 hours.  We talked about life.  Death.  He was so intent on learning how to make sure God knows him.  That Jesus knows him and that he wanted to make sure that he went to heaven and that even though in his mind he was new at this new deeper level of faith - was he doing enough.  He shared again how he saw a lot of death in his line of work and how it had been effecting him.  I had recently listened to a 3 hour long podcast about near death experiencers and the man on the podcast was now a pastor and shared his journey.  I had recently dove more into that topic and learned a great deal from all of the thousands of cases of verified people of all previous backgrounds, faiths, countries.... their journey when they died, what they experienced and saw and felt and what exactly happened.   Some died and came back to life in a little as 5 minutes and many over 10 min, 15 min, 20 min even some over 30 minutes and came back to life.  The ones that had passed the longest had the richest most detailed experiences to share.   So many amazing stories with great accuracy and detail and experiences that can not be made up or fabricated.  Like the boy who was blind since birth and was in surgery and died on the operating table.  He left his body and went up and could see and watch everything going on in real time.  All the pain he was in left and he felt amazing - and most amazing was he could SEE!  He watched as they struggled to revive him and all the things and details of what they were doing.  He then left and went upwards and came to an amazing field in heaven where the grass had light radiating out of it and it had a frequency that radiated love.  He described what it was like,  Jesus met him there and did a life review with him and he shared about that.  Then Jesus said it is not your time - touched him in the forehead and he came to in the hospital bed and startled the nurse.  He had been dead for quite some time and to have him wake up scared the poop out of the nurse!  They rushed in and were asking him questions.  He was blind again now that he was back in his body.  He told them everything that had happened, and they didn't want to believe him.  He said I can prove it to you.  He started telling them exactly what each one was wearing what they were doing when he died what they said and many details.  They were still skeptical and trying to figure out how he knew this - but were still not wanting to believe him.  They were trying to debunk his experience - then he said - wait!  I am telling the truth and I can prove it.  Look on the ceiling fan there is a radio station sticker on it.  They looked up they said - we don't see anything.  He said NO - get a ladder and look on the top of one of the fan blades is a local radio station sticker and gave them the exact 100.7 Kfog radio station.  They got a ladder and looked.  Sure enough - there it was!  He said - I am blind here on earth - but on the other side - I am NOT blind.  I saw everything when I was floating above the room!

 We dove into great detail about everything I had learned.  

Since he asked we also talked about experiences that atheists' and former Buddhists, and former Muslims had had.  How they went downward - but how in desperation when the dark shadows and fallen ones started clutching at them - even as a non-believer while on earth - when they called out to God or Jesus in desperation - a bright light came down and pulled them out.  Jesus was shining standing before them. and they knew it was him - even the Muslims.  They all did a life review and now finally knew the truth.  and told their various experiences from there.  All them them when they came back to life - became disciple of Jesus even at great risk to their lives when in the middle east at the time or other parts of the world where freedom of religion is not acceptable or normal.

We dove into all of these things and so much more.

Growing in his faith and stepping up to a new level and depth of faith and becoming a Godly Man and making a positive impact was heavy on his heart at this juncture in his life.  He wanted to find a soul mate and wife.  He wanted to learn how to grow from an adult boy to a man in a new way like he had been learning about at Church of Eleven 22.  

Learning how to not just love selfishly - but being called to Agape love, a service sacrificing love was something he was learning about.

We had such an amazing and profoundly meaningful night together.  Just him and I.  Well, Him, God the Father, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and I - all shared it together.

Little did I know that God somehow put him with me that night and put on our hearts to talk about all of this.  and use me as a messenger of truth and light and hope.  

The next week when I had my Tuesday night meeting I texted him a couple of times.  Hey if you get here late - we are in the lanai, come in and help yourself to dinner, and meet us by the fireplace on the lanai....

When my Wife got home that evening she shared with me what had happened.

We prayed together.  We cried together.  I felt Alex smile and give me a hug and tell me it's ok brother, I'm still here just in a different place.  I'm in heaven and God has a bigger plan for me.  I'll see you again in a while brother.  Love you.

Then I had the honor and privilege of meeting his family when they came down from North Caroline.  I was in a little bit of a rush because I was serving communion at church and had to go check in.  But we bonded immediately.  We talked and prayed and cried together for maybe 20 min then I had to go check in.  I could see his beautiful soul in each of their eyes and in their hugs and words.  It was a powerful meeting and experience I will never forget.

We have continued to text and talk and their friendship with me means so much to me.

Alex, Losha, is still having a positive impact in my life - now through my relationship and friendship with His Mom.

Love you guys.

Love you Brother Losha,

Tim TJ Haines

Here is the link to Losha's Instagram, where he shared some of his photos and memories with the world: www.instagram.com/loshan_mowy…

Fort George Inlet — with Olga Silchenko and Darya Silchenko

Alex “Losha” Silchenko (1993-2025) - slideshow by Olga Silchenko

Praying for Losha’s family. I loved Losha and always looked up to him growing up. Every time I would hear he is in town in Asheville I would come running to where ever he was at. He was always such a joy for me to be around and always left me lit up with joy. We would always text each other and send each other new cool songs that we would find and liked. Was such an amazing friend and I will miss him so much, till we meet again in heaven. I can’t wait to laugh with him again.