Several years ago, I ran into Kevin at a hotel restaurant in the Miami area. I immediately recognized him and was compelled to say hi. His eyes lit up when I approached - and I could tell he was trying to quickly calculate which friend group I came from: Colgate, Hamilton, Sewickley, other...  Before I could say anything more than 'Hi Mr. Weir - it's Evan Heby..' he said, 'Evan! Chris's buddy from Colgate, right?' Let's just say I was impressed with his recall. Having four brilliant children, I can't imagine what it's like keeping track of all the friends the Weir siblings picked up along the way, but Kevin could do it. We ended up chatting for about 30-40 minutes; he told me about his business down in Florida, and I told him about mine. We reminisced about Colgate graduation, chatted about the golf/tennis going on, on TVs in the background, and I distinctly remember trying to pass off that I knew at least *something* about golf... (Thanks Chris & Kendall - without the Betty Boys I wouldn't have been able to shout out guys like Matsuyama or Rahm...) 

That short evening conversation gave me some small insights into the kind and warm gentleman your father was. He couldn't have been more polite or friendly - and his way of talking reminded me so much of all of his kids. I feel lucky to have had a moment of 1:1 time with your dad, and I hope that I can emulate some of his qualities in my own journey as a father one day. Along with you, Carol, he did a hell of a job raising four unbelievably sharp-witted, excellently athletic, and most of all kind-hearted individuals. I feel lucky to have had special time with each of the Weir children - especially in Chicago where the relationship with Kendall and Katharine grew to new heights. I love you all; Taylor and I will be keeping you in our thoughts this weekend and beyond. Our loved ones live on through our memories of them, so I hope you always make time to tell stories of his legacy and reminisce about all of the special moments you had together. 

All our love,

Evan Heby, Taylor Heby, and Millie Heby <3

Kevin left this earth way too soon. He had lots of life still to live!  He will be missed but his legacy lives on in his and Carol’s four beautiful and brilliant children and grandchildren. He was always the life of the party and cared deeply about friends and family and yes even in-laws. If he didn’t pick on you and rib you he probably didn’t like you very much!  We will all miss him. Wonderful shared memories. 

Fondly,

Alec

Kevin had just gotten  a pair of Rossignols. I advised not to over tighten the new bindings.Kevin jumped off a mogul and jumped right out of his skis, safety strap flipped them around to top of his head, result:  collapse in a flurry of snow, trip to ER, shaved patch of hair and many stitches. He laughed about, but always blamed me for my poor advice.

I apologize for not being able to attend Kevin’s memorial and missing a chance to meet all the family that Kevin spoke so proudly of. Betsy and I are out of the country.

Although terribly saddened, I concentrate on the fun memories to get through.

We share your profound loss.

There are hundreds of stories about Kevin. I’ve been going over them in my head for the last 2 weeks to find one, two or three stories that covey the true, complex personality of Kevin.

It could be a story about our crazy ski trips - like when Kevin paraded down the stairs in Nancy’s bathing suit and sweater, cigarette and drink in hand. Or a more serious story about his business acumen and the tutorials he gave me when I worked for him at Framesi. Or a sentimental tale of when we watched the 3 boys while Carol gave birth to Catherine.

He was kind, he was crazy, he was brilliant and sometimes he was all three at the same time. With my husband, Steve, gone and now Kevin gone, I think there must be a pretty good party taking place in heaven. Those of us left behind have to endure a boring world without Kevin but there will be many, many memories to keep us laughing still.