I had a speech prepared for Kevin’s celebration of life, however i was too scared to read it…so im gonna post it here :
This is not a speech i thought i would ever have to write. No matter how many times I’ve have redone this over the last couple of weeks, all of it has felt completely wrong.I guess when your nightmare becomes a reality, no words are going to suffice.
The night before Kevin and I went on our final date; Kevin was messing with his Magic cards which i was secretly writing my vows that I was going to read at our wedding. It was going to be a surprise that he would find out the day of.
Kevin was such an amazing dad to our kids. No one can ever argue that fact nor can they compare. I hear his laugh and see his smile in our son. In our sweet bug, I see his gentle eyes and his goofy personality. They truly are mirror images of their dad. Whenever I would tell Kevin this, he would jokingly roll his eyes & say with all of the confidence and sarcasm possible
“Yea…cause im awesome”
Awesome…amazing…my everything in one person.
I’m sure that in true Kevin fashion he was hanging out there watching everything and telling us all to take a shot every time someone cried.
The only thing that feels right to read is the vows i should have been reading to Kevin in 2 months
So Kevin - today I remake a promise that I will always choose you. In this life, the next, and every life after that. I will find you and choose you…over and over. In no way am I without flaws; but you…our kids…you 3 make me strive to be the best possible version of myself. I thank the higher powers every day for bringing us back to one another and here - today - even though it took some detours….this story is finally coming to a happy end.
I vow to love you without reservation or judgement. I promise to take accountability for my wrongdoings and to hold you accountable as well so we can continue to grow not just as a couple…but as people. And if death does take us from one another, I vow to find you in every lifetime.
You are one of the best things to happen to me, Kevin. I love you most. Give Jager puppy a hug for me. Ill look for you in the stars and in our next lifetime