There was no speaking allowed at her service so I figured I would say it here 

If you ask anybody who knew Kari well to say one thing about her, I think most people would say she had a big heart. So it came as no surprise when the medical examiner said she had an enlarged heart. We already knew that.

When Kari loved you, you knew it—there was no question. She showed you all the time. She genuinely cared about people. She remembered not just their names, but personal details about the folks at the grocery store or anywhere she went regularly.

One time, we went to talk to the manager at Harris Teeter about how great their guy Mike was in the deli. He was very overweight, dealing with health issues, and his skin was cracked and painful—you could tell he was hurting. But he always lit up when Kari came around. She had that effect on a lot of people. Everyone smiled when they saw her.

She was beautiful, funny, and sweet. She knew all sorts of random facts about presidents, history, and especially animals, and she loved sharing them even when we weren’t talking about anything related. She never put herself first, even when she should have. Her kids were her number one. I’ve never seen grown kids climb into bed with their mom the way hers did—regularly. They’d come snuggle with her and watch TV. (We had a queen bed, plus the dog always wanted on too, so I’d end up on this tiny little sliver. But Kari couldn’t have been happier.)

She was so sentimental , she kept everything ! She carried around a rock for years , it was her lucky rock ,she said, cause she had it the day we met. It didn’t take much to make her happy. She loved flowers, a heartfelt card, snuggles, or even just holding hands—anything to reach those necessary 14 meaningful touches a day. I heard about that one a lot.

I could talk about Kari and share funny or sweet stories for hours. But I’m just going to tell you how we met. Kari rang my doorbell and asked for a charging block. She was obviously upset, so I invited her in and let her charge her phone. We talked a little, and she didn’t have anywhere to go, so I told her she could stay on the couch for a few days. Then a few more.

That month ended up being horrible—my dad passed away, and then a week later, my good friend was killed. Kari was there for me the whole time, doing anything she thought might help. It wasn’t long before I realized I loved her and just blurted it out. And the rest, as they say, is history.

So as we say goodbye to Kari, the world is losing someone special. There’s going to be less joy, less laughter, and a lot less love in it. I loved her, and I always will—even when she drove me nuts. I miss her and that crazy hair so much, as I’m sure you all do too.

So Kari, if you’re listening, know that we love you. I love you. And I’m very much looking forward to being able to hold you tight and kiss you all over your face when I make it there… if I make it there.

Kari’s smile, bright eyes and bubbly personality came to light when we stopped to visit on our travels.  Kari shared excitedly about Ally and my mom being  pen pals.  Before long Kari headed out as she and Graden had an art class.  She definitely was in full Mom mode and loving it.  So glad to have had the chance to share a little time with such a beautiful soul!

Heartfelt condolences.  

During some of hardest parts of my Life I found real friendship and inspiration with my two friends David and Kari, I would always look forwards to Kari’s cooking and conversation she would always light up a room she was one of the most creative people I’ve ever met. cups will forever be called vessels because of you 

We will all miss you 

She was intelligent, giving, loving, & beautiful inside & out. Our family loved her laughter, if Kari was around, you knew it, & you were going to have fun!!

We shall forever miss your beautiful soul.

Cathy and Carla and family,

So so sorry for your loss.  Sending positive thoughts to all.  I met Kari as a young girl when she and my daughter Megan were flower girls together for Carla and Dans wedding.  A special memory. 

Peace and love 

Laura Clark Dorenkamp 

Cathy, Keith, Chris and families, 

I send my love and prayers to you all at this difficult time. I remember Cari when she was a little shaver. Full of smiles and energy. I know  she was a smart talented young lady. She was a fabulous cook and seamstress. Always a sparkle in her eyes. May your cherished memories of Cari stay close in your hearts always. 

With love,

💙 Lisa Clark