Uncle Kamau is not my blood relative, but he has always been family — my dad in every way that counts. Mum and Auntie Mercy had Hiribae and me around the same time, and for the first few years of our lives we lived right across from each other. We grew up knowing that we had two mums and two dads — mummy Jacque, mummy Mercy, daddy Kamau and daddy Mwaniki. That is what we called them, because that is how real it was for us. Just a bunch of besties raising their families together...
Our lives were very intertwined. We spent Christmas holidays together every year until I was about 14. I remember Christmases with fireworks in their backyard(that the dad's set up), dinners at each other’s homes where Uncle Kamau was always singing in his goofy voices, and him and Mum being silly and making everyone laugh. We also went to the same church so we saw each other every Sunday even after we moved houses.
To show how seriously they took co-parenting, There was a time when they got together and shipped their firstborns off to boarding school. Co-parenting at its finest huh, haha. Visiting days became a Kamau–Mwaniki family affair. 2 dads, 2 mums and one big happy family- then there was me, not very impressed by this decision.😆
Anyway life happened. We grew up and life became busy. Distance crept in. But even then the bond never really left.
God brought him back into my life which now when I think about it was such a blessing. I got to spend a lot of time with my other dad this past 2 years.
In 2024, I tried to recruit Njeri to my church, NC Kilimani. I invited Njeri… but the Wanyoike I got was Uncle Kamau. She told him about it, and he joined. God makes no mistakes because like olden days I got to see him every Sunday which reminded me of just how important he has always been to me. It allowed him to keep up with my life the way a father would — he was interested, he asked questions, he showed up. He even offered to help with my brand logo. My first rough draft received very many notes from him, lol. That was love. He told me often how proud he was of me and how much he loved me, and that season felt like God gently reminding me that I have two dads — and how incredibly blessed I am.
He showed up in the hard moments too. Last year we needed to be in court and he was there with us, one dad on the stand and the other seated right beside me. And even though I often seem like I have it all together, in that moment, him seated beside me silently, I knew, without question, that I was held/supported.
In 2025, we worked closely on funeral committees, these seasons made us talk every day. I felt close to him again.
As much as it was years ago and I was really young, it felt familiar to have him that close. In fact this past 2 weeks, I have expected to see him walk in, call or text me asking for something or updating me ... This is still not real.
An interesting thing I recently noted is that, Uncle Kamau was one of the very few people who could always tell Kui and I apart. A dad never forgets his children. That is how well he knew us.
When he was in hospital, all our conversations ended with “I love you so much.” even when he couldn't talk, he mouthed those words. He would thank me for being there, and I always replied, "you are my dad, there is nowhere else I'd rather be, and I love you too so much, Uncle Kamau."
I am still struggling to wrap my mind around his passing. I have REALLY been holding it together — you know, gotta be strong for the rest, being the firstborn child of the Kamau–Mwaniki family. But I am grieving a father, a safe place, and a love that shaped my life.
You guys have always been, and will always be, family. Njeri and I were saying how blessed we are, because we are both so loved and supported at home. But being part of this Kamau–Mwaniki family has meant experiencing even more than that — being loved beyond our own homes too. Having Uncle Kamau back in my life in such a big way reminded me what it feels like to have a second set of parents, a second home, and an extra kind of love and covering. Truly, what is better than being loved in one home? Being loved in two. That is what being a Kamau–Mwaniki family member means. To one half of our big happy family, We love you and have you, always — one phone call, message, or smoke signal away.
And to Uncle/Daddy Kamau, Rest well🧡 I will miss you so much!
MUMBI.