I only met John once, but he was a gregarious, caring person. I only wish I had the opportunity to spend more time with him. He never wanted a daughter, but I wish he would have stepped up to be the father I always wanted. His death has left me with a hole in my heart and grieving that we’ll never be able to repair our relationship. 

I’m glad he left such a big mark on so many people’s lives and that he was loved by so many. 

This is by far the most fitting obituary that could have ever been written about John. I grew up with John, we shared many adventures,  road trips, and other expenses. We saw and heard many concerts together and we shared many long strange trips. At the time of his death we were not in each other's lives, however , I will miss him. He was deeply unique and will be missed.

John, 

Rest in peace, and

"Lay down my dear brother , lay down and take your rest"

" May the four winds blow you home again "

(And we bid you good night, Franklin's tower - Grateful Dead)

John was authentic in so many ways. We shared so much throughout the years. Both of us had a passion for cooking, so we would share pictures of the dishes that we cooked, and he would send me pictures of the dishes that he ate on the road.

We also shared a passion for music. The Grateful Dead was always our true love, but we loved others too. John, Chad, and I watched Widespread Panic in Asheville last summer and had a fabulous time. Like always, John attracted strangers with his incredible personality, so it was another amazing moment.

When I was traveling weekly to Ontario in 2025, John found a place to park his big rig, so we could hang out in Buffalo. John was consistently there. He was an incredible friend and person whom I will always miss and admire. 

I am still trying to fathom this loss of a wonderful person who had so much to offer us. It truly saddens me, but I am grateful for 26 years of memories.

So Many Roads…

To Reba, Jennifer and Carol, 

I want to express my sympathy as you mourn the loss of John. May memories of his life bring you comfort and peace. 

Love, Robin Lane Holton