Oh no! I am so, so sorry to hear this sad (and shocking) news. I'm so sorry.
I'm sending my love and my best vibes and my best wishes. I'm so sorry.
Sometime during the pandemic, I started - for the first time in 50 years or so - to pray. To whom or what, I don't know. But it helps, a little, I think. So, I'm praying for Jim and you and Kiyo and everyone in Jim's circle of love.
Emily - your obituary/tribute is very beautiful. I hadn't seen Jim in long time ... but this story is completely consistent with my very fond memories of Jim: kind, smart, funny, unpretentious ... and fierce and brave about understanding, arguing, and writing about this fucked up world. And thanks for sharing these beautiful and very powerful photos. The photo of Jim and Kiyo at each other's throats, literally, made me smile, and cry. Kiyo is lucky to have Jim. I'm so, so sorry for his loss.
Back in the day, as Emily knows, a bunch of lefty UMass econ grad students and some of our variously radical and offbeat friends (including Jim) formed a softball team - “Brand X”(we took no corporate money and thus had no sponsor). For several years, we played in the Northampton town league. Those Brand X days are wonderfully memorable for me. A group of good and likable people, having fun, getting better, and taking it all appropriately seriously, and then enjoying each other over pizza and rolling rock – with still more friends - at Joe's on Market Street in Northampton. It was great relief from – and a great alternative to - the stressful and often degrading grad school experience. Getting to know Jim during those years was one more wonderful part of that experience. I was (and am) grateful to have shared the outfield and 100s of pizzas and several pitchers of cheap beer with Jim Dee. As one of the teams organizers, I appreciated that Jim was such a wonderful collaborator. He was lovable and funny and he had the whole thing in perspective. No inclination toward drama, and he skillfully diffused silly moments of drama pretty often. And, it turned out, Jim Dee was a *great* hitter. I remember my brother Carl commenting after one game, in his spot- on sportscaster voice: “All Jim Dee does is hit line drives!”
My amazing 31 year old daughter, Leah, called the other day, just after I'd learned that Jim had passed. At some point, for some reason (there are so many!) she said: “what percentage of men aren't assholes??” I thought: it's a low percentage. But Jim Dee was such a good man.
I'm so, so sorry about this said news, Emily.
Much love, Tim