Jake was one of my closest friends growing up. He was always the coolest dude in the room. I looked up to him even though we are the same age. He was one of the most genuine, respectful, fun and cool people I've ever known. He always had my back and was there with an easy laugh or support whenever I needed it...my deepest condolences to Deb and all the family. This was way too soon...I'm forever grateful for all the awesome memories of times we had together and will endeavor to let his spirit live in me as much as possible; like I know it will in so many many others who knew him. Rest in Peace brother... I'll see you on the other side.
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Ben Randolph
2023, Radio Coffee & Beer, Menchaca Rd, Austin, TX, USA
After a few months of things disconnected because of our competing schedules and now living on opposite sides of the city, Jake reached out to me to have coffee and give me a Christmas card in mid-December of last year. Anyone who’s ever been to Radio knows that it is impossible to park and you really have to watch it because it’s easy to get towed. Park at the end of the street near the residential area and walk back toward Menchaca Rd. I arrived about 5-10 minutes early it happened to see Jake’s Camry coming towards me. I noticed that the entire driver’s side of his vehicle was dented and damaged, requiring serious body work. It looked fresh. Yes he made eye contact with me and began to roll his window down, I yelled, “Hey! What the hell happened? When did this happen?” Without letting his beaming smile collapse evenly slightly, he replied, “Hey brother…Oh that? Yeah, a guy side-swiped me just now and sped away.” My face expressed horror and panic. I began to spout off a series of questions, like “Jake, shouldn’t you make some kind of report and call your claims department?” Jake had successfully manifested the ideal parking spot by this point, disengaged the engine, stepped out of the car (screeching noises from where the metal had buckled on impact), embraced me with a big hug, looked me straight in the eye and replied, “Dude, I’m not worried about it. It’s just a car.” And (forgive me for having to paraphrase) ended with an expression something akin to a line from some kind of Zen Koan….”what happens is what is meant to happen.” We walked together up the wooden staircase onto the deck (which ironically now all decks and patios remind me of Jake and the pride he took in the quality of his carpentry work) and found a spot to sit and catch up over a cup of Joe. What I admired most about Jake was an attitude or jen ne se quoi that I wouldn’t quite describe as apathetic or even nonchalant. I have indeed seen Jake get righteously angry. But he knew what was important in life and taught me through the course of our brief 18-month friendship, what was truly important and that attachment to material things will only take us out of the present moment and into emotional turmoil, raising our cortisol levels and separating us from our values like acceptance, emotional/mental fitness, and being of service to others. Of all the many times Jake was late for whatever mundane thing he had to do to meet the expectations of others, he managed to show up eventually. It was more important for him to meet that evening, hang out with a buddy, exchange gifts, talk music, jobs, family, and recovery, than it was to make a police report, or chase down a car in anger. Cars will come and go in our lives and sadly so will people, but I cherish every moment I got to spend with him and I seek to embody his level of acceptance in my own life on a daily basis because it’s a rare quality to have, even if it seems like a maladaptive way to cope to some. Rest peacefully, Jedi.
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Jake was a dear friend. Pete and I will miss him immensely. Our deepest sympathies and Love for his family and friends especially Chloe and Deb. Godspeed.
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Jake was one of the first friends I remember having. We didn't talk much anymore over the past few years but when we did he was the same Jake I knew 27 years ago. I will truly miss him. I'm so sorry for your loss Deb, it was truly a honor growing up with your son.
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Jake was my spiritual advisor and helped me more times then I can count. He was there for me constantly and also helped me get out of Texas and get to Florida to have a better life. I wish I had came back to see him like I promised. You'll be missed and I will hold on to your messages and words youve spoken to me for life.
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He was my nephew (son of my brother, Scott, and his wonderful wife, Deb. Jake and I were in contact by email or text for many years. He was back in Nebraska for Scott’s funeral and we had a lot of long talks. He was such a loving, tender hearted, intelligent young man! It’s hard to believe that he is no longer here on earth but I have a feeling he is looking down on us and sending his love. Will miss our talks and the great pics you sent to me. You will always occupy a very special place in my heart and mind! Love You, Jake🌺❤️🌺
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I am very saddened by Jake's passing. He grew up next door and i watched him grow and play with all the boys. I have fond memories of his smile and laughter. He will be missed.
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Jake was one of my first friends. My core group growing up. I still remember time we went to the Texas Renaissance Festival. I also recall helping him for an Algebra test while having some Budweiser and watching The Departed by Martin Scorsese. He'll forever be my friend. He will be missed and Deb, Scott and Chloe and other family members I'm sorry for your loss. He will always be remembered fondly by me.
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I am so sorry to hear about Jake. ⚘️🕉⚘️ He was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met. I know he will be missed by Deb and his family and countless friends, and by Chloe; his daughter. He talked to me about her so fondly. Much love.
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