It’s surprising to me how often I think of and speak of Ilene. She was like the coolest, wisest big sister ever. Wherever you are Ilene, know that the rock opera is almost done and there are so many lyrics based on your words. I really do miss you. 

In October 2018, I wrote a blog post announcing my diagnosis of breast cancer.  Ilene found me.  Immediately, we had a connection.  She gave me wonderful referrals and connections with others online.  In April 2019 when I blogged about being found with no evidence of disease, Ilene did not bite her tongue to tell me not to feel guilty.  I wanted so badly for there to be a miracle for her.  Her bravery, passion to write, and strength encouraging others will never be forgotten.  My condolences to all of her family and friends, online and in person. 

Craig how do you capture such a deeply beautiful soul in writing? I still haven’t admitted to myself that she is gone. She was the most giving loving person I had ever met. I felt so privileged to be a part of her life and her cancer journey. She hated when people would use the word “fighter” to describe her cancer journey.  Maybe she wasn’t a fighter in her mind but to me she was!  But she was so much more than her diagnosis and she wanted people to see that. She was a healer and an advocate in the lives of others. She handled her diagnosis with so much grace. Every time I saw her (which was all the time!) she would always ask how I was. She was always much more concerned for others than for herself. I remember toward the end of her life she spoke in length about the importance of being of service to others. This was such a huge part of her life. She put so much importance in helping others in the cancer community. And she had the best laugh!  She was so bright and so witty. I would love when I could really make her laugh and get her going. Her smile would light up the room. God she was stunningly beautiful inside and out. I know she’s in a better place and no longer in pain but for those of us left behind there has been a bulb taken out of the brightness of our hearts that we can never replace. Damn I miss her. Rest In Peace my beautiful friend I love you. 

This woman changed my life in just one year. Her poetry and blog posts have been a great comfort to me and getting to meet her via Zoom back in October was incredible. She was such a beautiful soul and I will miss her dearly. 

I am still in shock of how fast what we all knew would happen happened. I feel like I need to write a long message like the impossibly long texts she would send people but I’m at a loss. She improved my life and I miss her. 

I am so sorry for your loss!   I send you my love and support. 

Rest In Peace Brilliant, Beautiful Woman.💞