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On May 21, 2025, my mother lost the love of her life — her partner of 25 years, her caregiver, her safe place. He was a Vietnam Veteran, a Purple Heart recipient, and the kind of man who never spoke much about his sacrifices, but you could feel his strength in the way he lived: quietly, generously, and always for others.
They were never married, not because they didn’t want to be, but because her complex medical needs meant she couldn’t risk losing access to her specialists. So they lived as family — in love, in partnership, and in a home he worked so hard to make safe and accessible for her.
His passing was sudden. There was no time to prepare. And now, everything he provided — stability, care, financial support — is gone. What remains are urgent, essential needs: the mortgage and equity loan on the house, yes, but also food, electricity, water, medications, transportation to appointments. All of it is now at risk.
My mom is disabled. She suffers from fibromyalgia, COPD, vestibular neuritis, severe hearing loss, a degenerative hip, and spinal disc ruptures. Her immune system is compromised. She’s down to 98 pounds from stress and grief. And she’s scared. More than that — she’s heartbroken.
This house isn’t just a roof. It was modified to meet her needs. Her doctors are nearby. Her equipment is here. My brother, who also lives with disabilities, relies on this home just as much. But even more than that — their survival right now depends on basic necessities and ongoing care.
I live about four hours away and have been doing everything I can — working remotely, risking my job — to be here and care for them both. Relocating them to my home would require significant changes and funding we don’t currently have. So we face two difficult paths: raise enough to help sustain them here and keep their care intact, or raise enough to move them closer to me with the right support.
We don’t have time to wait. We need help — urgently — to cover essential expenses and figure out the next safe step forward.
There is a will, but with very limited assets — just the house (with a full mortgage and equity loan) and an old truck. I had mistakenly said otherwise before; grief makes everything harder, including communication. Thank you for your patience.
I know times are hard for many. But if you’ve ever known me, you know I rarely ask for help. Today, I am humbly asking. If you can give — anything at all — it will make a difference. And if you can’t, please share our story. Help us reach someone who might be able to.
My hope is to show my mom she’s not alone. That even now, kindness and community can carry her through.
With love and hope,
Angel
If you’d like to help in another way, please don’t hesitate to message me. Contribute
They were never married, not because they didn’t want to be, but because her complex medical needs meant she couldn’t risk losing access to her specialists. So they lived as family — in love, in partnership, and in a home he worked so hard to make safe and accessible for her.
His passing was sudden. There was no time to prepare. And now, everything he provided — stability, care, financial support — is gone. What remains are urgent, essential needs: the mortgage and equity loan on the house, yes, but also food, electricity, water, medications, transportation to appointments. All of it is now at risk.
My mom is disabled. She suffers from fibromyalgia, COPD, vestibular neuritis, severe hearing loss, a degenerative hip, and spinal disc ruptures. Her immune system is compromised. She’s down to 98 pounds from stress and grief. And she’s scared. More than that — she’s heartbroken.
This house isn’t just a roof. It was modified to meet her needs. Her doctors are nearby. Her equipment is here. My brother, who also lives with disabilities, relies on this home just as much. But even more than that — their survival right now depends on basic necessities and ongoing care.
I live about four hours away and have been doing everything I can — working remotely, risking my job — to be here and care for them both. Relocating them to my home would require significant changes and funding we don’t currently have. So we face two difficult paths: raise enough to help sustain them here and keep their care intact, or raise enough to move them closer to me with the right support.
We don’t have time to wait. We need help — urgently — to cover essential expenses and figure out the next safe step forward.
There is a will, but with very limited assets — just the house (with a full mortgage and equity loan) and an old truck. I had mistakenly said otherwise before; grief makes everything harder, including communication. Thank you for your patience.
I know times are hard for many. But if you’ve ever known me, you know I rarely ask for help. Today, I am humbly asking. If you can give — anything at all — it will make a difference. And if you can’t, please share our story. Help us reach someone who might be able to.
My hope is to show my mom she’s not alone. That even now, kindness and community can carry her through.
With love and hope,
Angel
If you’d like to help in another way, please don’t hesitate to message me. Contribute
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