Memories of Frederick T. Bail

Jeff Bail

I'm really missing you Uncle Fred. I'll be seeing you in church someday.

For those who want to watch the Hawaii service I've put it on a unlisted youtube link here: https://youtu.be/-6KCjTF6g3g

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Kaitlin Jaqua

Dearest Family of Dr. Bail, I am so sorry for your loss. He was such a joyful, kind, brilliant man! I met him back in the early 90s when my mom started to attended U of H for her Ph. D. Dr. My mother (Elizabeth (Peecook) Baroi) would often have to take my sister and me to classes. He never minded, in fact he always welcomed us! My favorite memory of him was all the mixed tapes of 50s 60s music he would make and give to me. I LOVED THEM! My knowledge of that music is all because of him. He was an amazing man. I will always have the foundest memories of Dr. Bail.
Sincerely, Kaitlin Jaqua

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Caroline Bail

Thanks, Kaitlin, I'm glad you got to know him! And we all love the mix tapes he made for us, one of his ... Read more Thanks, Kaitlin, I'm glad you got to know him! And we all love the mix tapes he made for us, one of his specialities. He was... Read more Thanks, Kaitlin, I'm glad you got to know him! And... Read more

Liz Baroi

What a tragic loss for the world. Fred had a PROFOUND impact on my studies in ed psych.

As one of his students in the early 90's, he enjoyed discussing metacognition, self-regulation, and his Human Information Processing model. I present all of these today to my own psychology students and always talk about the man who greatly inspired me.

He impacted my two daughters, who, on rare occasions, attended evening classes with me when there was no babysitter available. He was so kind to them! They loved Fred! They, too, are deeply saddened by his death. They had hoped to take a trip to Oahu to see him again in the near future, with THEIR own children.

Farewell, my fellow ENFP! Liz (formerly Peecook) Baroi and daughters, Lindsey and Kaitlin

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Caroline Bail

Liz - yes. I'm an ENFP as well. Mahalo nui loa for your kind and true words. Fred was my dear brother ... Read more Liz - yes. I'm an ENFP as well. Mahalo nui loa for your kind and true words. Fred was my dear brother and I will miss him tremendously.... Read more Liz - yes. I'm an ENFP as well. Mahalo nui loa for... Read more

Scott Rowland

We miss hearing his voice over the back hedge, cheering or groaning, depending on what his beloved Boston sports team happens to be doing at the moment. Aloha Fred.

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Paul Deering

Mahalo to Chuck and the Bail 'Ohana for a beautiful memorial to Fred on Sunday. It was so sweet to hear all... Read more Mahalo to Chuck and the Bail 'Ohana for a beautiful memorial to Fred on Sunday. It was so sweet to hear all the tales of the love... Read more Mahalo to Chuck and the Bail 'Ohana for a beautiful... Read more

Caroline Bail

Mahalo, friends, it WAS a beautiful memorial. Thank you for being there. Mahalo, friends, it WAS a beautiful memorial. Thank you for being there. Mahalo, friends, it WAS a beautiful memorial. Thank... Read more

Rena Cuizon- Garcia

When I had my first meeting with Fred at UH in his cluttered office filled with paperwork, pictures and books stacked as tall as me he said warmly with a big smile, “Have a seat.” I thought, “where?” I realized he was a manifestation of his love of concept maps; everything scattered but rightly so, so that everything was in arm’s length; everything connected. He was a brilliant teacher, connecting with all of his students in his own special way. He had a gift of connecting with first-generation college students like me who walked onto the UH campus and had no clue if we could truly fit in and be academically successful. He took the time to get to know his students and to teach in a way that was meaningful. He continues to inspire me as an educator. When I think of Fred, I think of this wonderful concept map of connections he made and I am so grateful and honored to have had him has my mentor and my dear friend. I will think of “butterflies flying in formation” to channel positive energy, the ocean’s healing powers, and life’s silver linings. My deepest condolences to Fred’s family. My heart and my prayers are with you.

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Caroline Bail

Dear Reba: Thank you so much for your letter, and for sending your family to represent you at the memorial.... Read more Dear Reba: Thank you so much for your letter, and for sending your family to represent you at the memorial. It was wonderful! ... Read more Dear Reba: Thank you so much for your letter, and for... Read more

Darrell Lum

I regret not being able to attend Fred's memorial but I'll be thinking of his big smile and true interest in the well-being of those around him. He was my mentor and friend and steadfast supporter of minority and low-income students at the University. You couldn't help but feel valued and included when he shared his passion with all of us: music, Waimanalo, wild ideas, and poi. A wonderful way to remember him!

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Annie Li

Fred was a kind, funny, loving client that I enjoy working with. One of our thing is at the end of each year I'd call him ask about taking out his minimum distribution, he'd tell me the amounts to give to charities, and I'd prepare the forms and send to him...

He made us personal CD one year, mine was titled "Annie's Peaces", it was one of my favorites, every time I listen to it, I do truly feel peace at heart. As I'm listening to it and thinking of him now, he's probably sitting by a beautiful beach in heaven and listening to his favorite music...RIP, Fred, you'll be remembered by many.

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Lois Yamauchi

2019, UHM Campus Center

The afternoon he died, I talked with Fred, and he told me that he would come to our HERA presentation on Saturday to see William Greene from Oregon and Andrea Purcell from LA. William, Andrea, Kathy Ratliffe and I were all students of Fred's. The title of our presentation was "Teaching with Aloha." We dedicated the session to Fred and reflected on how his teaching and life were always "with Aloha." He inspired us all and we will miss him --Lois Yamauchi

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Dick Bail

What a wonderful way to memorialize, Fred. Thank you. Wish I could have been there as I did attend a few ... Read more What a wonderful way to memorialize, Fred. Thank you. Wish I could have been there as I did attend a few of his classes over the... Read more What a wonderful way to memorialize, Fred. Thank you.... Read more

Caroline Bail

Yes, I am also glad to hear of this event. I'm sure a tear or two was shed there as well. That's a great... Read more Yes, I am also glad to hear of this event. I'm sure a tear or two was shed there as well. That's a great picture, not sure it... Read more Yes, I am also glad to hear of this event. I'm sure... Read more

Sue Atkins

I think I graduated with William December 1998. I think I graduated with William December 1998. I think I graduated with William December 1998.

Paul Deering

A Beautiful Soul! Fred will be missed. Especially by music lovers!

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Paul. And that is true! Thank you, Paul. And that is true! Thank you, Paul. And that is true!

Stephen Chinen

Aloha, Family and Friends of Fred ... my deepest sympathy to everyone. My heart fell when I saw his newspaper obituary. I was a student in his Ed Psych undergraduate course in Spring 1980 ... wow, 39 years ago. I remember the course and Fred so well because of how much I valued the experience. For either our first or second class, we met in the park near the entrance to Mid-Pacific Institute for a great experiential learning activity. He required us to write reaction papers for different activities, and he always commented on what we wrote with positive and encouraging words. He was transparent about his grading, using a simple point system. When I told him I was learning Aikido and practiced deep breathing, he encouraged me to lead the class in a breathing activity, which I did in Andrew's Amphitheater. I was very touched and impressed by him and his teaching, and he has definitely influenced my career as a teacher and school counselor. I regret never crossing paths with him again after that semester; I wish I had visited him in his office to talk story and to thank him again. I am so very grateful for having taken his class nearly four decades ago and having him be an important part of my life. Mahalo nui loa for everyone's stories ... thank you for sharing and allowing me to get to know him better. Aloha, Fred! Until we meet again ...

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Stephen. Fred was a great teacher, for all of us! Thank you, Stephen. Fred was a great teacher, for all of us! Thank you, Stephen. Fred was a great teacher, for ... Read more

Laurie Ishida

Fred was a remarkable mentor and friend. I took a graduate class from him in 2003 and he was my advisor for my Plan B paper. He challenged me to think, revise, reorganize, re-think, rewrite, research, rethink- it took me forever and a day. When I thought I was almost done, I sent him an e-mail with my attached revisions. Subject: Is there life beyond this computer? I wrote, “I think I see the light at the end of the tunnel.” He responded, “Those are headlights. Stop playing in traffic.”
He later encouraged me to publish, but family life beckoned me more than sitting at that darn computer. Beyond his wisdom and thought-provoking questions, I loved his kolohe wit and whimsical sense of humor. He sent a photo of him floating in his “church” - Waimanalo beach while I was tethered to my computer. After grad school we kept in touch mostly through email with him gently nudging me to publish or create a organizational skills handbook for teachers; but alas I wasn’t that organized! I loved bantering with him from our “almost” shared birthday, same MBTI dimensions, to his love of his discretionary time when he retired. His irreverent humor was like a samurai sword, sharp and swift! He was a great listener, always moving you toward the bigger picture. One of the last emails I received from him was to challenge people to analyze the puzzle of Escherian Staircase. Fred was generous in his pursuit of knowledge, love of music -burning mixed CDs, care, and compassion. He told me he loved doing the MBTI for people because it helped him organize his thoughts and how he interacts with people who have different perspectives. I loved his email signature from an elder, “Happiness is a choice, not a condition.” To his family and his chosen-friend family, my heartfelt condolences for your loss. I know he adored his nieces and nephews - he always put time with them ahead of meeting up with us.
At the end of our lives, we all hope that we made a difference in this place called Earth. Fred certainly made a profoundly positive difference in mine and I know my life is enriched because of my time with Fred Bail. Blessings to you all.

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Laurie, for your descriptive - and well-written!- memory of Fred. It reminds me of so many parts... Read more Thank you, Laurie, for your descriptive - and well-written!- memory of Fred. It reminds me of so many parts of him that I know... Read more Thank you, Laurie, for your descriptive - and well-written!-... Read more

Laurie Ishida

My desk is as messy as Fred’s. I’ll search for it. My desk is as messy as Fred’s. I’ll search for it. My desk is as messy as Fred’s. I’ll search for it.

Caroline Bail

As mentioned, I found his test results: ENFP, just like me. As mentioned, I found his test results: ENFP, just like me. As mentioned, I found his test results: ENFP, just ... Read more

Carol Pang

it was shocking to read the news of fred's passing...

as a former graduate student of his, i will remember fred most for his easy smile, contagious laughter, and gentleness..

such a beautiful soul; he will be missed by so many whose lives he touched.

with deepest sympathy

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Michael Sweeney

Fred was a great friend and classmate ('61) at WHRHS. When my wife and I visited Hawaii for our 25th anniversary in '97, Fred took us everywhere on Oahu, places most sightseers never view! Just tremendous! I know how much he loved Hawaii! He will be missed!
Mike Sweeney
Middleboro, MA

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Caroline Bail

Thanks for your kind words, Mike. We will all miss him terribly. Thanks for your kind words, Mike. We will all miss him terribly. Thanks for your kind words, Mike. We will all miss ... Read more

Russell Greene

We at First Congregational Church UCC in Whitman held up Fred and all his family in prayer today (Sunday). Richard Sr. and Vivian were very active members of our church for over 40 years. Their support of our missions and activities were valuable to our congregation (including my daughter whom they sponsored as a confirmand). They helped us to thrive for decades. It is a loss for all who knew him. As the Jewish people say, "May his name be for a blessing". Russ Greene, Deacon

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Russell - so good to know that Fred was remembered there at church in Whitman. We truly appreciate... Read more Thank you, Russell - so good to know that Fred was remembered there at church in Whitman. We truly appreciate the thoughts and... Read more Thank you, Russell - so good to know that Fred was ... Read more

Daniel Dorman

This news about Fred brought on a rush of fond memories. He was always a very special person.

My condolences to all those who knew and loved him.

Dan Dorman
Bowdoin '65

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Thank you, Dan Thank you, Dan Thank you, Dan

Ernestine Enomoto

2010, Ed Psych office

Fred's welcome was always "E komo mai"

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Ernestine Enomoto

Of the many gifts that Fred gave me were the CD mixes that he created on his computer, introducing me to ... Read more Of the many gifts that Fred gave me were the CD mixes that he created on his computer, introducing me to new musicians, artists,... Read more Of the many gifts that Fred gave me were the CD mixes... Read more

Caroline Bail

Me, too, Ernestine. Thanks for the photo! Me, too, Ernestine. Thanks for the photo! Me, too, Ernestine. Thanks for the photo!

Stacey Takanishi

Fred gave so much to so many! His gift of gab, free spirit, and warm smile connected people and challenged them to be their best. He maintained balance in his life and enjoyed it to the fullest. Rest peacefully, Fred.

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Caroline Bail

Thanks for this thought. Thanks for this thought. Thanks for this thought.

Linda Hufano

I am so saddened to learn of Fred’s passing. I met him in the seventies and even though I never got the chance to take a course from him, he was always, always amazingly supportive. In recent years he invited me to be part of the regular meetings of Ed Psych ohana at Starbucks in Koko Marina. It was one of the things I looked forward to in retirement. So sorry I never got the chance. You will be missed, Fred, but not forgotten for all the kindness and joy you shared with us all.

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Caroline Bail

I hope you all keep on at Starbucks! Fred will be there in spirit. I hope you all keep on at Starbucks! Fred will be there in spirit. I hope you all keep on at Starbucks! Fred will be there... Read more

Sue Atkins

I didn't know about these meetings. I only knew about the gatherings on Tuesday morning at McDonald's near... Read more I didn't know about these meetings. I only knew about the gatherings on Tuesday morning at McDonald's near Safeway's in Hawaii... Read more I didn't know about these meetings. I only knew about... Read more

Kathy Tibbetts

Sending my aloha to you in this time of loss. I hope you are also able to hang on to the memories that make you smile and laugh. I remember Fred as a great teddy bear of a man with a tremendous intellect. But mostly I remember the unconditional aloha he showed to all of us.
Aloha kekahi i kekahi, Kathy Tibbetts

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mahalo, Kathy. mahalo, Kathy. mahalo, Kathy.

Selvin Chin-Chance

2016, McDonald's, Keahole Street, Hawaii Kai, Honolulu, HI, USA

The Mickey D Group

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Sue Atkins

RIP Eddie Fred Pete ❤ 🧡 💛 RIP Eddie Fred Pete ❤ 🧡 💛 RIP Eddie Fred Pete ❤ 🧡 💛

Sue Atkins

RIP Eddie Fred Pete Selvin 😪 RIP Eddie Fred Pete Selvin 😪 RIP Eddie Fred Pete Selvin 😪

Selvin Chin-Chance

2016, McDonald's, Keahole Street, Hawaii Kai, Honolulu, HI, USA

Although he would respond to "Dr. Bail" his preferred moniker was "Fred" even to his students. This gesture personified the informality and friendliness he exuded to all. Some of his students thought of him as a giant Teddy Bear. Although not my advisor he was an invaluable friend and advisor throughout my time in the Educational Psychology Department. He made a lasting impression on my kids and he was asking about their well being. He was that kind of guy. The time we spent together with the MickeyD group gave deep insights into the warmth of his personality. It also provided an opportunity for me to become his teacher. He knew of my passion for photography and I felt honored to offer him advice in this area. Fred you will be missed.

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Xenia Montenegro

I am very thankful and feel privileged to have known Fred and have him as my mentor, friend and dissertation... Read more I am very thankful and feel privileged to have known Fred and have him as my mentor, friend and dissertation chairman. He is ... Read more I am very thankful and feel privileged to have known... Read more

Larry Test

Fred has been a dear friend since his early days in Hawaii. We shared many good times together, and after I moved from Honolulu to Hilo in 1975 we continued to communicate on a regular basis. After I retired 10 years ago and returned to Honolulu, I looked forward to seeing him regularly with our other close long time friends at McD's nearly every Tuesday morning. He will be much missed, but so many fond memories will always be part of my heart!

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Larry, for your words. Thank you, Larry, for your words. Thank you, Larry, for your words.

Tricia Howard

Freddie was my first babysitter. When he asked me if I wanted something I would reply”nup” which of course was a combination of yes and no and meant to aggravate my sitter. Instead he would just play along with me... In 1979 I moved to Hawaii and visited his home and it was always a comfort to know I had a big brother to call on.

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Caroline Bail

Tricia my dear one, not a blood sister but one of the heart, it is a honor and privilege to have shared this... Read more Tricia my dear one, not a blood sister but one of the heart, it is a honor and privilege to have shared this big brother. I ... Read more Tricia my dear one, not a blood sister but one of the... Read more

Ruth Streveler

I was blessed to have Fred as my PhD advisor at UH. He taught me how to be truly supportive of students. Now that I am a professor myself, with past and current advisees myself, I continue to draw on all I learned by being with Fred. I will always remember his quick, broad smile and those twinkling blue eyes!

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Caroline Bail

Thank you, Ruth. I will remember them, too! Thank you, Ruth. I will remember them, too! Thank you, Ruth. I will remember them, too!

Linda Bail

My heart goes out to all of the family. I have so many memories of the few visits that I had. But I will definitely miss the conversations over the phone for hours sometimes. Even after Brad died he would stay in constant contact with me and he has definitely looked out for me. I will greatly miss him. But I know he's would say to me don't be sad Life goes on. He was a joy to know.

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Bill Burke

Fred was a friend, a colleague, and a mentor to me. I think anyone who knew him would agree that he was the... Read more Fred was a friend, a colleague, and a mentor to me. I think anyone who knew him would agree that he was the embodiment of aloha... Read more Fred was a friend, a colleague, and a mentor to me.... Read more

Caroline Bail

Linda, we know you are included with the whole family in this grief. We love and honor you, and the memory... Read more Linda, we know you are included with the whole family in this grief. We love and honor you, and the memory of Brad. Linda, we know you are included with the whole family... Read more

Caroline Bail

Bill, thank you for your words. And there will be such a gathering on the beach! stay in touch with Chuck... Read more Bill, thank you for your words. And there will be such a gathering on the beach! stay in touch with Chuck Larson for timing. Bill, thank you for your words. And there will be such... Read more

Hannah Slovin

As a doctoral student I learned so much in Fred's classes. But one always had the feeling that Fred was learning... Read more As a doctoral student I learned so much in Fred's classes. But one always had the feeling that Fred was learning from his students... Read more As a doctoral student I learned so much in Fred's classes.... Read more

Jonathan Yorck

I was Fred's next door neighbor on Lunahelu St in Maunawili. Fred was always friendly and cordial. After... Read more I was Fred's next door neighbor on Lunahelu St in Maunawili. Fred was always friendly and cordial. After he sold his house I ... Read more I was Fred's next door neighbor on Lunahelu St in Maunawili.... Read more

Greg Colbert

One of the things that typified Fred as a faculty member with more than the usual amount of warmth was his... Read more One of the things that typified Fred as a faculty member with more than the usual amount of warmth was his suggestion that we ... Read more One of the things that typified Fred as a faculty member... Read more

Caroline Bail

Dear Hannah, Jonathan, and Greg: Thank you all for your kind comments and memories. Greg, I remember ... Read more Dear Hannah, Jonathan, and Greg: Thank you all for your kind comments and memories. Greg, I remember that house in Mano'a,... Read more Dear Hannah, Jonathan, and Greg: Thank you all for... Read more

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