Esther, I remember when you and your family first moved to Dubai. Meeting you felt otherworldly— this amazing French-Australian tri-lingual beauty.
You were the only daughter in your family, yet you were so confident and unapologetically feminine. As the oldest daughter in my family, where I didn’t have a big sister to help me navigate growing up, I knew when I met you that I had found my role model.
You were called into young women’s and no one was more excited than me. I remember a YW sleepover where you had us over and did our hair and makeup, we got to wear your beautiful clothes, and we did a photo shoot with your nice camera. It was then that I felt like I had a big sister, and you were everything I dreamed of in an older sister: funny, confident, educated, fashionable, graceful, thoughtful, and kind.
As anolder sister, you took your role seriously. You plotted, orchestrated, timed, and connived to arrange for me to receive a rose from someone for Valentine’s Day. When you pulled off your elaborate plot, I’ve never see anyone look so proud and ecstatic! You were beaming. You were the mastermind and skillful Cupid.
You were the Galinda to this Elphaba. You helped me with what to wear, how to do makeup, and had the most easygoing reactions to things. You had good big sister advice for being a teenager and all the emotional ups and downs. I remember you adored and nurtured the other YW too. They all adored you too, but secretly I felt like your favorite little sis and I relished it.
You had a beautiful wedding in Dubai. You let me participate in an honorary role in the wedding party, at an incredible waterfront venue, and I was so delighted. My one and only job was to tell you how beautiful you looked, but somehow it was the other way around. You wanted to make sure I felt special and beautiful. You built me up so much. You were always looking out and thinking of others.
No one would deny how much you loved your family. One thing that was uniquely and very “Gubbay” to me was the whole family pausing life, canceling any obligations, dropping everything to go pick up another family member from the Dubai airport. It was like a national holiday every single time, and not infrequent either! With so many siblings coming and going, traveling, studying, and having extended family in different countries, you were always going with your family to the airport. It was a big celebration. Everyone who was there in Dubai would go together and pick up the person arriving, and it was a huge and all-day-celebrated family event. I admired your love and closeness for your family. You were there for them.
I loved seeing you relax with your siblings and parents at home. It was on the Palm, and your living room faced the beach. It was evening, and the patio door was open, and a breeze went through the house. You had these white, low, wide couches, and everyone lounged back so comfortably together. You were witty and funny and kept up with everyone. You had nicknames for your little brothers. You loved being with your family and loved them fiercely.
Just a week ago, before you passed, I thought of you. It was from our time in YW, upstairs in the little room in our rented Dubai villa-chapel. There were 5 or so of us there. It was Sunday, and for our lesson, we were water coloring our favorite temples. You were doing the lesson, and you had already finished yours - It was an effortless, beautiful painting sitting in front of the class on the chalkboard. As we were sketching, you told us a story from your time in London when you felt God’s love. You were walking out of the tube, praying. You were carrying something heavy in your heart, stress about exams, stress about the future. But as you climbed the stairs towards the exit, you looked up and saw the most beautiful sunset. It made you pause in awe. You described the comfort, light, wonder, and stillness you felt in that moment. You knew that God loved you. Having seen your talent for art, I can’t help but wonder if God showed you something special, something only his precious artist daughter could fully appreciate.
Esther I wish I would’ve reached out to you one more time to tell you the impact you had on me. You’ll always be a big sister to me. I will cherish the time we had together and the huge influence you had on my life. Thank you. I know that you rest in God’s loving care.
If Gubbay airport welcomings are anything compared to heavenly welcomings, I can barely imagine the family that lovingly welcomed you home.
I love you. God bless you. I’ll look for a special heavenly sunset painted by you for us.