Dealing with loss is a personal journey, and I'm learning firsthand as I haven’t truly experienced a devastating loss in my life up to this week... It's with bone crushing heartbreak and immense sadness to let our friends and loved ones know that my father Clifford Wolf "Cliff" passed away Tuesday, July 19th due to complications stemming from Covid pneumonia, he was 72 years old.
My father and mother are the ultimate constants in my life. I've always had them to lean on. My dad was a stoic supporter of everything I've ever done. He’s been my #1 fan encouraging me my entire life. He’s bailed me out when I got in trouble….and amazingly so because the amount of trouble I got into, you would think he had made some big mistakes along the way in the parenting department, or probably should have disowned me at sometime during my high school years – LOL – NEVERHTELESS, he supported me, and loved me..... and let my mom tell me that I had shit for brains….We turned out all right
My dad loved and cared so deeply for me and I've always known this, but I only now know the true depths of his love because of how others describe their relationship with my father. My friends, His close friends, our family. The way in which they describe their experience with me about my dad, with our family, I know now how special it truly is, whereas before I've taken it for granted, thinking this is what everyone experiences, more or less, with their father.
Although we are deeply saddened by how untimely this tragedy has been, the outpouring of love and support has been beautiful. I now see the love graced upon me for the wonder that it was my entire life and truly grateful for it.
I've felt I’ve held it together, but I do I break down and cry when I hear how he was admired by my friends, how he was loved by his friends, how much our direct and extended family cared so deeply and passionately for him…. I wish we held a fake death party 5 years ago for him so he could see the love that people have had for him, and the positive effects that his soul, his actions, his way of life has been so inspiring, life-altering, and momentous in so many other people's lives, personally and professionally, that it's such a beautiful thing yet heartbreaking at the same time.
It's with this outpouring of love and affection that I know he has had a successful life. It's not just from a beautiful marriage of 40 years, not just from raising 2 kids and the experience of watching them grow, it's not just from having 4 grandkids and the immense joy a grandparent must feel from this experience, it's not just from the challenges overcame and losses felt, but it's from the differences he's made in others that has so touched me and convinced me that he was fully engaged in his calling, he was doing life right, and although he has left us way too soon, that I know his time on earth was well spent. I know he touched countless lives, healed thousands and made this world a better place then where he found it.
I Love you dad.
A memorial service is being held on Sunday September 4th at 3:00 at Lighthouse Christian Church in Oceanside. (my dad, the eternal "mensch" was such a good mensch to my mother, that he converted) - friends and family of all denominations are welcome and my brother has already warned the pastor. In lieu of flowers or gifts, a memorial fund has been established – Venmo @SteveWolf
Thank you to everyone that has reached out and connected with us these past few days - we love and appreciate you.