For too brief a time, Debbie was a great friend. I'm not sure how I earned her trust, initially I was just some quiet techie type arranging livestreams for some morons who thought they were going to save the world but couldn't even livestream properly. (Funny how the irony didn't occur to me.) She was picky about people of course, so am I, and so we were happy to spend time and exchange friendship. Eventually we both decided to get on with our lives, and she quit social media completely, as you know. It was the healthy choice, her choice alone, and you should consider it too, at least take breaks. Claudia and I are still here, sort of, and I bet Debbie would give us a bit of a scowl if she could. On the other hand, she wasn't really judgmental at all, quite honestly. Maybe she would just say "You guyyysss!" in her saucy way, making you feel semi-guilty but fully loved at the same time.
So yes, Debbie fought demons inside and outside of her. You don't win every fight, but she won enough. Yes, I am proud how she was able to galvanize and charm others, but it took a toll, just so you know. I was always concerned for her, I knew how sometimes when you care too much about something you can't do anything about, it tears you apart. If you admired her, please take a moment to appreciate not the content, but Debbie as a person pouring her heart out at great cost to herself at times. I'm afraid none of us are going to be able to pay this back, but there's one thing you can do at the end of this, keep reading, please.
I was happy when she "retired" and forthrightly went into healing, gardening, homesteading, activities that are HEALTHY and spending time with her kids and her wonderful partner, David. David is a hell of a standup competent man, an ideal mate, and Debbie knew it the moment she laid eyes on him. I can't imagine what he's going through. He was such a rock for her. Debbie was very loyal and kind to her family, friends, and animals. She was of course exuberant, playful, and just lovable. I'm never going to forget her funny froggy laugh, the unique way she interacted with nature, the way her eyes would zoom open or dart across the room, and how her gaze would just transfix my own gaze and of others. She just had an energy and presence that very few people have, as trite as that sounds.
For a while, Debbie wanted to make the world a better place with all of you. Debbie didn't want you to just listen in. It's nice to know what's going on in the world. It is better to make your mark in it, while avoiding the dangers you now know about. "Truthtelling" is just information, it won't set you free or make anyone a hero. In fact, it mostly lands people in prisons or unjustly persecuted. You have to actually do something hard, not just read or watch, and oh boy is it going to be a struggle indeed. So get strong, get ready. She wanted you to make your own little world a better place, like she did after she left "the show". She was so proud of her beautiful home! You can be your own Debbie, your own hero, whatever you would like to be – the best version of yourself, ever. It will take some time, years even, so one day at a time, please. So please also take care of yourself meanwhile. Make the world a better place tomorrow by making yourself a bit of a better person today, but do it every day, and you'll win at life. That's how I plan to honor Debbie and the brief time I had with her. Debbie lives on in her kids, family, friends, and you too if you have the strength to follow through on your convictions and build daily with consistent effort. I hope you can do that for her and someday when you or I or we make the world just a little bit better, Debbie will smile down at us and give us another croaky laugh!