(from a retirement card for Dad in 2012) At first, when I found out that there was going to be something dedicated to you, I didn’t think that I could put anything into words that would be eloquent enough to include. I thought that I would just pass on this project, because surely there would be a lot of people who have heartfelt things to say. I was afraid that would overpower any small memory I may be able to add. But after I thought about it, I realized that you are the type of person that would appreciate any memory someone could add about you.
"People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel."—Dr. Thomas L. Garthwaite. You made me feel appreciated as an individual. I could tell that you wanted each person whose life you touched—whether it was a student you taught or a stranger you passed—to know that they were important.
I know that you believe in the inherent goodness of people. I don’t know if I believe in the inherent goodness of all people, but there are a few people who have touched my life and I know they are inherently good. You are one of them…maybe the person who has shown me that the most.
What did you call that cheer for the Marching Band shows? The 100 second cheer? You made it to every possible band event. You talked about band and the importance of music and music education in class. Thank you for showing us that passion and for coming to support us. We expect the music department and parents to show up, but it’s different when it someone who isn’t obligated…you came because you wanted to. Thank you.
You taught (not just talked about, but taught) philanthropy. You donated so much time and energy to people who couldn’t do things for themselves. Was it coffee and donuts you brought us when we volunteered to ring the bells for The Salvation Army?
You struck my interest in the Gideons and other “underground organizations”. I think one of the reasons I like them is because they stress looking deeper into ourselves without requiring members to adhere to a certain faith.
You showed me that not all Christians are the gossipy churchgoers I’ve been exposed to. Some people just strive to be better.
You are honest. Some people hide behind lies, but you taught us that if you commit to treating others the way you want to be treated you don’t have anything to hide.
I think the first 9th grade lesson was situation ethics. I haven’t come to the same conclusion as you have, but I have made an informed decision on the subject and I know that’s the reason for the lesson. This is a topic I introduce to people often…not to persuade them but to give them a chance to mull over the idea, come to their own conclusion and learn more about themselves in the process.
Is it true that you gave each graduating senior who was a smoker their “last pack?” You were always up front with us about the fact that you had been a smoker and about the problems it had caused in your life. That was one of the things that instilled my belief that I would always be honest with my kids about my mistakes…so that hopefully they will learn from mine and not have to make those mistakes for themselves.
My dad remembers very few details about my school years. When I mentioned to him that you were retiring he remembered that you came to my brother’s graduation party and mine. He also remembers the time I came home and told him that my teacher guessed whether the kids in class had parents who went to college or not and I was the one he guessed wrong. I had a lot of accomplishments that I was proud of through school, but I think this was the one my dad was the most proud of. That means a lot to me.
Thank you for everything that you did for me.
Crystal Call