Cynthia Pepper was a force of nature! She was one of the kindest, boldest, bravest, direct, honest, gutsy, generous, unique, creative, loving, sweet, supportive and enthusiastic human beings, and one of the great teachers to me and so many, on so many levels, whom I have ever had the privilege of knowing.
I channel my inner-Cynthia in mustering up the courage to tell the story of when we met almost 34 years ago ….. We were both showering in the communal shower area in the Marin JCC women’s locker room — and yes, all dolled up in our birthday suits, hers of which I thought was way cuter than mine ;-)….. Cynthia struck up a conversation with me (not a stretch to imagine), and within a couple minutes of chatting, she shared her very sad story in great detail to me of recently having had a still-birth at the hospital. Honestly, I was stunned at first. If it were not weird enough that we were having this deep and exposed conversation just meeting for the first time, but also very physically exposed being stark naked. In both of our separate vulnerabilities, there was nothing else for me to do but listen with an open and caring heart. This is what I mean about Cynthia being one of my greatest teachers. She showed me, in that kind-of-weird one-of-a-kind moment, that it is okay to put yourself out there and give others an opportunity to show they care and share their love — even to a stranger they have just met for the very first time — and even, minus their clothing. Even though it was her painful story she was conveying to me, in her refreshing honestly, in a way only Cynthia could pull off, she magically somehow put me at ease to be able to be present to her at a time of need. It takes a strong person to ask, even in the most subtle of ways, for what they need. I will be forever grateful for our first, slightly awkward, truly sincere, compassionate and connecting encounter, and teaching moment of the great Cynthia Pepper! Fortunately, there were many more of those beloved moments to come over the years, which I will also hold fondly in my heart.
Thank you Cynthia for giving us all permission to be exactly who we truly are, that which you did without hesitation or apology. I am quite certain you are resting in peace, and basking in all the love and light you gave out so freely to us, now for yourself. May your memory be a blessing my friend. z”l ❤️