" . . . righteous cynicism and compassion. . ." Perfect description!
I read this obit in late Thanksgiving and still haven't processed it. For 37 years, each of us called the other on our birthdays. But not last year. On mine, I figured maybe life had moved on. When I texted her in November, no response, obviously. For me, the world has still dimmed.
When we spoke in November '24, she didn't mention any illness. Or was this sudden? I don't know. I just miss knowing she's with us. She was someone rare. Ever striving to be better. Passionate about what mattered. Brilliant wit. And that 1000 kw smile that didn't stop at her mouth. It went all the way into her eyes.
Peace, Carole. I will miss you always.
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Carole ,So many people miss you. I miss you very much. I hope you know how special you are in my life..so many fun times!
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Carole was my close friend since 4th grade. We were like sisters. We loved to walk in rain with umbrellas and then come back to my house and wrap ourselves in warm blankets and watch movies ..so many memories over so many years...like the time we flew to Detroit at night and came home in morning..cause we were bored.
When Carole was getting short of breath as her heart disease worsened, she never talked about it. I would just notice she had to walk just a few stairs at a time. She was so strong and powerful in her mind and talked politics and talked about close friends and adventures she'd had. I don't remember her ever saying anything bad about another person. But she never talked about being short of breath.
I wanted to and offered to come over and help with whatever she needed, but she never let me. She looked beautiful and stylish every time we were together.
So many days now I really want to talk with her and see her, and I can't. Never thought this could be possible. Im very grateful that we were friends..she was true blue and unwavering in her loyalty..and also honesty. I truly loved her and I know she loved me.
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I am from Chicago. I met Carole in third grade in Mrs. Marlis's class. Carole and I lived around the corner from each other. We even trick-or-treated together. Fast forward a few years we were the cool kids all 10 of us and we started a club called the Domingos that was fun. Then came middle school and high school. Those were fun days too then off for on our own ways. In the last few years, we have made a wonderful relationship talking on the phone for a long, long time and texting for a long time too.What I have learned from Carole is that friendship endures all.I have also learned the importance of getting out and meeting with your friends and having a lot of fun.I've also learned to appreciate my day-to-day relationships with those I love. I am very saddened that I can't have you in my life anymore. I miss you, Carole
Lyn Herzog
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I am very sorry to just hear if Caroles passing. May her memory be a blessing. Marla Baygood Lepp
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Our love and memories go with this donation. With much love, Bobi and Rick Finn
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I only met Carole a few times but she had such an impact on me. I first met her because my aunt and Carole (my best friend Grace's aunt) lived only a handful of blocks away from each other, so Grace and I planned a trip to meet up in CA when I was living in Seattle and Grace in ABQ and we had a lovely time of walking and eating and chatting. After that, I'd get to see Carole for a dinner or chat every few years when she visited ABQ. Years later, I went to visit my aunt who was in hospice by then. While I had planned to stay at my aunt's house, that was very suddenly not an option based on her temperament. So, trying to figure out if I should get a hotel, just fly home, or... what (on a grad student's salary at the time!), Grace called Carole and Carole picked me up from the curb outside my aunt's house, set me up on her couch with a fluffy comforter, fed me, and listened to how sad I felt that this was probably the last memory I'd have of my aunt. I just don't know of many people who would disrupt their lives and homes for someone who was generally fine but just feeling overwhelmed. She showed a kind of deep, subtle, "showing up"-ness that I have never forgotten and have tried to emulate. So sorry for the loss to her friends and family because wow what a human to have known!
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I met Carole thru a mutual friend, Carol Eisman, about 25+ years ago. We hit it off immediately and from then until now we shared many walks, talks, meals, movies, lectures, even some trips, and many laughs, tears, and rage... about getting older, about breaking bones, and...about the crazy, scary state of the world. I loved hearing her many endearing stories about her family and other long time friends and adventures. I miss hearing her voice, her sharp, fast wit, her uncanny ability to remember word for word movie dialogue and commercial jingles from 40 years ago... and her always generous support of me. She was a great friend and chosen sister. I will miss her greatly...I already do.
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Thank you Carole for your beautiful friendship throughout the years and for the precious memories that we, your friends and family, have of you. You enriched our lives. I miss you so very deeply. With all my love, Caroline
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