Memories of Anthony David Lengwin

In memory of

Anthony David Lengwin

Tampa, FL, USA

April 22, 1973 - January 27, 2021

Apr 22, 1973 - Jan 27, 2021

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Brittany Lynn

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DOFSPFcjcWb/?igsh=eHN4YmVieG9pdmd0

I am heartbroken to hear that my old friend Anthony passed away. Here I share a video he helped me make when I was a student at Carnegie Mellon University. Rest easy old friend 🌹

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Jimmy Lauria

My heart is broken to hear that Anthony is gone, while late in knowing of his passing I tell people about my friend a lot. My deepest sympathies to his family, as well as ms. Hart.

James

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John Milone

Happy birfday Anthony aka Tone, Amferny, Tone el glue, Tony Tony Tony, Tony Jamflonie, Ant Tony, Anthem, Tony Linguine, Tony's Pizza, Toad, Tone deaf, Anton,and...Tony's gawd it!

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John Milone

Hey Cuong, Wheres my son?! Hey Cuong, Wheres my son?! Hey Cuong, Wheres my son?!

Tiffany Katter

Aww, I have been thinking of him all day. I would love to celebrate his 49th birthday with him. I miss him... Read more Aww, I have been thinking of him all day. I would love to celebrate his 49th birthday with him. I miss him so much. Thanks for... Read more Aww, I have been thinking of him all day. I would love... Read more

Tracy Hart

Me too! Happy Birthday Ant! Thinking of you all day today & everyday. Memories of you & with you illuminate... Read more Me too! Happy Birthday Ant! Thinking of you all day today & everyday. Memories of you & with you illuminate my life so much! I... Read more Me too! Happy Birthday Ant! Thinking of you all day... Read more

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Robert Tesseneer

We sit on the shore of the Bosphorus, driven by a strange desire. Beneath, a treasure is hiding. We came from the ocean where, someday, I too will return. Till then, let the winds of heaven dance between us.

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Ali Simcho

Ant,

You were my best friend for many years at 5am on DeLuca’s mornings. You were probably the smartest person I have ever known. I’m so sad to hear about this but truly hope you’re now at peace. I think of you often.

xo,
Ali

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Robert Tesseneer

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Tracy Hart

Hey Ali! Anthony shared w/me many times how much he cared for u! Hey Ali! Anthony shared w/me many times how much he cared for u! Hey Ali! Anthony shared w/me many times how much he... Read more

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Tracy Hart

I started writing something else on the evening on Anthony's Bday, & it started to become long-winded, so I left it to finish in the morn....at which point I felt compelled to hit that savior & destroyer of a button called "delete". Because there really is no point in me rehashing over my time w/Ant, apart from elaborating on amazing memories, which is in fact exactly what a lot of u pulled together & did on his Birthday, to perfection, & in Ant's great honor.
I thank all of Anthony's Brothers & Sisters for setting a new bar on sibling love & acceptance, that which I never knew could exist. I thank Ant's Sister Marla for finding this amazing site Shatterproof, which helps to fight addiction stigma & supports those who have succumbed to it, & their Family & Friends. I also thank Marla for being the "besty Friend Sis" as he would joke & say, & who he would kick back w/& relax. I thank her for her years of humble Friendship. I thank his Brother Mark for his Prayer Circle & years of support. I thank his Brother Jeff for the Father Figure substitution that Ant was so lacking & desiring. & I thank Jeff for always reaching out & including Anthony in holiday celebrations. I thank his Brother Ted for his forgiveness & for not having Ant met a much earlier demise. I thank his Sister Tiffany & Brother-in-Law Jerod (another true Brother) for their truly engaging & enduring love & support over the years w/Ant. They continued to take Anthony into their fold despite his challenges, & despite having children. & thank-u to Ant's Nephew Matthew & Niece Charlotte Rose, who blessed him w/many fulfilling years, proving him as such a worthy "Uncle Nanny"!
I thank Ant's Sister Tiffany for the strong bond we formed over the years, w/Anthony's best interest as the common thread. She researched. We both shared our trials & tribulations, our experience, strength, & hope. We exchanged status updates. Oh, we were inspired & got down to the knitty gritty, laboring for hours over the "drawing board", coming up w/"tactical" approaches all of the time. It would've taken some serious ammo to even try to slay Anthony's demons. There were tearfully exhausting times that wore us thin & there were insanely crazy stories. But the goals that Tiffany & I had were simple goals... We wanted to fortify Anthony's support system & help to try to stomp out Anthony's active addictions to clear away the path for his true potential. We all practiced together. We knew this tune well. We knew when it was played wrong. We knew when it was played right. But now that u are no longer directly here w/us Ant, this is an unpracticed & unrecognizable tune put in front of us. I don't even want to try to learn this one. But I'll try to muster all the grace I can & respect the cycle of life.
The telling of the stories & memories, & the posting of pix & vids by everyone, felt as though Ant's entire character & personality & Spirit were recreated/rebuilt over his Birthday, w/each caring contribution. Thank-u to everyone who ever loved Anthony.
I was speaking w/Terry the morn after Ant's Bday, & Terry said, understandably, that he wished Ant could've seen all the feedback. Yes, if only. Terry said, " It's a shame people rarely get their flowers when they are here." But ever unfortunately, there are no delete or rewind buttons in this realm, called life....which makes life all the more precious.
Tiffany said that one of the root meanings of the word Anthony is "priceless one". I've considered this in many ways, one of which being..... If I saw a little Anthony D. Lengwin laid out on a flea market table, I'd find it/him absolutely irresistible (no surprise) & I'd pick it/him up & say, "How peculiar! & no price tag?! Oh, & wow.....I can't find ANYTHING of this sort online in any rare & unusual collector's manuals or ANYthing!" (& then I'd for sure haggle it out w/the dude on the other side of the table, because I MUST bring this home w/me! With this in mind, I should remember how fortunate I am to have had Anthony's love in my life. & been made to laugh! Anthony always very much aspired to making people laugh. I don't know if ANYONE will make me laugh quite like he made me laugh! Priceless indeed! One of a kind, our Anthony!

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Ruth Poscich

So sorry for your loss, Tracy, and I commend you for honoring your loved one's memory in such a meaningful... Read more So sorry for your loss, Tracy, and I commend you for honoring your loved one's memory in such a meaningful and poignant way. ... Read more So sorry for your loss, Tracy, and I commend you for... Read more

Tracy Hart

2021, Murrysville, PA, USA

Tracy, Michael Walker (lil’ stepBrother), & Anthony

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Marla Lengwin

Ali Simcho

John Milone

Marla Lengwin

Shared a heart

Tracy Hart

Marla Lengwin

Thank you Tracy, KT, Mila.... thanks for sharing your memories. He was a pain in the ass but I always knew he had my back and I really miss that....

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Terrence Michael MF

John Milone

Tracy Hart

Mark Lengwin

1987

When I was in college, Anthony sent me the photo I posted along with a letter. I kept them both for many years and then gave them back to him. I was fortunate to find the photo after his death. The letter was as fascinating as the photo. The part that I always remember was, with no context, "Are you jurisprudent? If you don't know what it means, look it up." It seems that many of us have a story like that. I wasn't always able to reach him on this birthday, but I often did. You never think that there will be a day when you can't.

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Tracy Hart

John Milone

Mark Lengwin

1987

Surprise from Anthony

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John Milone

Tracy Hart

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Tracy Hart

Anthony actually showed me this before, quite proudly in fact! Anthony actually showed me this before, quite proudly in fact! Anthony actually showed me this before, quite proudly... Read more

Mendel Markel

It was a strange sight to behold for sure. A pagan punk rocker entering a Unitarian Church for a concert by a throat singing quartet from the far eastern Asiatic Russian mountains. He's accompanied by his dear friend, an ultra-orthodox Hassidic Rabbi in full beard and garb. There were quite a few head turns and double takes as people realized - yes, they are here together (we were accompanied as well by his dearest Tracy and my beloved 19 year old daughter, may they live long and joyous years).

What on earth do these two have in common, save for the fact that both of their practices predate Christianity and Islam? The Rabbi believing in One true creator who he calls "Hashem" (meaning "the name" a reference to the tetragrammaton which can be written but he dare not pronounce), and who he claims took him personally out of Egypt and continues to do open miracles for him and through him to this day. The pagan punk rocker believing in... well, whatever pagan punk rockers believe in. What is it that these two possibly see in each other?

Truth be told, there are times when 2 spirits or souls (depending on if we use Anthony's terms or my own) are simply attracted to each other for reasons mysterious to man. There was certainly a huge element of that. From the moment we met, we simply loved each other.

We did have explainable common ground as well. We both enjoyed dark art, dark humor and dark music. We both enjoyed music with dissonance, arrhythmic beats and gritty "dirty" sounds - whether the scratchy, gravelly voice of a a vocalist or a guitar with 2 strings set just the right amount out of tune. We would often text each other links to both music and art that the other might enjoy. We also enjoyed each other's honesty, openness and - perhaps most of all - mutual recognition of truth, whether or not that truth fits in with the going cultural bandwagon of the day. Of course there was also the shared bond we both had with Tracy Hart - him as her partner and myself as a dear friend and co-artist.

We also seemed to enjoy and be amused by each other's weirdnesses. I loved Anthony's wild sense of humor, the naughty twinkle in his eye and his propensity for practical jokes. He was amused by what he termed "Magical Mendel Doors", which was a term he used for the way I seemed to appear in a flash and then just as quickly disappear, without anyone seeing me come or go. One of my favorite stories is after the above mentioned Hun Huur Tu concert, while everyone was locked in a jam trying to get to the main entrance, I pointed to a door behind the stage and disappeared. Anthony asked Tracy where I went to and she replied "I don't know! He pointed to that door and then disappeared!" They decided to check out the door and found that it led to a little hall way with a side exit door. The next day Tracy told me Anthony was tickled pink by the fact that he got to go through a "Magical Mendel Door".

Despite his weirdness, or perhaps because of it, I found in Anthony a man who was full of love, sensitivity, depth and laughter. I will truly miss our text exchanges and discussions. I will miss the twinkle in his eye and the silly pictures. I will miss that special spirit that was mysteriously drawn to me, and I to him. I will certainly miss that next concert that we were looking to go to together when Covid had passed. My dearest Anthony, there never was one like you, nor will there ever be. I will think of you often until our souls (or spirits as you prefer to call it) meet again in a place where only the truth is found.

My deepest condolences to my dear dear friend Tracy and all of Anthony's family and friends. May his memory remain close and be an inspiration to us all until that day when our wonderful journeys too shall come to their end and the time has come to join Anthony in the world of truth.

Rabbi Mendel Markel

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Tracy Hart

Terrence Michael MF

John Milone

Robert Tesseneer

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Tracy Hart

Thanks Mendel, dear buddy! I believe Anthony went through another magical kind of door! Thanks Mendel, dear buddy! I believe Anthony went through another magical kind of door! Thanks Mendel, dear buddy! I believe Anthony went through... Read more

Robert Tesseneer

Pittsburgh, PA, USA

Anthony,
I know we’ve been through similar situations...I don’t need to elaborate. I’m sorry we lost touch. I’ve thought of you so many times. Missing you...your dark fucked up humor, your tenacity, your handsomeness and spirit. The real last time we hung was at the Swans concert on the south side. Wish to god I still had the photo that night and the poem with it. You sent them to me. Remember? Alas, my phone died and the photo and poem evaporated somewhere into the ether. But not to worry, my friend...the memory is still in tact, like it was last night.
I see you. Go brother. Brighter, deeper, yes higher.
I leave for Chicago tomorrow to visit with family, then off to Istanbul for a bit. You see, Ant, this trip is everything to me. It’s been a pretty tough year or so for many of us. So, I’m gonna strap my docs very tight and walkabout and be grateful....I’m still here. My sobriety means everything to me. It’s a slippery slope. I know. But I’m taking you with me on my walkabout. This trip is for me. This trip is for you. My accommodations in Istanbul are directly above a mosque. The muezzin will perform adhan five fucking beautiful times a day. We shall listen together. I will prostrate myself with salat and give thanks. You, you Anthony, can do as you wish. You are free now.

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Terrence Michael MF

Ali Simcho

Tracy Hart

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Tracy Hart

OmG Rob, I LOVE u! OmG Rob, I LOVE u! OmG Rob, I LOVE u!

Ali Simcho

❤️❤️❤️ ❤️❤️❤️ ❤️❤️❤️

Tiffany Katter

Anthony singing Wheels on the Bus w Nephew Matthew

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Ali Simcho

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Robert Tesseneer

So sweet. ♥️ So sweet. ♥️ So sweet. ♥️

Tiffany Katter

Anthony making his nephew Matthew laugh

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Terrence Michael MF

Tracy Hart

Tiffany Katter

Anthony dancing in the kitchen with his nephew Matthew and niece Charlotte

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John Milone

Terrence Michael MF

Tracy Hart

Tiffany Katter

Anthony's 47th birthday celebration

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Tracy Hart

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Tiffany Katter

Wishing we could sing to you again today. Wishing we could sing to you again today. Wishing we could sing to you again today.

Tiffany Katter

Today would be my brother Anthony's 48th birthday. Three months ago, he died of an accidental drug overdose. I share that, not to damage his reputation, but to be a part of removing the stigma that keeps addicts in shame and guilt vs. getting the help they need. Someone dies every 14 minutes from an accidental drug overdose and it's the number one cause of accidental death in the US. In his memory, if you can spare any amount, please consider donating to the Sober Truth Project: https://sobertruthproject.org
George Wood is doing amazing things through this organization to help people struggling with addiction. Anthony, we're excited to eat cake and dance in the kitchen today in your memory. We love and miss you so much.

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John Milone

Dana Och

Terrence Michael MF

Tracy Hart

John L

Deepest condolences to Anthony's friends and family, I wish I'd known him better

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Tracy Hart

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TODAY ANT! RIP The reason I posted these Birthday pix at midnight is because every year I’d secretly buy cupcakes or a whole cake or his favorite tiramisu, hide them when I’d get home from work, then wait for him to fall asleep. As it’d near midnight, I’d go unwrap sweets, stick birthday candles in, set em aflame, & sneak to our bed. I’d lean in almost dangerously close & dig into Happy Bday tune really aggressively & loud, shocking him awake with terror every single time, without fail. And never a grump. He’d sometimes take some bday pix with me too.

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Terrence Michael MF

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John Milone

He loved tiramisu!! He loved tiramisu!! He loved tiramisu!!

Scott Killebrew

Anthony was a good friend of mine for 30 years before he escaped to Florida. Kept me up to date on that house he was rebuilding. Seemed a bit nervous at first after realizing how much work was involved with the size of the nightmare he took on with that house. He stuck with it though and was really turning it into something beautiful. Couldn’t believe anyone was able to do so much they never did before just from watching how to videos on YouTube. He was an inspiration that would help anyone realize you can accomplish anything if you set your mind to it. I wish he could’ve seen it through to the end. He was almost there after having come so far. I wish I could’ve been there to help make that happen. Sorry, Tone. I’ll miss ya.

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