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Allan Ray Crouser

Milwaukie, OR, USA

August 9, 1955 - July 11, 2020

Aug 9, 1955 - Jul 11, 2020

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Alan was a mysterious man. Full of funny antics and quirks. During his younger years, he married our mom and had three loving daughters. His depression and bipolar stole a lot of his years and led him down a hard road. In spite of this, he tried his best to be a dad and husband. My mom got him into a great doc who gave him bipolar meds which changed his life and gave him peace however, Delores his mother talked him out of taking them and scared him from the meds he needed. This stole our dad away from us. For many years he lived in isolation and fear. Later in life he reached out to us and formed a dad relationship the best he could. He was amazing and supportive. And...finally got to be a Grandpa Crouser like his beloved legendary dad was to us. His health deteriorated so fast due to his failing liver and Deloreses absolute refusal to let him get proper help. She ran off home care and doctors. He told us many times how afraid he was of her and how she verbally and physically abused him. When we offered to move him home to be loved and spoiled by family in his final days, she blocked that too out of fear of loosing his estate. She lied and manipulated all of his relatives so nobody talked to or trusted anyone. That way she could hide her fraud without risk of being found out. All the while pretending to be a sweet old lady. It’s her cover up. We brought him warm homemade meals specific to his dietary needs the dr gave him. She got mad at that and to control him, played on his fears and scared him from eating good nutritious food from family siting made up allergies he didn’t actually have. She refused him to have a working cell phone and often would not allow him to buy minutes. We tried to get him an amazon dot so he could call for help if he fell, she scared him from that also saying it spied on him. He called us late one night scared she was stealing his house. Turned out, She actually was and signed it away through a quit claim deed with the scamming neighbor who took over his trust. In the hospital, his case worker contacted us for help as she was concerned about his mom (Delores) being harmful to his health and care. Delores went as far as too soil her clothing repeatedly to avoid leaving to bathroom which would open a window for him to ask for help away from her. Many hospitals would request she leave but she refused out of fear she’d be found out! She moved him hospital to hospital as she got into fights with health care workers who got to see her evil side. The end of his life was sad, alone and without family. He tried to reach out to us so many times for help. We did everything possible to help him and she blocked all of us each time. She even hid him from his home care nurse and refused to answer his door or his phone until she had papers in place blocking us from having a say in his care(he wanted our help). She had him sign papers when he was under the influence of morphine at the hospital. That gave her power to take his beloved corvettes and Monte Carlo away, after swindling his house away from him and most importantly, once again, she blocked his loving family. He said yes to living with us escaping elder care setting which he hated. He hated germs and sharing a bathroom! He was going to live with grandkids watching fat orange cats and birds on deck in mornings eating his special foods. She got mad and again blocked that. Instead He died alone, hungry, cold and afraid and worse of all away from the family that absolutely adored him. Please, if you have a family member who suffers from mental illness, advocate for them, fight for them don't let them die alone like Delores forced him to do! Allan was just one casualty of a narcissistic gold digging scam artist mother who's evil love of money poisoned family relationships. He was so loved by his daughters, x wife and grandbird (he loved talking to parakeet he called his grandbird). Allan fought his mental illness and addictions in later years to become the dad he always wanted to be. His final legacy was one of strength in the face of his illness. He was brave

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