22 Quotes, Songs and Poems about Miscarriage
Miscarriage is a heartbreaking experience that affects many individuals and families. Coping with the loss of a pregnancy can be one of life's most difficult challenges. Many people have found comfort in reading or listening to poetry, music, and quotes about miscarriage. This article details different quotes, songs, and poems about miscarriage that may provide solace to those who have experienced this difficult event.
Poems about Miscarriages
Poetry has always been a powerful way for people to express their emotions during difficult times. Here are a few poems that touch on the subject of miscarriage:
“Fingerprints” by Tom Krause
Your fingerprints are on my heart.
Fingerprints that teach me about caring.
Fingerprints that teach me about love.
Fingerprints that teach me about courage.
Fingerprints that teach me about hope.
Tom Krause’s poem is a beautiful tribute to the experience of pregnancy loss and how it leaves a lasting impact on a person's heart. The "fingerprints" in the poem suggest that the memory of the miscarriage has left an indelible mark on the speaker's heart, but rather than being a source of pain or sadness, these fingerprints teach the speaker about important values such as caring, love, courage, and hope. This poem acknowledges the difficult emotions that come with miscarriage while also highlighting the possibility of finding meaning and growth in the experience.
“My Dear Emmanuella” by Ruth Pirie
There will never be a day that goes by, where I do not think of you.
I will always think about what you would have looked like
I will always wonder how it would have felt to hold you in my arms
I will always miss not having the chance to comfort you, soothe you and nurse you
I will always wonder what it would have been like to have you here with us.
“My Dear Emmanuella” expresses a deep sense of loss and grief for a child that was never born. The repetition of the phrase "I will always" emphasizes the lasting impact that the loss has had on the speaker and conveys the message that though the child never had the chance to exist outside of the womb, their memory lives on and will continue to be a part of the speaker's life.
“These Are My Footprints” by Tamara Barker
These are my footprints, so perfect and so small.
These tiny footprints, never touched the ground at all.
Not one tiny footprint, for now I have my wings.
These tiny footprints were meant for other things.
You will hear my tiny footprints, in the patter of the rain.
Gentle drops like angels tears, of joy and not from pain.
You will see my tiny footprints, in each butterflies’ lazy dance.
I’ll let you know I’m with you, if you give me just a chance.
“These Are My Footprints” reflects on the loss of a baby or child and the idea that their presence is still felt even though they are not physically present. The image of the footprints, which are "perfect and so small" and "never touched the ground at all," captures the idea of a life that was brief but impactful. Tamara offers a sense of comfort in the idea that the child's spirit is still present, whether in the patter of the rain or the dance of butterflies.
“Stillbirth” by Laure-Anne Bosselaar
Laetitia-Marie was the name I had chosen:
I was told not to look. Not to get attached—
I sometimes go months without remembering you.
Some griefs bless us that way, not asking much space.
I was told not to look. Not to get attached.
It wasn’t my train—the doors were closing.
Some griefs bless us that way, not asking much space.
On a platform, I heard someone calling your name.
Laure-Anne’s beautiful poem captures the experience of a mother who has lost a child through miscarriage. The repetition of the line "I was told not to look. Not to get attached," emphasizes the pressure to sometimes detach and disconnect early on in a pregnancy. The line "Laetitia-Marie was the name I had chosen" suggests that the speaker had already begun to envision a life for their child before the loss occurred, despite the warnings and pressure to not get attached. This poem creates a sense of distance and separation from the child that was lost, and conveys the idea that even though the child is gone, their memory and name still hold meaning for the speaker.
Songs About Miscarriages
If songs are easier for you to relate to, there are songs out there that can help you feel comforted or validated after losing a pregnancy. These songs deal with subjects including grief, hopelessness, strength, and healing:
"Soon You'll Get Better" by Taylor Swift ft. Dixie Chicks
Written from Swift’s own experience with her mother’s cancer diagnosis but resonates deeply with anyone going through any kind of painful situation.
"Small Bump" by Ed Sheeran
Although not specifically about miscarriage (it was written for his friend who had lost her baby), it speaks poignantly about what could have been.
"Little One" by Highly Suspect
An emotional song reflecting on the love for your unborn child when you’ve experienced a miscarriage.
"Beam Me Up" by P!nk
This powerful ballad speaks to the pain of losing someone you love and wanting to be reunited with them again, even if it's just in your dreams.
"Tears in Heaven" by Eric Clapton
Originally written after the tragic death of Clapton's young son, this hauntingly beautiful song has become an anthem for anyone who has lost a loved one.
"What Sarah Said" by Death Cab for Cutie
A moving reflection on the fragility of life and the emotional toll of being in a hospital waiting room, wondering if your loved one will pull through.
"I Will Remember You" by Sarah McLachlan
A heartfelt tribute to the memory of a loved one who has passed away, this song speaks to the idea of keeping their memory alive through the pain of loss.
"If Heaven Wasn't So Far Away" by Justin Moore
A country ballad about the idea of being able to visit loved ones in heaven, this song speaks to the longing for connection and the pain of separation that comes with loss.
Quotes About Miscarriages
For those interested in hearing the stories and experiences of others, these quotes about grief and pregnancy loss may help you find the words to express your grief:
- "Even if we never hold them in our arms, they are forever held in our hearts." - Unknown
- "You are not alone. You are never alone. We are here for you and we love you." - Dr. Jessica Zucker
- "Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." - Vicki Harrison
- "A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart." - Franchesca Cox
- "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller
- "We talk about a love that lasts a lifetime, but a mother's love lasts beyond a lifetime." - Unknown
- "Our babies are gone from our arms, but never from our hearts." - Unknown
- "Grief is the price we pay for love." - Queen Elizabeth II
- "The only thing more painful than your absence is the silence that follows." - Unknown
- "Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go." - Jamie Anderson
Miscarriage can leave grieving parents feeling alone, lost and hopeless. Reading or listening to poetry, music, and quotes about miscarriage can provide comfort during these difficult times in addition to finding community and support where you are able to. Hopefully this article has provided some solace for those who have experienced a miscarriage and reminds you that you are not alone in your grief. To connect with others who have experienced pregnancy loss and to find support within community, visit Ever Loved’s grief center.
