My mother told me a very sad story that still haunts me to think about. Mom was born to a sad couple. Her father, a ships captain and her mother was at home as per normal in the day. Her father was an angry man who drank and used to beat her mother regularly. One day her mother, after receiving yet another beating proceeded to the front door, took one last look back at my mother for a moment then turned and left. The father soon after took the children and left them with a native residential school and that would be the last time my mother and her siblings would ever see either of their parents again. Not only that but her siblings would all be separated and sent to different schools. She was fortunate enough to catch up with her siblings years after as adults. I can't imagine the pain and fear my mother and her siblings must have gone through.

My mothers life was never easy. It is sad to think about. Unfortunately she did not come out of it unscathed but in her older years she had become a very kind and considerate person. She had emotional issues to say the least when I was a child growing up which would lead to a very strained relationship for us. I could never fully forgive her as much as I had tried which is something I will regret the rest of my life. They say you choose your mother before you are born; I have to wonder just how bad were the other choices? Mom developed cancer later in her early 70's. With the help of chemo therapy and quite possibly a drug called DCA that I had ordered online with the help of a friend David who was kind enough to donate his time and art to raise the funds for DCA, she had beaten cancer. Unfortunately it came back some years later and this time there would be no treatment as the first round of chemo had taken too much of a toll on her.

I have many good memories of her as well. As a child mom taught me games of all kinds, card games, board games etc. We started with checkers and moved onto Scrabble, Cribbage, Chess and card games of all kinds. I attribute my high IQ to these games we would play. It developed a love for problem solving within me and I ended up with a career in I.T. as a result of it which was a career I loved.

Christmas was always a special time of year for our family. Mom always did her best to get us as many gifts as she could with what little she had to make due with. Her Christmas dinners were always delicious. She would start a couple of days before with drying seasoned bread for her home made stuffing which again was amazing. She would be in and out of the kitchen all day preparing it. Before that though there was Christmas Eve where my younger brother, sister and I would be allowed to open one gift. Come Christmas morning I was always (or at least usually) the first one up and most Christmases she would get up but I do recall a couple of not so eager Christmas mornings for her. ;-)

She did get to know all her grand children for years prior to passing which I am grateful for.

I am sorry it took me so long to get around to posting this but it has not been an easy journey for me the past years and losing you just made things that much worse. I look forward to joining you & David and look forward to the day I see so many others we have lost along the way.

“May the sun bring you energy every day, bringing light into the darkness of your soul.

May the moon softly restore you by light bathing you in the glow of restful sleep and peaceful dreams.

May the rain wash away your worries, and cleanse the hurt that sits in your heart.

May the breeze blow new strength into your being, and may you believe in the courage of yourself.

May you walk gently through the world, keeping your loved one with you always, knowing that you are never parted in the beating of your heart.” 

God Bless you mom and walk with David.

Mom: 79 years, 3 months, 1 day.

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