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Stephen’s memory is always near and dear as I keep his photo on my refrigerator. He was an amazing and unique person. I know his family in particular is grateful for his life and misses him dearly.
Brendan McNulty
2007, Theodore Roosevelt Island, Washington, DC, USA

Hi Everyone,

Today is one year since Steve passed away, and though this marker has loomed for a while now, I’m not sure what to say or do. Instead of dwelling, I’ll share a quick story that I like to remember when I’m missing him.

This was around 2007 or 2008 and I had just landed back in DC from living abroad. Whenever I was back in town, first thing was find to Steve, grab lunch at Pho 75 in Roslyn together and then head off to find some kind of trouble to get into.

I don’t remember everything about this particular day but I remember the feeling. Summer had just begun and the sun was high. We had the windows of Steve’s car rolled down, the sunroof open and were racing down I-66 into DC.

‘Free Bird' by Lynyrd Skynyrd was cranked up on the stereo, and not the slow buildup either but the full-throttled guitar solo at the end (think Jenny teetering on the balcony in Forrest Gump).

It’d been a year since we’d seen each other, so we were stoke as hell to hang out again. Rocking out, air guitar and air drums blazing as we drove, though I forget who was playing which.

We sped onto Roosevelt Bridge heading east over the Potomac, the Lincoln Memorial and singular Washington Monument standing in the distance and then... just as we cleared the woods of Roosevelt Island and Free Bird reached it’s brilliant climax, from out of nowhere Air Force One, that massive green-and-white Sikorsky helicopter that carries the President and his family, comes blazing over our heads with the loud 'dug-dug-dug' from the rotors that you feel in your chest.

Steve and I watch - mouths open - as it flew low downriver for a moment or two before banking hard left to head up over the National Mall, an aggressive maneuver that usually means the POTUS or another VIP is aboard. Finger horns were immediately raised and one (or both!) of us might even have started chanting 'USA!'

It was such an impossibly cool moment. A musical and visceral moment of Zen, albeit more Wayne’s World or Beavis and Butthead than meditative.

I was so thrilled to see my buddy again, doing what we loved, which was blaring music and pretending like we could play instruments. And then the external world - the car, the river, the summer and even the President - had all lined up to make it that much cooler.

I mentioned it to him years later, assuming he’d forgotten, which he hadn’t of course. Finger horns up, he closed his eyes and started headbanging at the memory. I was glad to know he’d found that epic confluence of events as moving as I had.

Years later still, once our jam sessions entailed mostly sitting around in his room and reminiscing, Steve began making playlists for us to listen to while we caught up. Then he started building on just one. He said it was to replicate the vibe of rocking out in the car and that helicopter of all helicopters buzzing mere feet over our heads.

The link to that Spotify playlist is below. He put it together between 2018 and 2021, and in keeping with his mood in later years, you’ll notice that it’s more instrumental, mellow and spiritual than Lynyrd Skynyrd by a long shot.

I can’t listen to it that often but when I do, I feel comfort in knowing that Steve, who loved everything about music and how it can change you, that he had listened to and arranged these songs for others to enjoy. It makes me feel connected to him still and look forward to rocking out again sometime.

My love to all you. And to Steve.

"Bridge n Choppers"

https://open.spotify.com/play…

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Hi Everyone,

I want to respond to the question "What was the most fun you ever had with Stephen?"

If anyone can remember the color of a raquetball and the sound of it being thrown against the side wall of St. Agnes during recess, then they can remember the immeasurable fun of being with Stephen and playing together during those priceless recess games. Though he and I did not keep in touch throughout high school I have realized those games propelled us both into high school sports in a small but meaningful way, Stephen as a pitcher for Yorktown and me as a JV shortstop at O'Connell.

I remember some heat being thrown at the back of the guys in the game, thankfully that kind of heat was not thrown at me as the one girl who regularly played (there was some kind of Wall Ball rule: peg the guy if he misses a catch while he dashes to touch the wall). Those guys, all of them, always let me play and I am thankful.

But the most fun perhaps was during an 8th grade field trip. We went on a beautiful fall day to somewhere like St. Mary's county Maryland, somewhere rural, and there was a corn field. I don't even remember what the field trip was but I remember 20 minutes of super intense running through that corn field with the guys. So much fun. Breathtaking beauty and a breathtaking run. I remembered it this past week, seeing some cornfields, and I am so grateful for that time together. I bet others have the memory tucked away too. Love to you guys who were such profound friends of his. Love to Stephen as well.
Crazy how the world works, I only have good memories. You were a good man,going to miss you Burns!
Jane, he was a wonderful man... Mary Ann and I send our love and deepest condolences... ❤️❤️❤️
We used to play connect 4 at iota when it was slow... every time i play it now i always think of him. I’m so sorry Jane and Steve 🥺🥺
I’m sitting here with a fire sharing our IOTA stories with my family. I’m truly saddened to learn this news. Sending much love.

Beth (Oliver) Lane
Steve was a great guy. I have so many fond memories of growing up with him at St. Agnes and also playing baseball with him in little league. We had many sleepovers as kids and would stay up as late as we could playing double dribble and Super Mario bros. I am so sorry for your loss and your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Stephen and Patrick Skelly
2020, Arlington, VA, USA
Stephen and Patrick Skelly
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Stephen developed keen intere…
2018, Franklin Road, Clarendon VA
Stephen developed keen interests in psychology, concepts of religion, and horticulture. He created a bright spot in Clarendon on Franklin Road in the summer of 2018, calling the potting and repotting of plants the best occupational therapy ever
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Playing basketball at St. Agn…
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Playing basketball at St. Agnes. Stephen was so handsome, so kind, and so funny. Memory Eternal
What I wouldn't do for one of…
What I wouldn't do for one of your big comforting hugs right now. Will always love you Steve-O! Rest in Peace my brother!
Dear Jane, Steve snd the rest of the family...I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love and peaceful vibes your way. xx
I am so incredibly sorry to learn of Steve's passing. Deepest condolences and all of my love to his family and friends <3

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