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In lieu of flowers

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Background

My youngest brother, Sam Fry, died on Monday, August 26th. Sam was the brightest and best of us. He was the light of everyone's life, and the gentlest soul anyone ever met. Even as a sibling, I can't think of a single criticism I ever had about him (if you have siblings, you know that's saying something!). As the youngest of six siblings, Sam was a delight in our family from day one. He made us laugh every day, he was creative and talented and simply so alive. As an adult, he dedicated his life to libraries, community outreach, nonprofits, and grassroots actions to feed his neighbors and fix bikes for free. He loved books, music, basketball, documentaries, learning, helping others, laughing, and making people laugh.

Tragically, Sam had been struggling with a severe mental illness for the past year or more and has been in and out of hospitals and frequently in crisis. He eventually succumbed to his illness and took his own life.

We, his family and loved ones, are reeling from this news, even though we knew of his struggles. It is still a shock, and we will never be the same without him.

Sam comes from a tight-knit family and is survived by his five siblings, their spouses and families, his mother and adoptive father, and his beloved wife Kim.

We are raising funds in Sam's memory to help with funeral, memorial, and other unexpected expenses such as family member emergency travel. We will donate any remaining funds to the causes closest to Sam's heart, including the Sacramento Bike Kitchen, Sacramento Food Not Bombs, prisoner support and library programs.

Any amount will help us with all of the unexpected expenses and the donations we want to make in his memory. We also encourage donations directly to any human services nonprofits, in lieu of flowers to the family.

It is so important to us to remember that we are connected to those around us, the people that Sam loved and care for, and that loved and cared for him, and all of us. If you are unable to make a financial contribution, please know that we are also so appreciative of your messages of love and support, your sharing of your memories and any photos that were meaningful to you, and stories of how many lives Sam’s touched. If you didn't know Sam in life, we appreciate the support you provide to us - his surviving family members - in our grief, just as much.

Our family varies in spiritual beliefs, but I appreciate your prayers to whatever higher power you believe in: for strength to do whatever is logistically necessary; strength to take care of ourselves, and grieve whenever and however is necessary. For finances to all work out no matter what happens with jobs or unexpected financial burdens. Prayers for a better world, and for all who struggle with these illnesses.

Prayers for Sam to be in peace and with us always. He was the kindest, funniest, most talented of us and I cannot think of him without remembering the laughing, delightful kid he always was and will be to me. We were SO lucky to have him in our lives for over 30 years.

To anyone reading this, I love you all and hope you are well. Take care of yourselves; take care of each other. That is the only thing that matters.
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Funds are being collected and disbursed by Alexia Casiano, Sam's sister.

Updates

Update from Sept. 21, 2024

Additional donors to the memorial fund, outside of this platform:
*Lee Jacobus
*Gordon Fry
*Sylvia Metzler
*Beth Burcham
*Tee Booker
~ Even outside of this platform, we have raised an additional $1,050 so far! All of this allows us to celebrate Sam through his memorial and through donations to the causes he cared about most. Thank you so much.

Update from Sept. 17, 2024

Additional donors to the memorial fund, outside of this platform:
*Gordon Fry
*Sylvia Metzler
*Beth Burcham
*Tee Booker

Thank you so much.

Update from Sept. 4, 2024

There simply is not enough gratitude for all the love and support we have received from everyone so far in honor of Sam. To date, the memorial fund for Sam has raised over $10,000, which is absolutely incredible. After speaking with the funeral home today and beginning to make arrangements for the memorial service (to be held on 9/21/24; see "Events" tab for more information), I am humbly increasing the fundraising goal to $14,000. This will cover all funeral home and memorial service expenses and fees, minimal travel assistance for those who live outside of California to attend the service if desired, and memorial donations in Sam's honor to Food Not Bombs, Sacramento Bicycle Kitchen, WEAVE, Planned Parenthood, prison abolition/prisoner support (organization TBD), the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, and NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). If you would like to make any donations directly to these organizations in Sam's honor, he would love that. Thank you again for your support, and carrying on Sam's memory.

Update from Sept. 2, 2024

Additional donors to the memorial fund, outside of this platform:
*Gordon Fry
*Sylvia Metzler
*Beth Burcham

Thank you SO much to everyone who has donated, reached out, and supported us all in so many ways. 💜 Thanks to you we should have funeral expenses & emergency family expenses covered, and be able to make over $1,500 in total donations to organizations and causes close to Sam’s heart, to carry on his legacy. Any additional funds over our initial goal will continue to go towards unexpected expenses and memorial donations to charities and grassroots causes. Thank you for honoring Sam’s memory this way. 🙏

Update from Sept. 2, 2024

Thank you so much to everyone who has donated, shared, and contributed memories and emotional support to Sam’s family. It means the world to us right now.

Please note that this site does not charge any fees besides standard credit card processing fees, and does not keep any portion of the funds raised. If you would like to contribute by check, cash, or venmo, just reach out.

Update from Aug. 31, 2024

We need your help! If you know of organizations that Sam loved, please add them here.

If you know of music Sam loved, please share favorite songs/artists too.

Update from Aug. 31, 2024

Thank you so much to everyone who had donated so far, sent condolences, shared memories, and supported the family in other ways. We are so grateful for you.

We have been blown away by the outpouring of kindness. To date we have raised over $7,600. Some of those funds have already been used to assist with family travel, funeral arrangements, and make donations to causes close to Sam’s heart (with more to follow). Thank you, infinitely, for your love and support.

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