I've known my brother, Ronald, all of my life. We grew up together, him one year ahead of me. From as far back as I can remember, he's always been curious, smart, smart mouth, funny, nice, and engaging. We always had a friendly relationship and could tease each other about everything. He constantly teased me, to make me laugh, which I enjoyed doing. I picked on him, too. We were always able to give each other a hard time and never get angry.
Ronald and I never got into a fight. He'd run his mouth and make me mad and sometimes, I'd haul off and hit him, but he took it with a smile and never hit me back. I never hit him hard enough to hurt him but just wanted him to know I was mad.
He looked out for me like he was my second daddy. Sometimes, he snooped in my business where I didn't want him and sometimes it turned out to be a good thing. I just couldn't see it then.
Growing up in the church, my sisters and I were raised wearing our skirts below our knees. Well, in the 1970s, miniskirts were in style, and I thought I looked cute in them.
In1971, Daddy took several of us kids and our mom to Philly, to attend the National Convention. He put us up in a new Holiday Inn and it was near a nice shopping center. Daddy gave each of us money to spend shopping. I returned home with a lovely, navy-blue skirt.
The new school year was starting, and I was excited to wear my new skirt. However, I determined that it needed to be at least 4 inches shorter. I spent a good bit of time sewing a hem in it. As I was walking out of the house, to catch our school bus, Ronald spied me in my short skirt. "Daddy! Look at Jakie. She's wearing a short skirt!"
Daddy hurriedly came to the living room, just before I was able to make my escape. " Get back in here and pull that hem out of that skirt! You know better!", he exclaimed. I answered, "Well, I'm not going to school." Daddy said, "Yes you are going to school but you're going to take that hem out, first."
I probably changed my outfit choice and Daddy had to drive me to school.
Anyway, I was so mad at Ronald that I didn't speak to him for three whole days! It was so hard for me to hold out, but I had to teach him a lesson. I could see the disappointment in his face, when he tried to joke and make me laugh and I didn't laugh. I didn't even look at him.
After about three days, I couldn't ignore him any longer and we started being friends again. Later, he said to me, "It almost killed me when you wouldn't talk to me."
That says a lot about who he was. He took chances when he thought it necessary, even if it meant losing friendship with someone he loved and cared about.