Richard and I do not think much of obituaries. They tend to be boring and

one thing my husband was not was boring. Samantha, our chosen daughter,

asked if we could do a memorial page and I told her, sure if she would do it.

She asked if I would try and write an obituary and I told her to let me think

about it overnight. The next day I told her that Richard should speak for

himself, and that we could put something together from his private musings.

Following are (mostly) quotes from Richard, written by Richard during the

last decade of his life. It is for Richard in Richard’s own words. (His

favorite!) * Please forgive any inconsistencies as where quotes are indicated

they are Richard’s unedited musings.

“August 2016 My Own Eulogy . . . in Advance of Death :

In the HE voice.

HE was a person of the early 20th century and part of the 21st century.

See my notes on the He Was Born in a Corporation. ‘He was born and raised

inside an organization. He grew through hard and good times . . .through

healthy and unhealthy climates.”

“The first organization of importance to me was the military. Drafted into the

Army and assigned to the Human Engineering Lab in Army Ordinance at

Aberdeen Proving Ground, Maryland where he was a Project Director of a

nuclear warhead missile system. There he tried to start a union (yes). While

that was nixed he did develop into a conflict reducer regarding courts-martial

within the Science Army programs. While I believe that this was my first

experience at achieving worthwhile goals, I now think looking back to any

goals, as small as they were, they too helped me understand that doing good

work and making people happy with my work and earning money, no matter

how little, was truly achieving worthwhile goals. That pursuit and passion are

in me to ACHIEVE worthwhile goals”

“When he developed the concept of human love in management some were

frightened that it was antithetical to the goals of the enterprise. It took him

some years to understand why this was the case. He came to appreciate

DeToqueville’s statement that the manager at the top wants people below to

love and admire him . . . but not each other.

Peter Drucker, his mentor on his PhD thesis, urged him to convert the

theoretical to the practical. He abandoned scientific pursuits, stopped doing

research and writing and is now doing what he does best.”

He developed, preached and lived The Unique Theory of Motivation and

Relationship Excellence based on Love in Management on his notion of

mutual CRAVE-U (Care, Respect, Accept, Value Encourage and Understand).

Richard was never about the theoretical and always about practical

achievement. He was ever a futurist prepared to ponder new ideas and see

them actuated in experiences designed to improve life for whoever he came

across.

A few highlights: As a quite young man, and while at ITT Federal

Laboratories, he gave a keynote presentation at the First Space Conference

which later became NASA. Richard worked as corporate level Vice

Presidents at ITT, IBM, Chase Bank Corporate Headquarters. He was

President of Lee Hecht Consultants until ultimately decided to work for

himself. He enjoyed tremendous success and was able to work on every

continent, save Antartica.

“The influence of Jesus and Mary Baker Eddy was more than all others.”

“As to My Future . . . Into Eternity

I take my own lessons and have created a wonderful life of love with my

beloved wife of near 40 years, Carôn. In it there was all and more than all.

The certainty I once had that this life was full of mortal error and joy only for

a brief period of infinity as changed.When we both have closed our eyes

forever it will be even better: someday, somewhere, somehow, in some

spiritual form in some unnamed and immortal Land of Whatsoever we will be

together again. As we leave this life, we do so with confidence in the great

Oneness that we will be again know as home. I know it more clearly than I

did.”

Richard passed Monday, December 1, 2025. He is survived by his wife,

Carôn, his daughter Lori Victoria Wolf (Chaim), his step-daughter Courtney

Caswell-Peyton, his chosen-daughter Samantha McKenzie, his daughter-in-

law Ronit Lazar (Lon Scott), his grandchildren Yosef Lazar (Cherna), Yudi

Lazar (Shoval), Hadassi Lazar, Chavi Lazar Erlinger (Schlomo), Avarami

Lazar (Sarah Milka), Raz Wolf, Reuven Wolf, Aliza Bracha Wolf (Dan

Yehuda) and a village of great-grandchildren.

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