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It is with sadness that we have learned of "Smiley's" departure as we harbor many memories from our life in Oakville as "Smiley," Mike Rutherford, aka "Rudsey" and our departed son Aris, aka the big A and or Gee, were very close friends. A cheery, boisterous and ever challenging handful when they were all together in one place, often times our place...

Our most heartfelt and sincere condolences to Elaine and Ron and to all those who loved him and were loved by him. 

Though I came into Mikes life later in life, we had a special bond that was certainly unconventional and remained “distantly close”.  I was blessed to have spent those last days with him , able to speak to him and see him on his  last day with us and that,  I will be forever grateful for. . From his love of designer fashions, to the large appetite he had for food and life; to the love he had for my dogs, and his kindness and sense of humour. The larger than life personality and even larger heart, that is the true essence of the Mike Smiley I knew.  Forever your pancake Smiley, rest well with your angels. 💕
It has been many years. You will be missed. Rest easy. 
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Elaine/Ron,

Sharon and I were so sorry to hear about Michael's passing. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Please accept our deepest condolences.

Sincerely,

Wayne and Sharon Hatfield

It's been a very long time Micheal and few know of the true  depth of our friendship.  I'm confident that both my husband (Justin Denton) and my son (Joshua Cottrelle) , and our old, dear friend Aris were all there to greet you and comfort you on your walk to God's ever loving arms.  I will miss you greatly.
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Michael, throughout the years you have crossed my mind without one week passing. My prayers always expressed the hope of you overcoming the painful addiction that had you.  With many of our friends walking the same path, addiction is so powerful, and takes the lives of so many.  May the lord take you by the hand and lead you to the ones that have crossed before you. May you brighten up heaven like you have on earth, and may we meet once again in heaven. Rest in peace old friend.  Sincere condolences go out to Michael’s family, my thoughts and prayers are with you. 
Sometimes words failed to capture the pain of losing such a loved one in death so let’s look forward to the time when words will also fail to capture the joy of having our heavenly father return your dear loved one to you, 1 John 5:28,29….::may you find peace and comfort in knowing that dear Michael is safe in the memory of God, who will remember every wonderful detail about him…….:;please accept my deepest condolences💐🙏🏽

When I think of Mike or see pictures of him now I think of his larger than life presence in the world and in every room he was in. I met Mike at a young age and from then until the recent years he always respected me and made me smile. It was good to have him in your corner. My Dad always said Mike was the tough guy. In which he was but also a guy with a gentle soul. He had huge respect for my parents and it was reciprocated by them. I heard a documentary once on Chris Farley and one of his friends said "God made the mold and he threw it out the window. But there was no mold he was Ethers, stars, and comets. Precious jewels and gems with Mike" it hits the nail on the head for me with Mike. 

Ive known a lot of people with addiction Issues and there is always an underlying pain they try to hide away. Noone wanted this for Mike but noone walked in shoes. He had said to me a couple of years ago "If I die I have lived a life and it would be my bad but I'm not selfish and I know I have f***ed up." And that his children were always on his mind and who he truly desired to be there for. There is no room for judgement again we all embody our own demons, we all have a story. Some just choose to deal in different ways. Maybe its drugs, maybe its medication, maybe its therapy or maybe its nothing. We all walk this road together even if we realize it now or not. Regardless the people who knew him knew that underneath it all was the stars and the comets that I mentioned above. A man with  good heart. A man who had so much Love to give. And he did show intense Love to the people who stuck by him and that meant the most to him.  They say a smile can hide a thousand things and he did it well. Mike was too stubborn to rely on others or he may have thought he didnt want to burden anyone he loved. So no matter what, that same joyful larger than life presence was always there. So you could smile. Ive never met anyone like him and im sure I never will again. He will be missed. My Heart goes out to his family, and the many people who were his closest friends. And of course his children. Ill leave this with a poem of an unknown author. 

As I stumble through this life,

help me to create more laughter than tears,

dispense more happiness than gloom,

spread more cheer than despair.

Never let me become so indifferent

that I will fail to see the wonder in the eyes of a child

or the twinkle in the eyes of the aged.

Never let me forget that my total effort

is to cheer people, make them happy

and forget - at least momentarily -

all the unpleasantness in their lives.

And, in my final moment,

may I hear You whisper:

‘When you made My people smile,

you made Me smile.

May God Hold you close Mike. It doesnt have to hurt anymore. You were a force to be reckoned with. I know God smiled when he seen you. Happy to have you home. 

May Michael rip not suffering anymore  he had great family support by his loving family 🙏❤️🙏❤️ you are all in our thoughts and prayers from Michelle delnia Hamid  mahdavi 
The world is a bit darker and a piece of my soul is gone. Through me your legacy will forever live on. My deepest and sincerest condolences to his family at this time. Michael was my oldest and Dearest friend. Remembering the times when we would play with his cats Ninja and Bandit as kids, watching scary movies to the point where I would ask his parents my second mom Elaine and Ron to watch me walk home down the street lol, to when his first son Christopher Michael was born....all through the years. He has been my brother through and through. May God keep your soul Michael rest in peace.

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