Hello, everybody, and thanks for coming. Mom would be so honored you are here today.
Cecil Rhodes the old imperialist used to say that to be born English was to win the lottery of life. We Lins knew who the real winners were – Mom’s husband and kids.
Dad never quite believed he had landed her. In the early 1950s, a photography studio in her hometown used her photo as an example of the ideal face for women.
Mom raised us in a dizzying succession of homes: New York, Taiwan, Minnesota, and Illinois. Except for a year and a half in Taiwan, she had to master a new culture and language at the same time. I remember 3 episodes from childhood.
Once, in Taiwan, when I was about 5, I asked her why it was harder to go upstairs than downstairs. Mom was not about to start explaining gravity. “Cuz you’re lazy!” she snapped in Taiwanese.
Pun-twan. You did NOT want to hear Mom say pun-twan.
Fast forward 3 years, and I’m in 3rd grade in Illinois. I came home on the last day of school with a report card I was proud of and excitedly waved it to her in the kitchen. I was still so short that she knelt down to hug me.
Fast forward maybe 7 more years, and the twin newspaper boys who regularly biked through our back yard complimented me on how delicious Mom’s cooking smelled while they were trashing our lawn. We ate restaurant quality Asian cuisine all our childhoods.
This year, Mom needed caregivers, and they stepped up heroically. Eventually, her regular caregivers were Melanie on weekdays and Lani on weekends. That whole crew of caregivers was extraordinary. With their loving care, they gave Mom and us what nothing could buy: precious extra months. Our gratitude to them is immeasurable.
We also thank you, the residents, who befriended Mom in exercise classes, the events at Schumacher, and the Cove. She had less than two and a half years here, but you welcomed her into your hearts, as you have made clear to us in person. She knew she was loved. Thank you so much.
We just wish you'd seen what a force she remained to be reckoned with long into her 70s and 80s.
In her 70s, this is a story that dad would tell with pride, our parents were traveling through Italy on their own, when Mom spotted a pickpocket trying to lift Dad’s wallet on a bus. She punched him. That was Mom.
Now Mom is free of her illness and reunited with her parents, including her mother, whom she lost 43 years ago. That loss pained her deeply.
I like to think she is young and strong again: the girl who rode home from school in the back of ox-drawn farm carts, the stunner in the 1950s who turned Dad’s head in Lotung, the tireless mom and aspiring Californian who raised her kids in two megacities and two small towns in two countries.
Mom’s story here has ended. But our memories of and love for her will go on forever.