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James Daniel 'Bubba' Schoner
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For my Father, my dear friend, my helper, my childrens' 'GrandBubba':
James Daniel Schoner, 77 of Marion, Iowa passed away at Mercy Hospital on Mother’s Day, May 14, 2023 with family by his side. Born December 1st, 1945, James was primarily known as “Danny” or “Bubba”. We are saddened and heartbroken by this loss.
I want to thank everyone for all of their sentiments, condolences and overall support.
Our family is still trying to reach the goal for my father's final resting at Oak Hill Cemetery.
Please refer to March 4th, 2024 UPDATE below:
"Hello, I know it's been a moment since I updated the GFM for my dad, James Daniel 'Bubba' Schoner. The last time I immediately updated his information was right before or shortly following I went to actually fulfill the Brosh Chapel, Funeral Services Home, invoice for (approximately) $2400 and recieve my father's ashes."
I'd like to mention below what people have said about my father and left for him online at;
Brosh Chapel Obituary/Dedication to James Daniel "Bubba" Schoner...People have mentioned;
“ Bubba was as kind and welcoming as they come. He always had a smile for everyone. Great guy and will surely be missed….“
“ Bubble was someone who never let obstacles get in his way. He always had a beautiful smile and a warm hug for anyone. His family meant a lot to him and they did a wonderful job of taking care of him when he needed it. “
“ What a tribute to Dan to be remembered for being kind and loving and caring for both animals and especially for people. “
“ Danny loved his family dearly, and although he struggled through his life with a hearing loss, it never stopped him for working hard and showing kindness to others. “
“ Bubba was one of my all-time favorites. “
Those of you who knew my father already know he was 97-98% deaf. He wore a very expensive, 50+ year old hearing aid (cause we couldn't afford the $1500-3000+ to replace it (with a refurbished one cause they DON'T make that (type) new anymore). It was analog, more powerful, and enhanced his hearing from about 2-3% to 20-30%.
One of his primary ways of communicating was reading lips...yes my dad could read lips! One wonders, maybe he could have helped the Hawkeye football/basketball teams at times (last weekend against Penn State football team, maybe?), whom he loved so dearly, by 'foretelling' what the other team's coaches were planning!! LOL!
But, imagine if you could, how could a person communicate with a deaf person who read lips, DURING COVID, with wearing masks!?...
He did best with the limited amount of hearing he had, coupled with reading lips. So to a large degree, especially with covered and muffled voices it was unfortunately more difficult and sad thru COVID, besides the precautions with him having cancer.
One of the ways he and I (and others) communicated, was thru email, texting, and an app called Talk-to-the-Deaf App (simply a Talk-To-Text application, downloaded on his phone), which helped my dad and actually gave him a slightly better quality of life until everything became more difficult, including his seeing and hearing.
My Dad graduated from Washington High School in 1964 and stayed connected with his loyal classmates. He later earned an AAS Degree from Kirkwood Community College in Cedar Rapids. He also worked in landscaping and as a dedicated custodian for the University of Iowa spanning 25 years.
My Dad loved animals, nature, walking his dogs, and being with family. He seldom ever complained, respected all people and life, and was endeared by many with his pleasant nature and gracious smile. In the words of his son-in-laws’ family, he was inspirational, kind, caring, and loving.
He was a lifelong Hawkeye fan and loved to recount his visits with Hayden Fry who on occasion stopped by the Pleasant View Lodge, in North Liberty. This was also known as “The Lodge”. It was a diner, tavern, and small apartment complex, where Danny lived for nearly 30 years. My dad knew the importance of communication, connection, and friendship so well, that when Hayden Fry stopped by, my dad never held conversation with him about the Iowa Hawkeye Football Team. The coach told my dad one day that he enjoyed visiting there and talking with my dad because, as many others always asked about or spoke about (to Hayden Fry) how the Iowa Hawkeye Football Team was doing, that he (my dad) never did. He responded to the coach by telling him he didn't think always talking about 'work' all the time with someone would be a very pleasant experience!
My father was beloved by and ‘parented’ many pets throughout his life. Boss was a neighbor's dog, he taught to fetch a rock from the woods surrounding the area. He’d sometimes ‘bet’ people (including Hayden Fry) that Boss could return a rock marked with an “X”, which Danny would heave deep into the woods. No matter how long it took, Boss found it and brought it back to Danny, every time! He co-adopted with us; Comet, Zoey, Silver, Fred, George, and Evie, a ‘service cat’, who saw “Bubba” as ‘her person’.
When my dad was very young, he & his brother were abandoned by his biological parents & were left alone in an apartment for days, in California. The neglect they believe ultimately lead to my dad becoming 98% deaf a few years later. They were discovered by neighbors and CPS were involved. They ended up in Iowa where they were adopted by 2 wonderful, selfless, people who only wanted the best for these young boys from the Cedar Rapids Orphanage Home across the street from Clark Field, Coe College, in the 50's. His brother would eventually leave to find and live with his biological parents in California and Washington State. Despite all this, my dad is the most loving & caring man.
As he got older and for multiple reasons, such as being profoundly deaf, relying on a low level of hearing with expensive hearing aids, and since he lived a distance away in North Liberty, because he once lived in Marion & loved it, and as he wanted to be closer to us & his grandchildren, and we to him, we decided to have him come live with us in 2002, when I was pregnant with my 2nd child.
He was as loving of a father as he was a grandfather and a person. He got the nick-name “Bubba”, when my oldest couldn’t yet pronounce Grandpa. She reached out her arms for him when he came to visit one day when she was around 1 year old, and babbled ‘baba’. He was so thrilled she personally addressed him with an endearing term, which he could hear and ‘make out’, that’s what we went with! : ) … BUBBA!
In Feb of 2014, my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 Multiple Myeloma Bone Cancer, which was overlooked by his family physician twice in 2013 when he went to see him for these evasive symptoms. The first year when chemo didn’t work, we tried a bone marrow transplant which benefitted him until 2019, when he came out of remission.
Despite his cancer, and/or when he was feeling well/in remission, he was very independent & able to care for himself & his situation to a certain extent, with us in the background helping. But throughout the years he directly fought cancer, and, the last couple years, we were willingly his primary care-givers & advocates throughout the years he battled this disease, until he passed.
Even though Bubba’s passing was not unexpected, it was sudden in the sense that he was scheduled to have an antigen that may have relieved symptoms, produced healing in part, and may have extended his life if it weren’t for an acute health event that denied him that chance, so we do not have the funds we need to cover the funeral expenses and everything that comes with that which one would want to provide for a loving father...
Unfortunately, our entire immediate family have struggled with numerous chronic health issues and lasting conditions (epilepsy, asthma, thyroid disorder, myopia, cranial-synostosis) surgeries, procedures, physical accidents, emergency occurrences, and, 2 unprovoked dog attacks (on Bubba and my youngest) and just plain down on our luck with the overwhelming, uncontrollable events these past several years, not to mention COVID and Derecho.
We have had to make the unbearable decisions/choices of what we can and can’t afford between the mortgage, food, car repairs, home maintenance/repair, Derecho damage,…and, my father’s funeral services/expenses, including, but not limited to; burial, a headstone, urn, cremation, etc and a service/celebration of life at Brosh Chapel, who have been extremely patient with us.
The amount we are graciously requesting (not including tax) in which I’ve indicated below, would be to put my father to rest, or at the very least, bring his ashes home in a beautiful, and thoughtfully chosen urn.
Therefore, in lieu of gifts or flowers, Bubba’s Family requests that you direct memorials in his memory to Brosh Chapel under his name, or to the GoFundMe (https://gofund.me/19c82f4b) for Bubba, to help with funeral services, burial, services, celebration of life, and/or a visitation which will possibly be set at a future date. Anything donated will be used to offset those specific funeral costs then anything above that will be allocated as follows:
***Any donations beyond our goal will be used to:
1) Give him a larger headstone
2) Enhance the celebration of life/visitation with photos/slideshow, decorations, refreshments, snacks etc. and/or
3) Given to charity which helps rescue, care for, provide hospice for, and for adopting animals.
***Approximately $150-$500 for an urn.
***Approximately $2,400 for the funeral services/expenses mentioned above…but with the generous thoughts of family and friends we received approximately $500, which takes it down to $1900, but would be an additional $500 for a celebration of life/service at Brosh, specifically quoted to me by Brosh Chapel.
***Approximately $2,500, on the lower end, for the burial expenses at Oak Hill Cemetery, and up to $3,600, as mentioned with a possible 'celebration of life' in the future, quoted above, separately, as well as a couple other expenses, taxes, amenities (at 'Celebration of Life", maybe a slightly larger headstone if able, etc) .
Oak Hill is where some of my maternal and paternal family are buried, and, we are so very fortunate that the plot (separate from the burial expenses), was ‘willed’ to us from my dad's, Walters’ side of his family, some of whom my dad will be laid with/next to.
We greatly appreciate your time to read about the great man James Daniel was. Thank you so much to those who have taken the time to read our story, and especially to those who felt they could help. And, if you are able to share wherever possible, please do, we would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much to everyone in advance for your support.
GoFundMe:
James "Bubba" Daniel Schoner
https://www.gofundme.com/f/ja…
**Again, anything donated will be used to offset funeral costs. Any donations beyond our goal will be used to: 1) Give him a larger headstone 2) Enhance the celebration of life/visitation with photos/slideshow, decorations, refreshments, snacks etc. and/or 3) Given to charity for animals. Thank you so much to everyone in advance for your support ❤️ **
I thought I'd update with some pictures of him. You now, I really appreciate being able to share him & his story and for people to know how kind & caring he was, it can be very cathartic. Thank you. ❤️
That's the 3-wheeler we got him.
Then, he's eating supper at a banquet at Living Center West where my g-ma was.
And, yes, that is my dad with BOWZER!...Google Shanana, you'll see who it is.
Updates (5)
March 4th, 2024
by Jo Murschon, Organizer
Hello, I know it's been a moment since I updated the GFM for my dad, James Daniel 'Bubba' Schoner. The last time I immediately updated his information was right before or shortly following I went to actually fulfill the Brosh Chapel, Funeral Services Home, invoice for (approximately) $2400 and recieve my father's ashes.
I left an update, being forever grateful for all the help, and I temporarily adjusted the original amount of the $6,000 goal (which had included both the $2400 invoice, along with the prospect of eventually having him buried at Oak Hill Cemetery) to $3,600, for all to see the remaining amount for Oak Hill Cemetery.
In order to graciously notify anyone able and willing to assist, I will still request from whomever can help with this, for his final resting place at Oak Hill Cemetery, with the costs involved that I specified originally and below, and return the original total goal back to the $6000, with the approximate $3600 is still being requested for the final burial at Oak Hill Cemetery.
Thank you again for all who have generously assisted and believe me, our family is eternally grateful.
$1,475 raised of the $6,000 goal from 12 donations, has been raised.
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