My most sincere condolences to all of Jimi's immediate family that I personally know well; Nancy, Julie, Brent, Tajuana, and those extended members whose names escape me, but are no less important (I'm just horrible with names).
It would take 100+ pages to cover the last 47 years in detail, so there's a ton of omissions here...
The time and location were perfect. 1976, San Fernando Valley, my first day of 8th grade at Byrd Jr High. There was an incident on the PE field that I refused to stand-down from, Jimi came up to me introducing himself and Scott Spencer, asking if "those assholes were fucking with me?" After an affirming "fuck yeah", they both immediately took my side and prepared for battle, no other questions asked. We were then corralled by faculty and taken to the school office, where we were informed that we were being dismissed for the day. Nancy (Jimi's mom) came and got us. Apparently we had almost started a race-riot.
We could've easily turned out Manson notorious, fortunately we didn't. Here's the Reader's Digest highlights:
We were artists and skaters, those were our first common bonds. We quickly became known as the "Toxic Trio"...Jimi with super-charisma, me a critical thinker, and Scott with vision. Three of a perfect pair. Scott moved away soon after that and we were relabeled the "Toxic Twins". We then aligned our common passions; Skating pools and pipes, rocking out, chasing tail, and partying until the sun went down the next day or so... we became absolutely inseparable for years.
Then came the girls..."moisties" as Jimi was fond of saying. And as Nancy had mentioned previously, everything changed after that. I started dating Kim McCraney in '81, while Jimi played the field. Melody showed up with Scott Spencer one night in '84, Jimi instantly stole her heart with a wink and that sheepish grin/smile he was known for...oh and he did it standing in a doorway, while Melody was in a car across the street. Melody actually went home that night and broke-up with her then boyfriend. Jimi had that effect on most people. He didn't even have to try. If he actually had to try, he'd pour it on so thick that you'd become powerless from his charm, irrespective of his true intentions, and regardless if you realized them or not. That same charm and his gift with the ladies almost got us killed three separate times during the decade of our wild adventures. But those are other stories for other times.
We've lived in North Hollywood, Van Nuys, Sepulveda, and at some point we lived out on a dirt road in Northridge (superior st), with 3 other Jim's - me, Jim Hobbes, Jim Tibbs, Jim Westerman, and Jim Wells. We lived with biker gangs, drug-trafficker's, and another time we lived at Vanowen & Kester with 3 crack-addicts.
There was the Humboldt connection, the Venezuela connection, the Louisiana connection, the Missouri connection, and the psycho-priest Stan Adams. More guns, more ammo, more motorcycles, and more crazy stories for other times.
Music-wise there was our the first go-nowhere band Afflicted - more of a lesson of what not to do in a band then an actual band, we made a bunch of noise in the garage for a while. Then came the the musically-influential period where we had jam sessions with Greg Rolie over at Sound City (with Craig Chaquico and Ross Valory), and in Burbank with Randy Rhodes and Rudy Sarzo. We met Paul Marciano (Guess) who introduced us to Lindy Goetz, he was the manager for a strange band called What Is This? We hung out with Lindy and he introduced us to the band he managed, 9 months later they changed their name to Red Hot Chili Peppers. They held super-epic after-parties following Wong's West shows, and for two years we never missed a party. We got extremely deep musical enlightenment from Willie Bobo - changing our lives forever as we then went different directions artistically; Jimi preferring the edginess and lifestyle of Thrash/Speed metal (Savatage/Motorhead), whereas I began studying Calypso/Flamenco styles (Chick Correa/Return to Forever) and Funk (Parliament Funkadelic/James Brown/Tower of Power/RHCP). We performed together last at Sound City Studios in Van Nuys, CA with Greg, Craig and Ross in 1984 during the production of Greg's eponymous solo album...and while our individual parts never made it on the album, I'd love to believe that Greg or his wife may still have those tapes.
It was largely due to those influences that we started to grow distant around that time. I had become entrenched in studying, world-traveling and working, Jimi with continued partying and trying to get Hemloch launched. Those that knew us closely at the time could cite other forces; but we came to the decision that those events/names/places shall remain buried. That was a very, very bad period in life for both of us, as well as our families & friends... All.100%.Because.Of.Us. (we mutually ceased mentioning those times around 1999)
Our children kept us grounded...well they kept me grounded, Jimi... semi-grounded. He loved his children, not so much their momma's, but he loved his kids like nothing you could ever imagine. Give him the chance and that's all the conversation would entail. He had grand plans for when things "finally get straightened out".
Though we grew distant and our lives took radical different directions, we never truly grew apart. We talked often and still collaborated musically. Jimi would create a track, send it to me for the drum parts, I would send it back with further rhythm suggestions, etc. Jimi would get a new DAW and send me the software license to run on my end. He taught me about FX-inserts, I taught him mastering. Among Jimi's possessions are certainly tracks and sound bites that we have worked together on over the last twenty years, whenever he settled in his current location and took a break from the daily-crazy that became his later life.
As Jimi's life turned even crazier, and his health began to deteriorate largely due to that crazy, the communications became more sparse, until one day he stopped calling altogether. Calls, emails, and texts to him would go unreturned. He wasn't communicating with any of our mutual contacts. We were all sure something fatal had happened. Then suddenly out of nowhere 6 years later, a phone call..."I'm back bitches!" he would often proclaim, explaining his absence over the last whatever-length of his crazy life he'd been gone.
This cycle would continue for another 3-5 years, then Jimi would go silent again.
We reunited for the last time on 26-MAY-2023. He had the surgeries, which went well despite him (his words), he was healing and doing great...walking, dancing, riding, things were definitely looking up.
Jimi, you changed my life, I can't imagine it any other way. You left lasting impressions everywhere you went, on everything and everyone you touched. I'm missing you dearly my brother. RIP. 💔 😢
I'm still waiting for that call..."I heard you missed me bitches, I'm back!"