Anh Hung has been in my life for about 45 years. When I was a boy, he would always correct me when I told people that he was my brother-in-law. In his mind, we were just brothers - not “in law”. That’s how much he loved my family. It was unconditional love.
I spent the night with him and Chi Vinh many times in their apartment when they first got married in Tulsa. I even spent the whole summer with them when they first moved to Angleton. In hindsight, I was 10 years old that summer and think they were just practicing parenting on me so they could get it right with Julie. So I will take a lot of the credit for how well Julie has turned out.
Anh Hung and I did a lot of things together - just us two. I was obviously his favorite in my family of 7 other siblings. He taught me how to fish and play tennis. That summer in Angleton, we played tennis almost every day. Anh Hung bought me my first tennis racquet. He was like the John Daley of tennis, running and hitting that tennis ball with a cigarette in his mouth. To his credit, I’m still playing tennis now and still love the game. In fact, all 4 of my own kids play tennis.
He also took me fishing a lot, but I never acquired a liking to it. I was not as patient as he was. He was a serious fisherman with one of those extra-long poles. I remember one time we were fishing at the Texas gulf when he cast his line and the pyramid-shaped bigger-than-normal sinker hit me in the head. My scalp bled, but he was quick to act and used his military survival skills by putting nicotine from his cigarette on my wound which stopped the bleeding.
That summer Anh Hung and I formed a bond that I never had with anyone in my family. We hung out more than any of my other brothers and sisters. I will cherish those memories forever.
He was the first of many things for me. On one of the days that I spent the night at his apartment as a little boy, he saw me playing with his radio alarm clock. He knew I liked it so he told me just to take it home. He was very generous. He also bought my first bicycle which I used to ride to school for many years. Not long after he bought that bike for me, someone stole it! He actually drove me around the neighborhood and found it in a neighbor’s garage on the next street over. He confronted the homeowner and learned that the neighbor’s son stole it so he was able to get it back for me. I was scared that he was going to get into a fight with this white guy twice his size. His calm and gentleness was all that was necessary. In fact, I have never seen him mad or yell. In many ways, he was my hero.
Not everything he did was perfect. He let me drink alcohol for the first time. We played blackjack, and the loser would have to take a shot of Cognac. It tasted like cough syrup, and I was pretty proud that I could handle it. However, after 3 shots, I quickly got sick and threw up. I was only 9 years old! Like I said, he was practicing parenting so hopefully Julie did not have to experience that. I did learn quickly my distaste for alcohol and rarely drink as an adult. Perhaps that was his plan.
Anh Hung was a humble man. He was kind and patient. These are the best virtues God looks for in all of us, so I know he will be in Heaven. I have learned many things from him. He and Chi Vinh raised an amazing daughter. I am fortunate that he was a part of my life.
I love Anh Hung very much and will miss him dearly. I will always pray for him, and I know he will pray for me. I look forward to seeing him in the heavenly kingdom of God.
Eternal rest grant unto Anh Hung, O Lord,
and let Your perpetual light shine upon him.
May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed
rest in peace.
St Dominic, pray for Anh Hung.