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Frederick T. Bail

Waimanalo, HI

March 27, 1944 - January 17, 2019

Mar 27, 1944 - Jan 17, 2019

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Rena Cuizon- Garcia

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Lisa Bail

Rena Cuizon- Garcia

I thought of you today Fred, even before I realized it was your birthday. I had an interview today and I can hear your voice already and what you would tell me. How lucky I was to have you believing in me. Always sharing your magic, the very essence and light that gravitates people towards you. You continue to inspire me. I continue to pass down your words of wisdom to my daughters and those around me. You once wrote about experiencing divine awareness on your special beach and feeling overwhelming love and compassion and I can tell you, that is what I still feel when I think of you.

Hau’oli La hanau I loko o na aina a pau

(Happy Birthday in the heavens)

Rena

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Lisa Bail

Rena Cuizon- Garcia

Fred shared this version with me when it first came out so in honor of his 81st birthday today, I’ll share the link:

http://biggeekdad.com/2016/04…

Thank you Fred for your love, your kindness, your friendship, your aloha. You are forever missed but always in our hearts.

Aloha nui loa,

Rena

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Caroline Bail

Thank you Rena - I really needed that today. Been thinking of him all day today - and now I'm thinking... Read more Thank you Rena - I really needed that today. Been thinking of him all day today - and now I'm thinking of him AND Hawai'i. ... Read more Thank you Rena - I really needed that today. Been... Read more

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Tricia Howard

Five years ago I was in India and received the unbelievable news. I grew up across the street from Freddie. He was my babysitter and one of the first giants in my life! He was so funny, patient and really loved to read to me. I wasn’t good at sports in the grove like the other kids so he gave me a whistle and made me the score keeper…When I mover to Hawaii in 1979 he welcomed me to his home and I don’t think he ever knew I had a big crush on him…always my friend…

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George Ezell

1974, Ithaca, NY, USA

Fred played the guitar: On my 33rd birthday Fred gave me a choice: He would buy me a guitar, Or He would take me to Syracuse NY for a BB King and Bobby Blue Bland Concert. I chose the Concert. We had a great time. At the present I am 81 years old. And I have to guitars which I have yet to learn to play Fred was a great support for me during some really difficult times:

Fond Memories: George Ezell

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Jeff Bail

Skouge Jaqmes

I appreciate this reminder. "Fred, you are missed!"

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Jimmy Nguyen

A teacher of education we’ll never forget because he knew why and how to teach beyond mental limits.

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Jeff Bail

Ruth Streveler

I still can't believe that Fred is no longer on this planet. After 5 years, it still seems so odd that I will never have the chance to see that smile and talk with him.

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George Ezell

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George Ezell

I meet Fred and Jeanie. In ithaca ny when he was working on Doctor’s degree He was a most kind heart this... Read more I meet Fred and Jeanie. In ithaca ny when he was working on Doctor’s degree He was a most kind heart this kind soul will be remembered... Read more I meet Fred and Jeanie. In ithaca ny when he was working... Read more

Rena Cuizon- Garcia

I was privileged to have Fred as my mentor and dear friend. He shined brightest for those in need of guidance and he always had a way of knowing just what to say in the moment that will stick. He taught me to be the same for my students and now my daughters. My daughter suffers from extreme anxiety at times so we created a wall of 3-D butterflies all flying in formation; taking a page from Fred’s wisdom on naturally having butterflies in your stomach and how we just need to channel it for its goodness. What a beautiful reminder on my wall of how lucky I was to have known Fred. My heart and prayers are with Fred’s family…may he always stay in our hearts.

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Rena Cuizon- Garcia

Fred’s formation of butterflies

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Liz Baroi

The "Fred-Factor" lives on! I talk about this extraordinary mentor to my psych students, each semester.

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Javade Chaudhri

Fred was somebody I admired greatly because he had an infectious passion. I am sorry I lost touch. The last time I saw him was meeting him for dinner in Honolulu decades ago.

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Elizabeth Baroi

I think about Fred so often. Everytime I am lecturing on the "HIP" (human information processing) model, it is always about FRED. The BEST.

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Darrell Lum

That smile. Warm, inviting, loving. Thank you for the post.

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Lisa Bail

Fred's smile.

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Caroline Bail

Thanks! Thanks! Thanks!

Darrell Lum

That smile. Warm, inviting, and loving. Thank you for the post. That smile. Warm, inviting, and loving. Thank you for the post. That smile. Warm, inviting, and loving. Thank you for... Read more

Caroline Bail

We in Fred's family have been so glad to see these recent memories on the second anniversary of his passing. He certainly lives on with us, still every day, and it's not surprising to know he remains with many of his friends as well. We are grateful for your love and support.
Carrie Bail, Fred's sister.

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Lisa Bail

Echoing Carrie's thanks, we are grateful to all of you. Echoing Carrie's thanks, we are grateful to all of you. Echoing Carrie's thanks, we are grateful to all of ... Read more

Elizabeth Baroi

Fred had a profound impact on those of us who were his students. His passion for human learning was contagious.... Read more Fred had a profound impact on those of us who were his students. His passion for human learning was contagious. I miss him terribly.... Read more Fred had a profound impact on those of us who were ... Read more

Skouge Jaqmes

Fred Bale was a letter writer. He and I became fast friends in post-retirement. Fred lived in a humble ... Read more Fred Bale was a letter writer. He and I became fast friends in post-retirement. Fred lived in a humble backyard cottage in Waimanalo... Read more Fred Bale was a letter writer. He and I became fast... Read more

Caroline Bail

Thank you, Jim for this little snippet. Fred did record a number of sessions with our brother Dick (who... Read more Thank you, Jim for this little snippet. Fred did record a number of sessions with our brother Dick (who passed less than six... Read more Thank you, Jim for this little snippet. Fred did ... Read more

Larry Test

Fred was such a wonderful friend for so many years and will continue to bring fond memories to my mind for so many more!

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Rena Cuizon- Garcia

2006, One of the many trails on Oahu

Fred sharing his love of the island

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Donna Quon

Ironically, I texted my friend today after reading an article on the Capitol rioters' clothing & symbols on their clothing and wondered if there is any link to a topic Fred encouraged me to research back in 90s dealing with at-risk boys. Back then, there was a lot of talk about the girls failing schools but not a lot on boys. In my text to my friend, I told her my mentor encouraged me to look into at-risk boys. I still think about Fred every now and then just as I did today, and I miss him so much. And yes, he made me music CDs too.

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Rod Todorovich

2005, Waimanalo Beach, HI, USA

Fred giving away Sueli to husband Rod

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Rod Todorovich

Sueli, my wonderful spouse of 15+ years now, was given away by Fred on 19 Aug. 2005. Sueli's father was already... Read more Sueli, my wonderful spouse of 15+ years now, was given away by Fred on 19 Aug. 2005. Sueli's father was already deceased and no... Read more Sueli, my wonderful spouse of 15+ years now, was given... Read more

Lois Yamauchi

The things we learned from Fred pop up all the time. My sons were home for the holidays. Fred knew Zac and Coe since they were born. On Zac's last day here, he said, "Let's go to Fred's beach"--meaning Waimanalo. We parked where Fred told us to, so as to avoid being identified as outsiders. Yesterday, my husband Tracy and I were driving to the Ward area. At Pensacola and Nehoa, I said, "Turn left here. This is the way Fred said to go if you want to get to Ward the fastest." Tracy and I reflected on how helpful Fred was in big and small ways. He was a good person. I was lucky to have known him.

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Rodney Porter

Fred was,I think, two years behind me at Bowdoin. I didn't know him too well there, but I liked him. After his beautiful passing I felt much closer as I heard, read, and felt the wonderful tributes. We are not good at seeing someone's spirituaity when we are youngsters in college. Somehow, somewhere, sometime Fred also gave me a music mix. I still have it. Was he at Lisa and Wai's wedding in MA? I'm practicing butterfly formations.

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Rena Cuizon- Garcia

A wise man named Fred once said, “It’s ok to have butterflies in your stomach, so long as they’re flying in formation.” How helpful this has been for me just this week, coincidentally the week of your birthday. Your legacy lives on my dear friend. Me ke Aloha Pumehana, Rena

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Caroline Bail

Happy Birthday, Fred: you would have been 75 today.
Still miss you with all of my heart.

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