Dorothy Lou Duffer

It is with great honor; I announce. On December 13, 2025, at 3:14 p.m., Miss Dottie Duffer ascended into heaven.

The most loving of family surrounded her, and I held her in my loving arms as she found her sweet rest.

Dot lived her life fully.

She laughs a laugh so contagious it makes the entire room join in.

Her smile lit my path for 24 beautiful years. It will continue to do so.

Our only regret was not meeting 40 years sooner. (This Time)

Dot is the kindest, most gentle soul many of us have ever known. 

A lot of you knew her in business, although you know it never stopped there.

You became her friend and her chosen family.

She drew people to her. She soothed many broken hearts.

You felt Dot enter a room. Her aura embraced her beauty, a true lady.

High Heels to wading boots and a fly rod in 30.1 seconds.

Business suit to a glowing orange vest and her deer rifle at 4:am.

She would call me from her daddy's stand and whisper to me about how damned cold she was,

and about the 6 point she had in her sight that just refused to stand up out of the snowdrift for her to take the shot.

Music was her muse. Standing behind her, Ellie Minnette drum was her shining glory.

She literally could shuck oysters faster than a machine and did it elegantly.

The mention of a McRib sent her into a tither.

No matter when or where she heard "Take Me Home, West Virginia", she cried.  A LOT!

The motion of her dancing ruled the ocean's tide.

Daughter, Mother, Aunt, Grandma Dot, Partner, Sister, Devoted Friend.

A savior to me, she taught me True Love. For that, the gratitude will never end.

She is right here with us and always only a whisper away.

As folks are hearing of Sweet Dottie's passing, the resounding question is, where are the services, and how can we send flowers or a tribute?

She wants a very simple celebration on the beach, at which time we will cast Dottie, Christi, and Steve's ashes into the waves off the South Carolina coast, which she grew to love so dearly. We then tell stories of a life well-loved.

In truth, she wanted us to put her on a Viking ship, set her afloat with flaming arrows, and a 5-day party while we all chanted Valhalla.

But alas, there simply is no permit for that.

We are aiming for March/April 2026. An announcement will follow the first of the year.

Dottie had been in a challenging situation surrounding her health for quite a while.

We knew she was fragile, but of course, we did not know it would come to us as quickly a last Saturday.

Dot and I spoke a wee bit about how she knew her community would reach out lovingly as they heard of her passing.

She asked if I wanted a bunch of flowers, I quickly responded, I Absolutely do not.

We let that conversation go for the day and just didn't get back around to it.

Last night, as we sat around our living room, which had become a hospital room.

We laughed and cried, and we came up with this to keep her Love Legacy going as long as possible.

You are all aware of Dot's heartbreak concerning the loss of her children, Christi and Steve.

You most certainly remember the group she founded in Morgantown, LOSS, Love Over Sad Situations.

Although Dottie's last few years didn't allow her to be as physically involved in her outreach.

She continued to fuel her passion, surrounding the need for compassion and love for those

suffering from grief and depression.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to what we are calling "Dottie's Dreams".

We, as her stewards, will continue to find those in our community who need help from a soft heart to cry on, to medicines that help heal.

With enough support, we may just be able to give her a fireworks show that will equal the one she had for

Christi, when we celebrated her life a little over 19 years ago.

Dot loves you all. She is the Essence of Joy.

AHO

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