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Thinking about Daniel today. Can’t believe it’s been two years already.
Candles for Dan on 5 December…
Candles for Dan on 5 December 2025 at Samye-Ling.
Happy Dan Day to all who celebrate.  Raising a glass to the man who combined being infuriating, kind, awful, funny, and ridiculous in every minute he was with us.  Here's to you, much loved and much missed Dan. xx
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Tomorrow, the 5th of December 2025, would have been Daniel’s 49th birthday. For those of you who met him later in life: Dan and Abby attended Market Nursery (Hackney), Gayhurst Primary School, Stoke Newington School, and Hackney Sixth Form College together and were simply known as “the twins.”

The following is from Abby, Dan’s twin:

“It is with tremendous sadness that I must face my birthday again without my brilliant twin.

“This year a thousand butter lamps will be lit in Dan’s honour on his 49th birthday in a Tibetan monastery in the Scottish highlands.

“I am so grateful that Dan was my twin. I am 12 minures older than him. To grow up with him was an adventure. He was incredibly mischievous and he made me laugh so much.

“His mind was light years ahead. I miss Dan being here every day. It was comforting to know that wherever he was in this world we always shared our birthday.

“I take solace that parts of Dan live on in his niece and newphews. Kunphel has so much of Dan’s bravery, resilience, and perseverance. Dan was over the moon to go to Kunphel’s army graduation. Dan was the first person to come to see Kunphel at Homerton hospital the day after he was born. Kunphel misses being able to talk to Dan.

“Tseyang shares Dan’s natural ability with languages and their unyielding love of learning. Also like Dan, she has a quick tongue and a great sense of humour. She wants to make Dan proud.

“In Kai I see Dan’s love of planets and dinosaurs. Kai has a natural inquiring mind much like Dan. Kai is incredibly tender and kind and he is especially fond of cats much like Dan.

“Dan should be here eating chocolate cake and drinking margaritas with Rachel. He should be here to give advice to Kunphel, to attend Tseyang’s graduation, and to get to know Kai.

“I would like to request that people please remember Dan if you can at 15:40pm on December 5th.

“Dan’s memory is and will always be a blessing.”

Daniel died eighteen months ago today and I am thinking of him and all the many people who loved him: his twin sister, Abby, his niece, Tseyang, his nephew, Kunphel, his cousin, Robyn, his beloved wife, Rachel, and his many friends, especially Mel, Caoimhe, John, and Stephen.

I have this morning published a new post on my blog: We all miss you, Dan.

carla-toney.com

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At 2:00 pm on Sunday the 27th of April there will be a Buddhist ceremony to honour Daniel and his life at the London Buddhist Centre in Tower Hamlets, 51 Roman Road, London E2.  This was previously announced for 3:00 pm, but it will now take place at 2:00 pm. All are welcome.  https://www.londonbuddhistcen… Contact: carla.toney@web.de
We will honour Dan's 1st deat…
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We will honour Dan's 1st death anniversary on Palm Sunday, 13 April 2025, at Paroquia Porciuncula de Sant'Anna at the 11h00 mass. You are invited to join us in prayers and memories in person or follow this live link. Feel free to add Dan's name in your own parish Sunday service intentions.
There will be a Buddhist Commemoration of Daniel’s life on Sunday, 27 April 2025 at 3:00 pm at the London Buddhist Centre, 52 Roman Road in Bethnal Green, London E2. Dharmacharini Maitreyi, a senior Buddhist teacher of Triratna will lead it. All are welcome.          See: https://www.londonbuddhistcen…
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Its still hard to believe that Dan is gone.  I still find myself wanting to pick my phone up to call him on a regular basis just to give each other a hard time.  I'm sure I'm not the only one but i really miss this loveable asshole!!!
Yes, Mel. Indeed after that 1…
2020, Punta Cana, Dominican Republic
Yes, Mel. Indeed after that 16min feast he mentioned that he ate all the cake at once just because it was chocolate (and I don't like it). He did save the champagne though.  Dan has never shied away from celebrating his birthday. He did so love being pampered and getting extra attention. After a few years in the US, he would be offended if he didn't get a complimentary drink or dessert.  A pina colada was always welcomed. The bigger the umbrella, the better.
Missing Dan in particular tod…
2023, Dubai
Missing Dan in particular today, as everyone will be. Last year, he sent me these two birthday photos *sixteen minutes* apart. When I asked "Was that literally in the last 16 minutes, that devastation?", he replied "Argh. So much for my diet day." His diet day!!! Missing him and his appetite and his incredible ridiculousness very much. xx
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Dan and I found a sickly abandoned kitten in the streets. We took it home with us and Dan cupped it in his hands and held it next to his heart as it died.

A woman with learning difficulties used to wander around the streets near our flat. She had been abandoned by her mother as a baby, raised in a care home, and gone to a school for children with learning difficulties. She was not able to work and spent her social security money on rent and food and bills. She was often lonely and sometimes she ran short at the end of the week so she came to our flat for a cup of tea (and I packed a food parcel for her). One time she came to the door when I was not home. Dan fixed her a cup of tea and had a cup of tea and talked with her.

When Dan was in Brazil he designed extremely complicated and valuable compuater programmes that could be used to evaluate medical results Instead of selling them, he put them on the internet open source.

In 2017 when I broke my leg and needed two operations and a 10 inch titanium plate, Dan invited me to come and join Rachel and him in New York and stay there until I recovered. (I have extreme fear of heights and have not flown for twenty years.)

When Kunphel wanted to join him in the US, Dan and Rachel were happy to take him in till he found his feet there.

Dan was not only brilliant, he was kind and generous as well.

Tomorrow, the 5th of December 2024, would have been Daniel’s 48th birthday and we will all miss him terribly. Rachel will miss her beloved husband and partner with whom she had planned and hoped to share her life. Abby will miss her precious twin brother, with whom she shared every day of the first sixteen years of her life. Tseyang and Kunphel will miss their beloved uncle, who was more like a father than an uncle to them.

Although we are not Cherokee, I often told Daniel that he was Tseyang’s and Kunphel’s “Cherokee father.” Dan’s heritage was Chickamaugan. Chickamaugans lived on the western slopes of the Appalachian Mountains (more isolated from colonial invasion and bitterly cold) and spoke a different dialect than the Cherokee Nation living on the Atlantic Seaboard. In 1776 they seceded from the Cherokee Nation in order to fight against the American seizure of their lands, and over the course of twenty years they evolved from a little group of Overhill Cherokees into a multitribal confederacy that included Indigenous people from many other First Nations, whites and Blacks. They signed treaties with Great Britain and Spain, After close to twenty years of guerilla warfare against the United States, they finally signed a peace treaty with the U.S. government in 1794. And Dan cetainly had the Chickamaugan spirit. Daniel dealt effectitvely with the statue of Margaret Thatcher that was on public display in Oxford. He also dealt with the National Front which planned, before Dan’s action, to come and speak at the Oxford Union. Well done, Dan!

Dan was, indeed, the “Cherokee father” of Tseyang and Kunphel. Among traditional Cherokees and their offshoot, the Chickamaugans, the husband of a woman was NOT the father of her children. A matrilineal society, the brother of a woman was the father of her children instead.

And Dan was proud as a peacock, or a Cherokee father, when Kunphel “graduated” from boot camp and joined the U.S. Army’s Tenth Mountain Division. And I am sure he would have been just as proud of Tseyang who completed a Foundation Year at Cambridge in 2023-2024 (in the college next-door to Dan’s former college) and is now studying anthropology at the University of Bristol. (Cambridge does not offer anthropology.).

Quite appropriately, I dedicated my book to Dan. In the first line of the Acknowledgments on page 483, I wrote, “To my sister and our children, who have been as affected by this history as I have been.” The book is dedicated to my sister, Nancy Hilles, and to Abby, Dan, Ryan and Robyn. I often said, “Daniel was a gentleman. He let his sister go first.” Abby Mae Tennessee Hughes was born at 15:28 and Dan twelve minutes later, at 15:40 on 5 December 1976 in the Salvation Army Hospital on Lower Clapton Road, East London. They weighed three kilos each.

Daniel had two namesakes. Sergeant Daniel Blodgett, a soldier in the Continental Army of George Washington. Daniel Blodgett died in a Brititsh prisoner of war camp in New York in 1776. And Dan was proud that he was able to join the Sons of the American Revolution as his direct descendant. And if anyone ever wants to see Daniel’s other namesake, Seth Toney, you can simply turn to page 211 in my book, Multitribal Indians in Search of No Man’s Land: The American Expansion and the Chickamaugans Between Resistance and Migration, published by the University of Vienna in 2023. Seth Toney led a wagon train from the southeastern United States to California, then turned around and went back again. Toney Canyon is between Graveyard Canyon and Starvation Canyon. In New Mexico.

Yes, Daniel’s youth was hard. Much of his life was not easy. One of his great aunts was enrolled as a member of the Cherokee Nation. Another married George Blue, a descendant of Blue Jacket, the great Shawnee chief. The Hughes and Toney families are connected to two of the greatest pan-Indian resistance leaders in US history (Blue Jacket and Tecumseh). And Daniel had their spirit. He overcame a hundred thousand hurdles, and a hundred thousand problems. He was the first person from his sixth form college in the poorest borough in England (at that time) to ever be granted a place at Oxford or Cambridge. Dan worked hard. His life was rich and full. He had a loving, devoted wife. He had a twin sister who treasured him and will treasure him till the day she dies. And his “Cherokee children” considered him their father and loved him beyond words.

We will all miss Dan tomorrow. Just as we all miss Dan today. And will miss Dan the day after tomorrow.

Carla Toney (formerly Carla Hughes, mother of Daniel Seth Toney Hughes)

Just in time for his 6-month …
Lady Margaret Hall, Norham Gardens, Oxford, UK
Just in time for his 6-month anniversary, Dan's obituary was published in the alumni journal for his Oxford college. Lady Margaret Hall. Hard to capture even 0.0001% of my/our wonderful enfant terrible of a friend in such a short tribute, but glad of the chance even just for this. xx (Divya - hope it's ok that I used your photo of Dan with the champagne bottle for this. It's such a lovely photo.)
Rachel, Paula and Gil reunite…
Family trip 6 months later.
Rachel, Paula and Gil reunited in remembrance, celebration and prayers. xx
6 months of remembrance. Pray…
Our Lady of the Immaculate Conception Cathedral, Leiria
6 months of remembrance. Prayers in Leiria. Que caminhe na luz eterna!
I loved Dan's sense of humour - something that we shared. When he was about seven, he told me, "I haven't got a memory. I've got a forgettery." One time when he was about ten, Dan and Will Atkinson (son of Paul Atkindson and Sheila Rowbotham, author of Hidden from History, a history of British women from the 17th century to 1930 from a Marxist point of view) and I spent the evening together in our flat on King Edward's Road. It was like three jugglers working together. We just kept cracking jokes and laughing. We must have laughed for hours. Later when I used to visit him in Cambridge when he was working on his doctoral dissertation, we used to go out to the pub together and have a wonderful time. I simply can't repeat the jokes that I enjoyed. They are simply too politically incorrect. And I used to ask Dan, when elections were coming up, what his take on the situation was and who he would vote for. I ask Abby, his twin sister, that as well. They shared far more than people outside the immediate family of 3 ever realized. And now I see Tseyang and Kai - and in them I can see Dan.
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